Mr. Jian and Ms. Ruan have been married for 30 years. They are an enviable model couple, but Mr. Jian has an old story related to his wife. Mr. Jane originally thought that he would remain silent for the rest of his life, until last year Mr. Jane uttered the matter in a quarrel with his wife. Ms. Ruan was shocked as soon as Mr. Jian's words were uttered. She almost died in order to prove her innocence. Looking back on the relationship, Ms. Ruan couldn't feel the beauty anymore, she just felt devastated.
Now the couple came to the mediation scene together. Both Mr. Jian and Ms. Ruan felt that the relationship between the couple had changed in the past two or three years, and quarrels and cold wars had become more frequent. In a quarrel last year, Mr. Jian took advantage of his anger to directly tell a story about a dozen or twenty years ago, which made the relationship between husband and wife even worse. Ms. Ruan strongly stated that her husband had stepped on the minefield and could neither compromise nor forgive. So what happened back then that made Mr. Jane so worried? Why did he keep it in his heart for nearly twenty years?
Mentioned this incident, Mr. Jian felt vivid, he did not often work at home in the coal mine, Ms. Ruan drove a tricycle soliciting customers. One day when he passed by his classmates after get off work, he found his wife's tricycle parked downstairs, but the person was not in the car. He went to find his wife, and a scene he never expected appeared in front of him. Mr. Jian said that his classmate’s house was closed. He personally saw his classmate walk out of the room, and his wife followed out. At that time, Mr. Jian decided that there was a problem with his wife and chose to leave. Ms. Ruan yelled aggrieved about this. She said that at that time they were preparing to buy a new house. It happened that the classmate's house had just been renovated, so she went to look at the furniture and other things. She did not expect her husband to have such a big reaction.
Mr. Jane told me something about the past 20 years, but there are many doubts about this matter, but Mr. Jane didn’t go into it. He leaned on a closed door and gave it in his heart. I have settled, even if the husband and wife have been living together in harmony for nearly two decades, Ms. Ruan has never seen anything suspicious again.Nor did he dispel his doubts. Ms. Ruan is very sad. The two have been deeply emotional after 30 years of marriage. Even since 2018, the two have made some unhappiness due to trivial matters in life, and she does not think there are too many problems. Until one day last year, her husband gave her such a cheating hat, which made her unacceptable in any way, and what made her even more chilling was that no matter how she wanted to prove her innocence, her husband said that he would not give it any more. Opportunity.
Ms. Ruan collapsed at the scene. The saddest thing about her is that her husband has let this matter in his heart for nearly 20 years, and has not given her the opportunity to explain it today. She feels too unfamiliar with the one she loves. If her husband accidentally said it during a fight, how long will she be misunderstood? Is it for a lifetime? Ms. Ruan didn't dare to think too much. Ms. Ruan’s fierce reaction was beyond Mr. Jian’s expectation. He was a little at a loss. When he stepped forward to comfort his wife, he said a few words repeatedly, forget it.
But Ms. Ruan is unwilling to let it go. She tells everyone that the thunder that Mr. Jian stepped on has torn apart the deeper emotional pain of her childhood again. She decides to tell her past events that she has never mentioned to outsiders or even her husband today, hoping that her husband can understand why his suspicion of him is a minefield that cannot be stepped into.
Ms. Ruan said that after she was born, there was a problem with her parents' relationship, and her father didn't recognize herself and didn't think she was his own. She had always grown up in rumors. The suffering of Ms. Ruan's growing up has shaped her principles of marriage. She secretly vowed not to let herself go the same way as her parents, let alone let her children experience the same life as her own, being criticized and abandoned. Loyalty is a red line and an insurmountable minefield.
Mr. Jian regrets that he finally understands his wife until today, and admits that he deeply hurt his wife's heart with unfounded suspicion twenty years ago. But Ms. Ruan said that although the misunderstanding had been resolved, she did not intend to forgive her husband because she did not understand what she expected of this marriage.
Mediated here, the observer teacher couldn’t help but picked up the microphone.In her opinion, Mr. Jane should bear the main responsibility. There should be more in-depth exchanges between husband and wife, and there should be more in-depth exchanges and cautious judgments. If you make arbitrary conclusions, it will be very harmful to the other party. However, she believes that Ms. Ruan has not been carrying a scapegoat for more than ten or twenty years, and Mr. Jian’s injury to her is purely accidental. I don't know the minefield of his wife, but it can only be said that it is unintentional.
The last dusty event of the mediation was finally settled at the mediation site, and the storm was calmed down through frank communication. If Mr. Jane had doubts in his heart and expressed it to his wife in time, a jealous incident might have been solved. If Ms. Ruan can also confide in the growing pain buried in her heart in time, there will be no fierce conflict that detonates the minefield. But life has no ifs. Fortunately, today, both husband and wife have reflected and changed. In the husband and wife getting along, may wish to remember these two sentences, communicate in time, solve problems, be good at talking, and resolve worries. We also hope that after this turmoil, Mr. Jian and Ms. Ruan can regain their former beauty.
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