As we all know, many relationships start with friends. However, it is difficult for two people who have truly loved to go back to the original point and be friends after they are separated.
Breaking up is undoubtedly a very unpleasant thing. I have loved it deeply, so it is hard to forget that the memory has taken root in my heart, and I can't let it go in a short time.
After breaking up with a lover, many people are always unable to calm their hearts. They are angry and resentful. They black out or delete the other party in anger to relieve their anger.
Actually, the most effective way to forget a person is never to block or delete.
Real forgetting, you don’t need to deliberately
In our lives, many people who broke up with their predecessors repeatedly delete and add them back, which only means that they can’t really let go.
Where does anger and resentment come from? From the unwillingness of the heart, a relationship comes to an end, in the eyes of many people, it is a failure, frustration is overwhelming, but there is nothing I can do.
From a psychological point of view, it is this kind of powerlessness that makes people angry and makes people have nowhere to vent their emotions. It may be the only thing that can be done right now.
To truly forget a person, you never need to deliberately. Forgetting a person is not no longer remembering, but occasionally remembering, but there are no more waves in your heart. True forgetting does not require effort.
You know, no matter how good a memory is, it is only a memory after all, but it can never go back to the original time. No matter how good the past is, if there are more memories, it will fade.
In a person's life, we have to face all kinds of parting. Some can meet again, and some turn around for a lifetime.
If you can't let go of this already-resulting relationship, then do nothing, or do nothing deliberately, just let the flow go.
Time is the best medicine
Zhang Ailing said: "Forgetting a person only needs two things.Time and Xinhuan; you choose Xinhuan and I choose time!
It is often said that time is the best medicine for all hurts.
Time can heal all heartaches and stretch an unhappy time for a long, long time, scattered in every second. , It doesn’t feel so painful anymore.
From a psychological point of view, the reason why people can’t get out of the shadow of broken love, the long-term pain, is always entangled and tortured in the end of the relationship, this is A mode of "rumination thinking".
As a kind of cognition, "rumination thinking" is a negative thinking mode, which has a very important influence on emotions, and can cause people to produce inferiority, depression and other bad emotions.
This This kind of thinking is not conducive to our mental health. We have to find ways to avoid it and can’t let it develop.
Therefore, when we face the end of our relationship, the best thing to do is to accept the facts, respect the results, and then, turn around smartly , Leave everything to time.
think in another way
If "rumination thinking" is a passive mode of thinking, then we can take the initiative to understand this paragraph The ending relationship.
There must be a fundamental reason why this relationship has come to an end. For example, two people are really inappropriate, or it is caused by geographical distance. Even if it is barely maintained, it may not be satisfactory. The result.
When we understand that every relationship ends, it has its own problems. We will never end without disease, we will let go, and we will no longer worry about regrets.
This kind of thinking is a positive, Positive, only when we can face it correctly and bravely accept it, can we really get out of it.
Of course, these all take time, and only time can help us understand and digest.
Embrace the future
Buddha said: "No matter who you meet, he is the person who should appear in your life. It is not accidental. He will definitely teach you something. "
we met,They are all destined to meet, to be separated, and to be destined not to be obtained.
We should believe that everything is the best arrangement. If things do not happen, then there will be better encounters.
Someone once said that the best way to forget a relationship or a person is to quickly plunge into the arms of another person.
No matter how unbalanced our hearts are, the end is the end. If we don't let go of these pasts, and don't free our hands, how can we embrace a better future?
People have a long life, and there will be many encounters. Facing the relationship that has ended, it is a kind of wisdom to be able to let go decisively and understand that long-term pain is worse than short-term pain.
If our heart is a cup filled with memories of the past, even though those memories are corrupt and moldy, we just can’t bear to clean them out. No matter how good the wine is, we can’t pour it into this cup.
Only when the cup of this heart is emptied, can we cleanly welcome the new wine and jelly, and have the opportunity to taste the more beautiful taste of love.
Therefore, we should be grateful for the predecessors who broke up with the ending feelings, and be grateful for all the encounters and be grateful for the good time.
Letting go is to let go of oneself, it is to make each other's perfection, at the end of gathering and dispersal, goodbye is also joyful.
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