On the weekend, I took my husband and children to go back to my natal home, but when I opened the door, I saw my mother sitting outside with a bag of luggage at her feet.
Surprised, I quickly welcomed my mother into the house: "Why didn't you wait for us at home and came over suddenly?"
My mother cried out: "I and you Dad is divorced."
My husband and I looked at each other and couldn't believe it. I whispered to my mother to confirm again: "Really separated?"
My mom cried louder .
My dad will divorce my mom. This is even more absurd than Mars hitting the earth, but it really happened.
I took my mother's divorce certificate and flipped through it, finally accepted this fact, and asked her what was going on.
The reason for their divorce was because of a bowl of egg noodles , but not only because of a bowl of noodles.
My dad, Zhou Linqing, my mom, Wang Aihua. To say that they can be a pair, it may be that Yue Lao took a nap and accidentally led the wrong red line.
My dad is a scholar, and my grandfather is a teacher. So at our time, my dad’s house was considered a scholar. In the days of my parents, it was a great thing to be able to go to high school.
And my mother, a rural girl, didn't read much. In my mother's words, she felt sleepy when she saw a book.It's better to follow everyone to the river to fish for shrimp, so that at least you can get a delicious meal.
My mother has a carefree personality, and my grandpa is a businessman. Under the influence of her ears, my mother has inherited the smoothness of my grandpa, which is very popular in our ten mile and eight villages.
But because my mother's appearance and personality have also followed my grandfather, she is not beautiful, and she has some stout figures and a generous personality. Even so, my mother is still very good at picking objects. Have their own ideas.
She doesn't like those big five and three rough ones, she likes those gentle and gentle, she likes my dad.
"Your dad speaks nicely, just like the broadcaster on other radios, sometimes he bounces out in a few words, although I don't understand it, but I know it is a cultural person What you say is not like those big masters who speak very rough." My mother said it with a proud look.
My mother is impatient and has a hot personality. When she saw my dad, she ran home and asked my grandfather to come and say kiss.
Grandpa poked my mother's forehead: "Shame, how can a girl come and say kiss by herself."
My mother didn't care about this, her temper came up and shut herself in the room. One day he refused to take in a grain of rice. Grandpa was just a child of my mother. He held it in the palm of his hand since he was a child. In the end, he compromised and went to my grandpa with two big white geese.
Although my dad's family is a scholarly family, my grandfather's three sons and a family of five are all pointing to the meager salary of his grandfather, living very hard.
Grandpa proposed that he should pay the young couple to build a small two-bedroom house, and then marry a TV and a sewing machine. Grandpa decided the marriage without saying a word.
Until the day of the engagement, my dad didn't know that he already had a wife. Later, according to my mother, on the night of the wedding, my father refused to sleep in a room with my mother, and went straight to squeeze a bed with the uncle, but within two days, he came back with a pillow and a quilt.
My dad said that my uncle's snoring is too noisy and it makes his tinnitus.
My mother chuckled and took his quilt pillow. My dad accepted my mom. Although my mom is not beautiful or gentle, my mom has a kind heart.
My dad is a dull temper. He only has books in his eyes. Although my mom doesn’t know big words and has a bit of anxious personality, she doesn’t work at all. She took care of her outside the house and took good care of my dad, which also caused my dad to be indifferent to all kinds of things.
My mom said, my dad doesn't need to recognize how to cook, just recognize the words in the book.
In my mother's opinion, she picked, but the most attractive man in the world.
Since my mom got married, she has led the family to make a fortune. At first, it was just my mother who set up a small restaurant alone. My mother was good at cooking. Later, there were more repeat customers. My mother set up a shop and built a small restaurant.
Seeing that this home is getting better and better under my mother's care, my dad's gratitude is also spontaneously felt. Every day my mother takes the store and comes home, she actively presses her shoulders and rubs her back. .
That’s why my mom praised my dad for loving his wife when she met people, so much so that my dad loved his wife’s reputation.
Then the store got busy,My dad offered to help out after class, but after one day, my mom was not willing to let him do anything. He just sat there, not only did not help, my mom also served fruit snacks from time to time, and my dad never did anything. Did not go to the store to help.
In the days of parents, in that traditional small township, most women regarded their husbands as their husbands, and it was commonplace for many people to be noisy at home, and some would even do it. And my dad is a rare good-tempered man, he doesn't even speak loudly, let alone hands-on.
In the eyes of others, my parents are model couples, loving young couples, only I know that it is because my mom said nothing, and my dad didn't dare to refute her.
