On the streets of Guangzhou, many beautiful girls are walking around with the arm of a black man. Maybe they think they are proud of having a foreign boyfriend, but I am faintly worried for the good ones. You really need to pay attention to foreign marriages, especially girls, because of me. There are a few sighing examples of marrying foreigners happily.
She married an African boy. She had three children and had to make money to support her family. She was divorced after untold hardships, but could not return home.
My classmate, a gentle and beautiful girl, worked in the city hospital after graduating from college. There is a kindergarten next to the hospital. There is a young black foreign teacher in the kindergarten. Because they came to the hospital several times to see the disease, the two of them met.
The black boy has a very sweet mouth, is talkative and romantic. He is on the offensive every day. This female classmate of mine just fell in love at the time. It was the low point of relationship. The family didn’t understand her. She was in a bad mood at that time. The appearance of the black boy warmed her heart again, and she was captured by him soon.
got along for a long time, talking about marriage and getting married, only to discover that the black man had arrived smuggled, but at that time the relationship between the two was already deep. The boy said that his family lived in the suburbs of the big city. Life belongs to the upper-middle class, not the bottom class, let her rest assured. When the black boy returned to China, my female classmate resisted the pressure of family opposition and resigned and followed him.
Although I had made sufficient psychological preparations before I went, I was shocked when I arrived at the boy’s hometown. I thought that no matter how bad the family is, it should be similar to the fifth-tier county town. I think that the boy’s home is very poor, more than a poor mountainous area. He was still poor, and his family lived in two earthen houses. He also had several younger brothers and sisters, all living together. It seemed that the whole village was almost the same, not rich.
The most important thing is that their family has no financial resources. His father is a plumber and sometimes does part-time job. The main income comes from farming. But the corn planted can barely make ends meet, and the extra money is gone.
Regardless of the man who was a foreign teacher in China, he is very respected by everyone. After returning to China, he is an ordinary person.Had to work as a plumber with his father.
But he didn’t do this job well. Three days of fishing and two days of surfing the net, the income can be imagined. Fortunately, my female classmate has acupuncture skills and opened an acupuncture clinic in the local area. There are not many customers, but it is maintained. No problem at home.
Since she opened this clinic, her husband thinks that she is a rich man, and she has done nothing. Every day I played cards with some friends and friends, drank beer, and went to bars with a group of African boys and girls. It was very strange. The local area was so poor, but there were many bars in every village. African girls are very open-minded and have hot and hot personalities. When she sees that her husband is rich, they take the initiative to contact them.
These are nothing. What makes her most difficult to accept is the difference in thinking caused by cultural differences.
Chinese people have a strong sense of worry and always want to make more money while they are young to prepare for emergencies. My classmate gave birth to three children after they went to Africa. So many children will have to go to school in the future. What if they don’t have money, so classmates I always want to save some flowers and save some money for the children.
But most Africans don't have this concept. They are currently drunk, earn one and spend two, and have no sense of saving money at all. Watching the Chinese save money, they still don't understand. I think that tomorrow’s matter should be considered tomorrow. Why should I worry about tomorrow today? It is a fool to have money without spending it.
This kind of thinking difference caused the conflict between the classmate and her black husband to become more and more serious, and finally had to break up. In the words of my classmates, if she doesn't get a divorce, she won't be able to save a cent of the money she earns, and she will have to be ruined by their whole family.
Now my classmate has divorced, and the difficulties are hard to explain.
But she with three children, I don’t know what to do. It’s in Africa. She is alone and really can’t stay. But when she returns to China, she can’t bear the three children. She brings these three little black children back to China. , I don’t know how to live, and I don’t know if I can study without a registered permanent residence. She is still struggling now, and she doesn't know where to go in the future.
She fell in love with a handsome Iranian guy and got married in China. She didn’t expect that the handsome guy did not play the card according to the rules and the marriage was not recognized by the Iranian government.Now the inexplicable handsome guy is missing, but she has become a married woman. If you want to get a divorce, you can't find anyone. Don't leave. How will she marry in the future?
I have a friend. Unlike the last girl who met a foreign boyfriend by chance, she always wanted to find a foreigner to be her boyfriend, because she asked if any foreign single boys I knew, and wanted me to introduce it. .
I asked why, she sighed and said, mainly because her conditions are not very good, she is not tall and not beautiful, and many Chinese boys she met didn’t like her, so she wanted to try it with a foreigner. Maybe foreigners have different aesthetics.
Because I have known her for a long time, I also understand her. She is not well-educated, and her parents and younger brothers have no jobs. Not only can they not help her, but she often needs to take money back. She has almost all the shortcomings in marriage and love, and it is nothing more than so many failed blind dates.
Fortunately, when she was in school, she learned a small language, Persian, so she occasionally served as a temporary translation for businessmen from Iran and other countries who came to China for a few days under the introduction of friends. However, due to the lack of continuity in work, in general Said that the income is not much.
Later, she met an Iranian boy who came to Guangzhou to do business. The boy's father was doing business in China. Later, his father returned to China and he was in China.
