Zhang Defen: To get out of negative emotions, you can do this 1 thing

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Whatever you resist, it will continue.

because when you resist something or a certain emotion

you will focus on that emotion or event, which gives it more energy and it becomes more powerful.

------------- " meets the unknown self"

shared with me recently At work

How to recover from the painful emotions to a state of vigor.

Recently, due to work needs, she changed a few projects, and then she has been immersed in a state of confusion, unhappy at work, very tired, wanting to escape, but not knowing where to go.

Depressed, not active, unable to see the sun, very negative energy.

It seems that no matter what position you are in, you can't make yourself happy, can't see the direction, and want to escape.

The more you want to escape, the stronger the feeling of unhappiness.

Pain and weakness, and then always want to use new projects to help myself escape.

is unwilling to face the present and solve the problem on its own.

and after learning that his work partner has resigned,Thinking that all the work in the future will be on my body, I suddenly feel a kind of breathless feeling.

was very depressed, and even thought that I was depressed at one time.

These days, she is reading "Meeting the Unknown Self", a book on spiritual practice.

Author Zhang Defen is an influential personal growth writer in the Chinese-speaking world of .

In 2007, the first work " meets the unknown self " was launched.

This book has also become a must-read classic in the field of spiritual growth in China.

After reading it yesterday, she did a deep thought.

When I got up this morning and opened my eyes, suddenly all the chaos and chaotic thoughts disappeared.

There is a feeling of clearing the clouds and seeing the moon, and gradually the direction is clear.

She recalled yesterday's thoughts and made a self-talk.

One

Q: Why am I unhappy

Answer: I don’t want to be rooted in this project.Because there is no hope for the project, but there is no better choice.

As soon as I returned to the project, a lot of product knowledge was almost forgotten, there were too many things to learn, and I was lazy and unwilling to face it.

Q: So, what are my options?

1. Resign?

is impossible, survival is the most realistic problem.

2. Changing positions

is unrealistic and there are too many uncertain factors.

3. Accept, face, and challenge.

Yes, you can only choose this way, there is no way out!

Solution: List the current job content, product knowledge that needs to be learned, list the framework, and then make a good implementation plan, one by one, organized clearly and clearly.

At the moment when the plan was finished, a stone that had been pressed in her heart suddenly disappeared.

Summary:

She is always unhappy at work, because she only grasps negative emotions and gets stuck in it, so she cannot extricate herself.

is like when a person is deep in a swamp,Desperately struggling with fear and wanting to break free, the more struggling, the deeper the sinking.

In fact, the only way is to face the facts that have happened and stop struggling.

Calm down and focus all your energy on solving the current predicament. Only then will there be a chance of life, blindly and painfully struggling, and in the end, it will only kill itself.

In the end, she chose to face the pressure that may be brought about by her work, list them one by one, and then the direction will come out. People will naturally relax. The rest, just do it.

II

Q: Why do negative emotions always linger habitually?

Answer: As mentioned above, because I am stuck in it, I can’t extricate myself.

She kept telling herself that I am very tired, I am very painful, and I don't like my current job.

She didn't realize that she focused all her energy on work depression and unhappiness.

So there is always unhappiness and pain around her, such a cycle of evil deeds, deep in it, the darkness cannot be dissipated.

It's like, you have a snake on your hand, and you are afraid of fear in your heart, but your hand is firmly grasped, and then you shake it hard, you think you can get rid of the fear

But you don’t let go,How can you get rid of it?

Q: What should I do when I encounter negative emotions?

Answer: Accept it, face it, not escape.

Because only by accepting it can you concentrate on solving the problem and have the opportunity to break it.

It is as if you are in the dark, you are very scared, if you just shrink in the corner blindly, and then keep the fear surrounding yourself, then the fear will keep circling.

But if you accept fear, you are willing to face it.

Then your mind will be more focused on how to eliminate darkness.

You will think about it, find it, where is the window? How do you open the window.

And when you take this step, as soon as the window opens, the sun will naturally shine in and the darkness will disappear naturally.

Concluding remarks:

Many times, our pain comes from our passive choice, but our emotions are not our passive choice, so we choose to accept it. of.

In the face of unemployment, if you choose to fail, then you will not have new development opportunities;

If you choose to improve yourself,Or spend more time looking for a job, then the one that greets you may be a better start.

Lu Xun once said:

Let's embark on the journey of life.

has a long way to go, and it's very dark. But don't be afraid, there is a way before those who are not afraid.

Choose to escape the road we will never see ahead. Only when we choose to face it bravely and not fear the darkness, can we find the way forward and gradually become brighter.

Text: Huayuefan

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