Since I have a memory, my mother's eyes have been on my dad. For example, once, my mom sent my dad to buy soy sauce because it took a long time. My mother took the spoon and ran out of the house and looked out the alley. Coincidentally, I ran into my dad having a conversation with a woman.
When my dad came home, my mom didn't cook any food, and asked my dad who the woman was.
My dad only explained for a long time. He was probably a female student and asked my dad about some topics.
But my mother was still reluctant, until my dad apologized and promised that he would never talk to lesbians casually, the matter was temporarily calmed down.
I used to think that this is the performance of my mom loving my dad, but now I understand that it is clearly a manifestation of insecurity, which only occurs in a relationship that pays unequally. The performance, my mother felt in her heart that my dad married her, she took advantage of the loopholes, and she found the treasure.
So she must always guard her treasure,Don't let others take it away.
My mother speaks a bit loudly, and she gets agitated when encountering things, and may even yell, and my dad is of Wen Tun character. Due to the huge cultural differences, they actually couldn't talk about many things together.
For example, my dad and my mom talked about school personnel transfer and distribution, and talked about the update of teaching materials. But my mother was confused and couldn't give any advice. Sometimes she said, she turned the topic off, and the conversation turned to how much my mother's small restaurant earned today. Which customer complained today. Which dish is selling better today, and which guy is lazy today.
My dad can only listen to my mom's nagging alone, and can't interrupt it.
One pursues spiritual things, one pursues a real standard of living.
Slowly, at home, the two of them talk about almost nothing except me.
Despite this, in the eyes of others, they are still exemplary couples, but in fact, they just can't even fight.
Later when I got married, they had their biggest conflict.
My father is firmly opposed to me marrying my husband, because my husband's education is not high, he said that no matter whether you marry a wife or a man, you should be right.
My mother is very satisfied with this son-in-law, because although my husband has a low degree, he is very capable and is the company's management at a young age.
To be honest, although my husband is not well-educated,But since I came out of society, I have never stopped learning.
The world is full of knowledge, and the human relationship is the article. For many workplace matters, and even some professional matters, I sometimes even ask my husband for advice.
Finally, with the support of my mother, we got married and gave birth to a lovely son.
At first, my husband and I went back to my natal house. My dad kept his face straight. My mother would scold him every time and tell him to be nice to my husband. My dad has no say in the matter of my marriage. What's more, seeing that my husband treats me quite well now, he has slowly changed his attitude towards my husband.
But just as our lives got better and better, my parents got divorced.
The water in my mother's restaurant was shut down that day, and my mother gave the employees a day off on a whim and took a day off.
When my mom got home, she saw my dad cooking in the kitchen and making gestures with his mobile phone. My mother is very curious, because my dad has never cooked by himself.
My mom walked into the kitchen and saw my dad cook noodles step by step under the guidance of a woman’s video. My dad smiled so happy that he would cook it for her next time. As soon as the voice fell, my dad realized that my mom was already standing behind him.
My mom was arguing very badly. My dad must explain this matter, but my dad didn't say a word. My mom didn't fall asleep all night, and my dad fell asleep in the next room.
The next day, my dad filed for divorce, and his attitude was extremely tough. Angrily, my mother went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a divorce certificate with him, and then came to me.
After comforting my mother,I found my dad to ask the whole story.
My dad’s ambiguous objects are colleagues in his unit. In fact, they are still at the level of mutual appreciation. I have seen that aunt, who has a very gentle personality, and my mother is just two people with opposite personalities.
In her, my dad has found a sense of accomplishment, and my aunt cares about my dad's opinions and praises that the noodles he made are so unpalatable.
Although I don't know a lot, I know that my dad has finally found the right to speak in another person because he has been entrusted with my mother's strength for a long time.
My dad apologized a little and said to me: "Dad didn't set a good example, I hope it won't affect you. I have lived for most of my life, and I want to live the rest of my life according to my own ideas. Cheng.”
In the end, my dad still did not stay with that aunt because the aunt’s children did not agree.
My mom didn't remarry my dad, and my mom doesn't have that thought now. She enrolled in a training class called Xiyanghong.
Now my mother travels everywhere with the trainees in this training class. She has learned to use WeChat, Weibo, and photography. Some time ago, she sent me her photography work, and she said that when the time comes Take more portraits of her grandson.
My dad looked at it, his eyes moved, and he clamored to follow my mom to study.
Many people ask me why I don’t persuade my parents to remarry.
Whether it’s past, present, or future,I would never persuade them to remarry. They have the right to make choices in their lives. I don't want them to make any choices because of me.
But no matter what their choice is, I will support and bless them.
Everyone has the right to live only once. As long as you live wonderfully and happily, then let the rest go.
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