Yesterday, an old friend who had not been in contact for many days suddenly sent a message asking what I am doing now.
I said I am still doing my job in my hometown. The old friend said in a envious and helpless tone: "You are all good now, you are all bosses, you have houses and cars. I am still moving bricks on the construction site! Alas..."
After opening the topic, we both have one We chatted without a match, from some leisure anecdotes of the year to all kinds of helplessness nowadays.
talked for hours without knowing it.
It is obvious from his conversation that he is indeed mature and sensible when he is nearly forty years old. Have a deep understanding and insights into life and life.
I can’t help but tease him, "You’re really grown up now, and you’re more sensible."
He said, he’s all this age, there are old and young, can you still be ignorant?
He sighed with emotion and told me about the current difficulties and helplessness.
After listening to his story, I have a deep understanding and understanding. The pressures and difficulties of middle-aged people are vividly reflected in our peers.
However, his situation seems more difficult.
recalls when I first met him twenty years ago. We are all still young and vigorous. Working in a small factory in Guangdong. Because the hometown is not far away, it is naturally familiar.
clearly remember him back then,All day long, a full-fledged look, a neat silver-gray suit, set off a delicate face, and a four-six-point Guo Fucheng head, shining brightly all day long. Among a group of boys in the factory, they are one of the best in spirit, handsome! A pair of big talking eyes are piercing and piercing. The only fly in the ointment is that my height is unsatisfactory, and I am just as tall as 160.
Even so, it still can't stop his radiant charm. Girls who like him are going to succeed, one after another.
I just don't know why, I still have no feeling for him.
can become friends with him and know him so well. The main reason is that he is the brother of my brother who loves to make friends. Their friendship has been as strong as iron for the past two decades.
And in the past two decades, most of his life experiences have been learned from his brother.
In recent years, due to the development of the Internet, the contacts have become more frequent than before.
At that time, he and a group of young people were working in the factory. However, the boring and boring working life of the factory couldn't hold back the tumultuous hearts of many young people. Those young people, after receiving their wages, went outside to spend a lot of time and eat Hasai. Make friends of all kinds, chase pretty girls, fight and robbery. I gradually lost myself in the Huahua World.
Finally, when he went out to rob with a few friends, he was arrested on the spot and squatted in a labor camp for two and a half years.
After serving his sentence, he has no skills and no culture. The only place he can go is still the familiar small city in Guangdong.
squatted in a labor camp for two years, and no more violations of law and discipline. There is one hobby left,Chasing pretty girls.
Over the years, he has talked with several girlfriends. Because of various reasons, they failed to achieve a positive result.
In those years, he also worked honestly in the factory, and once held the position of supervisor by his ability. It's just that I'm used to spending big money. With frequent changes of girlfriends, although I have a lot of income, I don't have much money left.
When he was 28 or 29 years old, seeing his peers all marry and start a family, and the children would get soy sauce, he suddenly felt relieved and found a girl eight or nine years younger than him. Finally Thanks to the girl who didn't dislike it, she started a family with him and gave birth to a daughter.
said that a man matures late, and this is a more appropriate word for him. He said that he used to be young and only knew how to play, earning little money, but not spending less. It wasn't until the real marriage and childbirth that he suddenly realized the responsibility of a man. No longer spend money and waste, and no longer see beautiful girls and want to be their own. Work hard and work hard for your own little family.
He is now raising two young children and his parents are very old. His only brother and sister also passed away accidentally, and all the burdens of a large family fell on him alone.
no longer think about other things, just want to earn money to support the family. Even the dirty and tiring work on the construction site is no longer picky. Save money every day, and quickly send it back to his wife for safekeeping after getting the salary. He seems to be a good father and husband who is practical and responsible.
In addition, in the past few years, everyone around me has been buying houses and cars, and his annual income, excluding daily expenses, is very little, and he has few savings in his hands. Can you not worry?
I wonder how his changes are so great. After going through hardships and hardships, he finally came through and understood.
I asked him if he was disrespectful to his own cynicism, he would not regret his willfulness. He said that it is not a normal regret now. If you were not so playful and not so carefree in the early years, you would find a good girl who can live a pragmatic life earlier, and now you won't be reduced to this point. Not to mention how much money you have made, at least you have a stable life, and if you have some savings, you can also consider buying a house and a car to enjoy your life.
Now his wife, who is eight or nine years old, has a deep generation gap with him. The young wife cannot understand and understand his difficulties and difficulties. Nagging from time to time is quite resentful. It annoys him, but there is nothing he can do about it. He said that if time could be turned back, he would definitely seize the opportunities he had when he was young, work hard to do a career, and find a girlfriend no longer just look at beauty. Look for a woman who is knowledgeable, gracious, and virtuous.
Finally he told me helplessly that his daughter-in-law could no longer stand such days and had already filed for a divorce with him. Although he disagrees with a hundred people, it is difficult to keep him. The wife has already left with a divorce agreement. In front of him, just waiting for him to sign.
He was full of grievances and was exhausted physically and mentally. He spent all the years alone outside to make money. He focused on making money for this family, but his wife insisted on leaving because he couldn't bear this poor day.
When talking about this, a big man couldn't help but choke. I don't know how to comfort me. After all, in today's society, most women are very realistic, and poor couples are sad.
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