Introduction:
Old people at a certain age will feel lonely if they don't have a wife around. I hope someone can rely on each other. This is normal. After all, they have the right to pursue their own happiness for most of their lives. Besides, children have grown up, young people have their lives, and most of them don’t live together.
However, when looking for a wife, it is best not to involve money, and should be sincere, but some people have calculations. 58-year-old Aunt Zhu encountered this problem. She lived with the 65-year-old Su. At first, it was pretty good. Later, the uncle took care of many things and wanted to take advantage of her money. Aunt Zhu cut the mess quickly and broke up with the uncle directly. She thought that Uncle Su was too unkind, but Uncle Su thought she was too stingy.
Self-reporter: Aunt Zhu
Age: 58 years old
01
I am Aunt Zhu, and I have a monthly pension of 6000 yuan. worry. I have a daughter who is married and has children. Her wife died of illness 8 years ago.
I didn't feel anything when I lived alone before. For the past year, I feel very lonely in life. In addition to going outside to go shopping and dancing the square dance, back home alone.
Sisters have wives, and they are busy taking grandchildren and granddaughters. There are not many who can chat with me. Everyone has their own lives.
Where's your daughter? She marries far away, it is rare to come back once, and there is no time. At most, make a phone call and care about greetings. If I am sick, I have to pour a glass of water by myself.
It’s really impossible to have no one around me. If I go to the hospital if I get sick, no one will take it.
When I went to the square dance, a sister knew about my situation. She told me, "Why don't you find a wife for yourself when you are so young. Now everyone has a pension and life is not a problem." It’s nice to have a partner to live life together.”
These words strengthened my determination to find a wife.Yes, I'm only 58 years old, and there are still a long time to come. Finding a wife is a normal thing.
02
Whatever you want to come, not long after, I saw a new face while dancing the square. His name is Lao Su, a retired cadre.
Although Lao Su is 65 years old, he seems to be in his 50s at most. He is very tall and full of energy, and he is particularly eye-catching among a bunch of old men.
Lao Su is a gentleman, and he speaks very connotatively, which makes people feel like a spring breeze. After 2 months of getting to know each other, he often asked me to go for a meal and walk, and I understood.
It didn't take long for the two of us to reach an agreement and live together.
I told my daughter about this, and she didn’t object, she just told me, "Mom, I hope you are happy, but you have to take good care of your money and keep an eye on everything."
"I see, I I still need you to teach me about my age. Mom knows it, don’t worry.”
There is no problem with Lao Su. He has a son who didn’t live with him after he got married. He just brought his wife and children back to eat together on weekends. Rice.
I told Lao Su that I would not get a marriage certificate and live with me. Normally, the AA system is used for expenditures. At the end of the month, the amount is settled, and one person will pay as much living expenses as he should. If you are sick, spend your money. This can avoid a lot of trouble, he agrees.
03
On that day, I moved to Lao Su's place, and his son, daughter-in-law and young grandson all came back for a meal. Let’s get to know each other, the atmosphere is pretty good, and it’s fun.
Old Su's son said, "Aunt Zhu, welcome you to join our family. Dad has a companion by his side. As a son, I am very supportive." Auntie welcomes you, and we will get along well in the future."
It feels like meeting a good person. Although I am getting older, seeing their attitude, I can't help but think of meeting my parents-in-law when I was young. Unexpectedly, after many years, I was the only one left, and then I would find a partner again.
To eat and drink, I cleaned up the mess with my wife, Su's wife, and we sat in the living room, eating fruits and chatting.
At around ten o'clock in the evening, after sending away Lao Su's son's family, he looked at me affectionately, and we started a new life.
04
When I got up the next day, I was preparing breakfast. Old soda started. Then go for a walk together, have a meal at noon and play around with flowers and plants, go to the vegetable market in the afternoon to buy vegetables, prepare dinner together, and dance a square dance together after dinner.
When passing by the flower shop at night, Lao Su bought me a rose. I am as happy as a little girl, no matter how old people are, they have a young heart. Who doesn't want the other half to treat you well?
These days are very ordinary, but they are different for us, because there is someone around us who can share the joy and share the housework.
I am very fortunate to find such a good old Su in his later years.
I like to eat durian. When Lao Su went to the supermarket and saw it, he would definitely buy one back. Lao Su likes to eat sweet and sour fish , I often make it for him.
Although these are small things, the small things are more intimate.
At the end of the month, I calculated the expenses, but Lao Su gave half of the money without even seeing it. His attitude was very simple. Everyone has the heart to live a good life, so they are quite happy.
05
I thought I found a reliable person, but it was only a month after I didn’t expect that many things were not as good as I thought, and some of Lao Su’s problems were revealed as the contact became deeper NS.
