Text/You Ran tells a story
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Chu Ran gave birth to a big fat boy in October. The whole family was very happy, especially his in-laws, and he kept saying Chu Ran Shi The great hero of this family.
In the flattery of her husband Wang Ming and her in-laws, Chu Ran temporarily forgot the unhappiness they brought to herself during pregnancy.
Chu Ran has always known that Liu Quan’s family is seriously patriarchal. When she was three months pregnant, her mother-in-law had said she would go for a male and female test. Chu Ran disagreed. In her heart, regardless of gender, as long as it is her own baby She loves it all.
But in-laws don’t think so. In their hearts, the first child must be a son.
Because of the inspection of men and women, Chu Ran also quarreled with Wang Ming several times. In the end, Chu Ran couldn't twist them, so he had to do it.
Fortunately, the last check said it was a boy, and the mother-in-law was willing to stop.
Chu Ran felt uncomfortable and asked: What if this is a girl?
Before Wang Ming could speak, the mother-in-law said immediately: "That's definitely not!"
Chu Ran subconsciously looked at Wang Ming, he didn't say anything, and he acquiesced in this matter in his heart.
This matter is like a root thorn stuck in Chu Ran's heart. I don't know if it is affected by pregnancy or what, she is always uncomfortable.
Wang Ming got it, and said that she was arrogant and had nothing to do.
Chu Ran had no choice but to comfort herself not to think too much. She was still pregnant, which was not good for the fetus.
After finally getting pregnant in October, the melons are ripe, and the big fat boy is born. The mother-in-law is attentive and thoughtful to herself, and the discomfort in Chu Ran's heart has disappeared.
She secretly laughed at her strength, why not worry about things that are not.
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Because she gave birth to a grandson, Chu Ran is a great hero. When she was in confinement, her mother-in-law gave her a confinement club. The adults and children were taken care of.
Chu Ran is very satisfied,She also knew that if her mother-in-law took care of her, she might disagree with her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law was still working and it was impossible to take care of her.
Chu Ran has had a good time for a few months, not to mention it. When she thinks that she will go to work soon, she feels a little bit reluctant to have children.
And because of going to work, disagreements with her in-laws and family began to appear.
Chu Ran’s maternity leave is approaching. She considered that her father-in-law and mother-in-law are still at work and the possibility of resignation is not high, so she planned her life after work in advance, and planned to ask a nanny to bring the children. She asked about the price. 6500 yuan a month.
Chu Ran's monthly salary is 25,000 yuan. The price of a nanny is not expensive for her and is completely acceptable.
But Wang Ming and his in-laws were unanimously opposed.
"It's natural to be a mother with a baby, how can I hire a nanny?" Wang Minglai said indifferently while playing games on the sofa.
The father-in-law and mother-in-law also strongly opposed, thinking how Chu Ran could be so cruel, and the child was so young that he left it to the nanny.
Chu Ran angered: "Why don't you ask the nanny to take care of the children? What am I going to work for, but also to earn money to raise the children!"
"The most important thing is to take good care of children now. You should be a mother. Resign to bring children and make money, wait until the children are older.”
Hearing what Wang Ming said, Chu Ran felt contempt in his heart: “Wang Ming, you also said that? I resign to bring children? What if I quit. Bringing a child, with your salary of 5,000 yuan a month, who can you support?"
Wang Ming heard it, and Huo Di quickly got up: "Your salary is so high, you can't save a bit after working for so many years, so you don't have to go to work. Do you need me to raise it?"
Chu Ran has never seen such shamelessness.
He is so embarrassed to say that he has no self-knowledge?
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When Chu Ran married Wang Ming, the two were poor and white. At the beginning, Wang Ming’s 60,000 mothers-in-laws said they were borrowed. Everyone has a salary,Just raising Wang Ming as a child, how could he not even get 60,000 yuan. The reason why he said it was borrowed, I just want them to pay it back.
In the first month of marriage, the mother-in-law began to ask for money.
Chu Ran took a sigh of relief and worked hard to save money and pay it back.
Also because of this, Chu Ran knows that her husband's family is unreliable, and the truth is only if she has money, so she works very hard at work.
When she first got married, her salary was similar to that of Wang Ming. After more than three years of hard work, she has already dumped Wang Ming a lot, and her salary is five times his.
Because of the strong economy, Chu Ran is in charge of the family. She is responsible for all the food and clothing in and out of the house. Wang Ming has also paid living expenses from the beginning until now. If you don't pay anything, you only care about the money you earn, and occasionally ask Chu Ran for it.
Many years of "soft rice" life has made Wang Ming forget that he is also a member of this family, and he also needs to pay, and he has developed the habit of only asking for money.
This time, she even threatened to quit her job and take care of her children, so he can afford this family?
Chu Ran didn't believe it.
However, Wang Ming's family is also unreasonable and patriarchal. In their hearts, it is a normal marriage model for a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. A woman should take a child without considering the actual situation.
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Chu Ran does not intend to compete with them, and it is useless to compete.
She hired a nanny and went back to work as soon as the maternity leave time came.
Her tough attitude completely provokes Mao Wang Ming. Wang Ming is like a dog with its tail trampled on, jumping up and down, accusing Chu Ran of not being like a woman, regardless of her family, and her children.
Chu Ran let him go, only when his words were fierce, he faintly replied: "Wang Ming, don't be arrogant in front of me. If you dare to provoke me, I will divorce you. Now the child is still breastfeeding. , My salary is higher than yours. Don’t even think about the custody of the child. I will change my son’s surname when the time comes.If you have emotions and ideas, what's your family in these years? Did you not count yourself?
It is only natural for women to take care of their children and to take care of their families, so why don't you say that it is natural for men to make money to support their families? You have the ability to make money to support your family, let me see, I am very rare!
Chu Ran gave Wang Ming mercilessly, and Wang Ming couldn’t say a word.
Sometimes I think about it, it’s really that way, just because a man can ask a woman to take a baby to do housework, You also need to earn money to support the family with men. And men only need to have a job and bear half the responsibility of supporting the family?
In this society, how many men can support their families without relying on their wives? I am afraid there are not many, right?
Bringing children is originally a joint responsibility between husband and wife, but somehow it becomes the responsibility of one person.
If the two parties negotiate and are responsible for the same, then nothing is said. The key is that many families do not have the consent of the woman at all. Who gives them the courage to impose on women without authorization?
She doesn't care about Chu Ran, she is financially independent and works well, so she is not immune to this.
Many women know that their abilities are not bad, but they choose to live lowly.
In her view of Chu Ran, marriage is a two-way street. Only if you respect me, I will respect you, and if you understand me, I will understand you.
If she is like Wang Ming, she does not recommend tearing her face. On the other hand, she also knew that Wang Ming did not dare to divorce her. A man with weak financial ability had the courage to divorce her.
But Chu Ran did not intend to wrong herself, since Wang Ming did not realize her importance, she did not Mind letting her understand.
Therefore, she will cut off Wang Ming's subsidies from time to time, so that he will also deeply understand that many things are not just talking, but there is a price to pay.
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