Regarding persistence, some people think that its essence is to force oneself to do things, and some people always run into a wall on the way to pursue their dreams.
Why are the obstacles encountered every time setting goals make you stand still for a long time?
What is preventing you from achieving your goals?
Many people think that they are lazy by nature every time they are unable to persist.
Actually, no one is lazy by nature.
Laziness is just an escape after failure.
knows that there is an answer to the topic of laziness:
"'lazy person' is a false proposition in itself. Just like "junk" is a proposition in the world. There is no real "junk", only misplaced babies. So, what I want to say is that there is no real "junk" and no real "laziness"."
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to deal with inertia,Some people choose to knock hard.
However, haste is not fast, and people cannot violate the laws of nature.
The psychological gap caused by failure is easy for people to be devastated.
On the contrary, some people find the right way to "anti-inertness" with a positive attitude.
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So, what is the positive way to "anti-inertness"?
positive psychology professor Oettingen defines laziness as: " too many desires, too few practical actions." _p5span "span3span _p5sp "Negative", thinking only about the joy of success will strengthen people's inertia.
A survey conducted by the famous American Northwest Insurance Company many years ago: 79% of the people in the sample believe that the US economy is full of hope.
However, in 2008,The United States once again fell into the Great Depression, which even led to the suspension of the White House.
There is a psychological experiment on weight loss. Psychologists selected 25 female volunteers who wish to lose weight.
He divided the volunteers into two groups. Group A fantasizes about being charming in front of relatives and friends after losing weight, and group B fantasizes about failing because of the temptation of food.
A few years later, the experimental results showed that most people in group A lost an average of 13 kg weight less than group B.
This shows that optimism does have a certain effect on overcoming laziness.
There is a peculiar phenomenon in group A : Those who always fantasize about losing weight after losing weight are much less weight than group B.
Optimism is the cornerstone of everything, but being too optimistic can distort people’s perceptions and make people live in a false and colorful bubble.
People who ignore the reality can hardly achieve their goals.
One should be naive and not naive,Bold but not reckless, optimistic but not blind.
If you want to accomplish something, you must have the confidence to succeed and use reason to analyze the pros and cons.
If you are like a child, just immersed in beautiful fantasy, without taking action, accepting failure, you will only mess up everything inexplicably.
Don't be blindly optimistic, it will only make you more and more lazy.
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When we encounter difficulties that cannot be solved, we want to find excuses to avoid and delay.
There is a concept in social psychology called "self-handicapping"-sometimes people will deliberately set up obstacles to hinder their own success.
This behavior is for self-protection, because I am too afraid of failure, so I just set real limits as soon as I go up: p1p _p5 It’s not because it’s too difficult. I can definitely do it well.”
movieThe Hoover family is always clamoring for success, but they all stay at home and vent their emotions on the family.
A family that seems to be a tortoise is temporarily united to support the youngest daughter’s beauty pageant dream and drove to California to compete.
On this dream-seeking road, everyone's dreams are constantly colliding and shattering.
The brother who always fantasizes about becoming a pilot is completely desperate, and his sister Oliver's striptease drew boos from the audience.
They finally couldn't avoid failure, but in this journey they took the steps of procrastinating for a lifetime.
At the end of the movie, the little girl with her little belly and not beautiful is dancing on stage.
And the Hoover family completely discarded their burdens and ran on stage together to dance with the little beauties.
There is a very impressive line in the movie: "Do you know what failure is? People who really fail are those who are particularly afraid of not succeeding, afraid of death, and dare not even try. People."
Yes,Because I was too afraid of failure, the set goals were delayed and delayed until the last moment without making up their minds.
Because I was afraid of failure, I might as well just lie flat, sometimes masochistically try hard, and hide in my comfort zone again after hitting a wall.
Guo Moruo once said: "It is good for a person to always have some rebellious encounters. People are only afraid of self-defeating and others will not be able to curse them."
Imprisoned one's own potential, every obstacle is precisely the cornerstone to success.As the saying goes: "If you work hard, you won't lose, three thousand more can swallow Chu."
The best thing to overcome laziness is the fear of defeat in the heart.
One's greatest persistence is to look at failures as adults.
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The psychologist Herlock did a famous feedback effect pimg0 pimgsp _span3sp0 pimg1Ask four groups of people to do the same thing and give different feedback:
The first group will be encouraged and praised after each work;
Some reprimands were severely reprimanded and criticized.
The third group is ignored. After each work, no evaluation is given, but they are allowed to hear the praise and criticism of the other two groups.
The fourth group isolates them from the first three groups and also does not accept any evaluation.
In the results of the experiment, the fourth group had the worst score, while the neglected group scored the second last.
The results of the first group continue to rise, and the enthusiasm is the strongest; while the second group will often give up.
This shows that positive feedback will make people persistent, while blindly negative reviews are easy to give up.
People who have no feedback at all have already given up.
So, if you want to stick to something longer, you must get positive feedback in your life.
Why do we always lose faith in one thing so easily?
is because some facts are too difficult,It is difficult to get feedback in a short period of time.
Faced with this situation, first of all, we need to lower the requirements, divide long-term goals into short-term, and decompose large tasks into small tasks.
Complete small tasks every day, let yourself live in the joy of success and sense of accomplishment all the time.
As the saying goes: “If you don’t accumulate steps, you can’t reach a thousand miles. If you don’t accumulate small streams, you can’t make a river.”
Naturally, under this process, a sense of achievement has been continuously positively praised. Just stick to it.
The essence of self-discipline is to use a happy mind to accomplish unhappy things.
Zeng Guofan was a very lazy person in his early years. Later, he learned from the pain and decided to get rid of this bad problem.
But instead of forcing himself to do big things first, he arranged two small things for himself: getting up early and keeping a diary.
He wrote in his diary: "The character of quitting laziness is based on the first meaning of the word."
Later, Zeng Guofan made a career.It's not just because he has great wisdom and great ability.
Instead, he can do the small things first and record his repeated growth in his diary.
The so-called persistence, in fact, we must first start with things within our power, such as going to bed early and getting up early, reading a book every day, and so on.
Get a sense of accomplishment in small things, and use success in everything to eradicate inertia.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Not everything needs to be a big thing. If you insist on doing small things, you can be successful.
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Some people say that willpower is the key to success Some people say that family background
determine a person's ceiling
There are still people who are desperate to succeed in harming their health
I said that people who can continue to work in a field must be happy.
They must have an optimistic and rational mentality,A brave and tough heart, and the pride that fills the heart.
May you learn to work hard and be happy at the same time, and replace the unattainable fantasy with steady progress, and feel the glory that belongs to you only when you break through yourself again and again.
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