After getting along for a while, the two got married in China. But this marriage was very strange. The boy did not tell his parents. The boy said his parents would definitely disagree with him marrying a Chinese girl, so he first concealed the marriage from them, and then slowly infiltrated his parents. .
After marriage, the boy returned to Iran and wanted to find his parents to get some money to continue his business, but he never came back. The boy said that his parents stopped him from coming to China, stopped giving him money, and stopped him from doing business in China.
The boy couldn't come back, so he had to tell the truth to his parents that he had married a girl in China. When his parents heard that he was furious, his mother went to the hospital for a heart attack and said he was cheated by a Chinese girl.
While he was with him, he was probably brainwashed by his family and felt ashamed of his parents, so he told the girl to stop waiting for him. Let this relationship end! This foreigner, he didn't think about the harm his decision caused to the girl.
The girl was so sad that she made countless calls, and then the boy was annoyed and stopped answering the phone. The girl went to the Iranian Embassy in China, but after reading the documents she brought, the embassy said that the marriage was invalid and they could do nothing because the boy’s single certificate did not pass the embassy. In other words, although this boy was married in China, his identity as a bachelor when he returned to Iran does not affect his marriage and childbirth. The poor girl has become a married lady.
The girl said, it’s okay to break up, but you have to come to China. If you don’t come to go through the formalities with me, how do you get a divorce? But they don't come, because it doesn't matter if they don't get divorced.
If the boy doesn't come to China, her divorce will take a lot of troubles, and she doesn't know when she will leave.
She also has a friend who also married an Iranian. The procedure is recognized by both countries. She has lived in Iran for many years and ran a shop by herself. Now she is in a emotional crisis and still can’t get married because there is no woman in Iran. The right to divorce, as long as her husband disagrees, she has nothing to do. Now her Iranian husband says that if she gets a divorce, she must have all the property in her name. This is her many years of hard work, how can she be willing, but if she doesn't give it, people will not leave.
I met a ghostly French husband who refused to apply for a residence card for her. She was unable to communicate with her language and did not have a job. Her husband asked to return to China for divorce every day. He did not have to pay alimony because of the divorce in China.
The daughter of a friend. She married a Frenchman. The Frenchman had known each other when he was doing engineering in China. The girl is very clever and understands the procedures of marriage very well. She did not commit the mistake of the girl who married the Iranian. The procedures are complete and both countries have recognized it. This is the only way to obtain a marriage certificate with him in China.
After staying in China for two years, her husband’s project ended, so the two returned to France, but after returning to France, her husband was like a different person and immediately plunged into the local romantic atmosphere of France. I met a new girlfriend soon, and I became tired of her.
According to local law, her husband must apply for the residence card with her, but her husband does not accompany her to apply for the residence card. Without the residence card, there would be no job and no bank card.Without a medical insurance card, she can't participate in language classes. In France, she lives like a shadow. She can't go out to work, has no income, doesn't speak the language, can't integrate into the local life, and can only stay at home all day long.
Her husband began to accuse her, saying that she had not contributed to the family, saying that she was good at nothing except for her good looks, saying that she knew nothing and knew nothing.
doesn't have a job, and is accused by her husband every day, she almost suffers from depression. In this situation, the marriage cannot be maintained anymore.
At home, she is also a treasure in the palm of her parents' hands, but she was subjected to cold violence by her husband in a foreign country. The parents in China knew about it and felt very distressed, so they told her to divorce and come back.
As a result, her husband said that divorce is okay, but he cannot divorce in France and must return to China to leave.
Because if divorced in France, the man has to pay the woman a large amount of alimony, but in China there is no such rule. In order not to lose her economy, the French husband forced her to return to China for a divorce.
Only then did she understand why she didn't apply for a residence permit, why she was prevented from going out to work, because she wanted her to stay in France and forced her to return to China, because in this way, he didn't have to pay anything.
Looking at it now, this marriage must be divorced, but where to divorce is a problem. In France, according to the law, she would receive a large amount of alimony, but her husband disagreed, but verbally violently verbally abused her every day, calling her a liar, deceiving his feelings, saying that she was never married before she was married. Same, everything is to come to France, etc.
It is good to go back to China, but the girl is not reconciled. I have been with him for so many years, far away from home and relatives, and now I have been abandoned by others. Who can bear it? And that person is just a villain. He didn't have to pay a penny for a divorce when he returned to China.
As for her, because of her language barrier, she is still unable to compete with the French husband, so she has to find a local lawyer and find a way to divorce locally.
There are more and more foreign-related marriages. Foreign boys are generally handsome, well-built, warm and funny, cheerful and humorous. They are very attractive to girls, but foreign-related marriages are romantic on the surface.The inside is also highly unstable. For example, their identities, are their single certificates legal? There is also whether life customs, cultural thinking and other aspects can be in harmony. Both parties need to learn more about and get in touch with each other, and it is best to have a certain emotional foundation before entering into marriage.
Anyway, girls should keep their eyes open and be careful.
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