Lao Su’s son’s family of three will come back for dinner at the weekend.I found that they only wear a mouth, and they have never bought a single dish or a pound of fruit.
Lao Su's daughter-in-law would politely help with cooking at first, and after a few times, she turned her hand as a shopkeeper and waited for her meal with her legs upright.
I pick and choose when I eat, saying which dish I cook is not good, and the taste is strong, and then I will order which dish to eat next time. That tone, that gesture, as if I were a nanny.
Lao Su's little grandson was 8 years old and it was too much. After eating, he rummaged in the refrigerator. I took out all the delicious foods and packed them home, like a little robber.
After dinner, the family was happily watching TV, and I was the only one who cleaned the tabletop, washed the dishes and mopped the floor.
It’s okay once or twice, the frequency is more, it seems that I do these tasks in their eyes for granted. I really couldn't express it because I was so angry that I once euphemistically responded to these problems with Lao Su, and he felt that I was making a fuss.
06
At the end of the month again, I calculated the expenditure to Lao Su. This time he took it seriously and asked me why he had to pay 600 yuan more.
I explained that it was his son's family who came to eat. Two days on weekends, eight days a month, and recently his son and his wife often come back for dinner even on weekends.
A family of three often come back for dinner. They order delicious food in advance. They want to eat this and that, but don't think about the ribs, osmanthus fish , shrimp , how much is a catty? It's normal for me to ask Lao Su to pay an extra 600 yuan.
Old Su looked upset. He said that I care too much about how much young people can eat. No matter how he complains, he must pay the money anyway.
He looked at me with a firm attitude and looked upset and paid. This left me with a particularly bad feeling. He clearly should pay the money, but it made me feel like I was getting cheap. For this reason, I had a cold war with Lao Su for more than a week.
07
Later,Lao Su took me to the newly opened restaurant for a big meal. He and Yan Yuese said something to please, and I forgive him, and kept silent about the conflicts that had happened before.
People are getting older, and some things can only be seen from the beginning.
Within a few days, Lao Su asked me how much money I had. I asked him what was wrong. Old Su said that his son had lost money in business, and the market was not good during this period.
Lao Su borrowed 300,000 yuan from me to his son. He said that it was enough to get through this difficult situation, and he would return the money to me in a few months.
I don't believe this. He has his own pension and does not give it. Is there any reason to let me borrow this money from someone who has no blood relationship with his son? Besides, it is easy to borrow money and difficult to pay back. Everyone understands this truth.
After thinking about it in my heart, I told Lao Su that I had no money and I only depended on a pension. Old Su came up with an idea and asked me to mortgage the house under my name.
I couldn't even think of him making this idea. I was so angry that this house is not only mine, but also my daughter's.
Old Su was so angry that if two people live together, they should help if they have difficulties. Why do they have to distinguish so clearly? Besides, I still live in his house.
08
After the talk about borrowing money, Lao Su did nothing at home and talked fiercely. Not even a babysitter to me, no respect at all.
His son's family came for dinner, and his daughter-in-law put on a stinky face and said something ironic, as if I owed them.
I originally thought Shinnin would pass. As a result, Lao Su's daughter-in-law wanted to eat cantaloupe. I was washing the dishes. She asked me to cut it. I said to wait.
The daughter-in-law was angry and said, "What a shame, come to live in someone's house, and I can't even do a few things. Just thinking about taking advantage of others."
The old god Su was determined to watch TV, and his son said nothing. Obviously, in their hearts, I am a shabby settlement to take advantage of them, just like what Lao Su's wife said.
People are so realistic, don't lend them money, turn their faces and deny them. Lao Su’s family fully embodies these worldly affections,I am an eye-opener.
One night, I didn't go for a walk the next day, I packed my luggage and sat on the sofa waiting for Lao Su to come back. I told him that Gao couldn't afford him, so everyone can get together and spend time. In this way, less than 3 months of life as a partner ended.
Concluding remarks:
Old people find their wives to live together, provided that they understand each other's situation clearly. In addition to this person's financial conditions, he also has a good character, does he have a sense of responsibility, and how is he doing things? In addition, it also depends on the behavior of his junior. You need to get in touch with people. Only when you get along more can you see what is good or bad. Don't get together in a hurry because of a good impression at the beginning, and often end up suffering.
Old Su is not good. Since you live with a partner, you must be sincere and don't treat the other person as a fool. You don't respect others, and they won't let you bully. Do you have the confidence to have a wife who has only lived together for two or three months to lend money to your son?
supports Aunt Zhu. If it is not appropriate, she will disband. There is no need to wrong yourself. Isn't finding a company just to live happily? Since things are counterproductive, there is no need to be reluctant to be together. In fact, sometimes it’s good to live by yourself, as long as you have an economic foundation.
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