With the advent of an aging society, a large number of elderly people are single due to widowhood, divorce or other reasons. These empty-nest elderly people feel desolate in their later years. They also yearn for happiness, hoping to find their own happiness so that The rest of my life is no longer lonely.
Fate is destined, but the marriage of the elderly is not simply equated with feelings. They will put forward corresponding requirements for mate selection out of practical considerations. We have always criticized the current older youth for being too picky and leading to singleness. In fact, old age People are sometimes as picky about their other half as young people, but the ending is surprisingly similar: 's overly picky mate selection requirements will only keep themselves single all the time.
65-year-old Uncle Wang has been feeling lonely since his wife died unexpectedly in 2006, because his children are not by his side, so he has been looking for his other half through various channels.
Uncle Wang said that when his wife was alive, his wife took care of the house, and he didn't know how to do housework. Take care of yourself over the years.
However, there are unforeseen circumstances. In 2006, my wife died of a sudden illness while washing my clothes. The unexpected death of my wife made Uncle Wang feel that the sky was falling. After the family lost a mistress, Uncle Wang’s Home looks messy .
Others also persuaded Uncle Wang to take care of the house, so that even if a single woman came over, he would leave a good impression, but Uncle Wang thought that himself did not like to clean up . , I don't need to do it deliberately in order to please others. It is a woman's job to clean up the housework. It is best if and can be accepted by the other party, . It doesn't matter if you can't accept it.
Not only that, Uncle Wang is also reluctant to wear clean and tidy clothes when blind date , generally only wear ordinary clothes, he explained that clean clothes have to be washed once they go out and wear them back, which is too troublesome, so he just wears the usual casual clothes. It's also quite natural. Besides, when looking for an blind date, you must first look at the other person first. If you don't like everything, don't talk about it.
Uncle Wang admits that he has had more than 200 blind dates, and records each other's personal conditions and information each time. Now he has accumulated several booklets, but none of the more than 200 single women satisfy him, so he is in turned to TV station under the corner of , hoping to expand the scope of their mate selection to find a good match.
But when asked about the requirements for choosing a mate, Uncle Wang said that his requirements are not high, first, the person should be pleasing to the eye, and the appearance should not be low; second, clean and free of any disease; third, good personality, Must be gentle and virtuous and good wife and good mother , these three requirements for mate selection cannot be less.
Among these three requirements, Uncle Wang especially emphasized that women should not weigh more than 120 pounds. I can't accept a woman who is too fat.
But the reporter euphemistically said that Uncle Wang is not thin, why must he be strict with the weight of the other half. As a result, Uncle Wang said that he is in better condition and has a woman with better capital requirements. The annual rent is only 100,000 yuan, plus my own pension, and the annual guarantee starts at 120,000 yuan.
Uncle Wang keeps emphasizing that if a man wants to find a better woman, he must have confidence , and this confidence comes from his strong economic foundation, otherwise everything will be in vain, so he hopes that he will use the help of this time The exposure of the TV station can harvest their own happiness.
Uncle Wang’s more than 200 blind dates have exposed us the expectations, mentality and requirements of the elderly towards their other half. From the perspective of personal wishes, everyone has the right to pursue their own happiness, so everyone also has the option to choose a mate freedom to demand.
, but no matter what kind of requirements we put forward, its core purpose is to find our other half, , so we should put forward corresponding mate selection requirements based on our own actual conditions and actual needs, too idealization will only make He went to the end in loneliness, and finally seemed to run counter to his original intention.
Uncle Wang is an old man who has been widowed for many years, so the motivation of the elderly to choose a spouse is obviously different from that of young people and middle-aged people. In the sunset of life, the purpose of remarriage for the elderly is to dispel their inner loneliness , support and take care of each other, and each other becomes the pillar and driving force for the other half to survive.
Therefore, the purpose and functional needs of the elderly in choosing a mate appear to be more obvious and strong, but from the perspective of Uncle Wang's mate selection requirements, There are certain realistic needs in his requirements, but there are also some real needs in his words. Showing selfishness and arrogance.
Twilight love focuses on taking care of and supporting each other, and each other must be considered for each other. After all, the elderly have already passed that kind of romantic age. They hope that the appearance of the other half can improve their quality of life in old age, but Uncle Wang asked the other party to give Taking care of the housework by himself and being a good wife and mother in this family makes people feel that he has no real consideration and at least respect for the other half, which makes us more willing to believe: He is looking for a free nanny .
This kind of thinking reveals that Uncle Wang is an extreme egoist, but he has not seriously reflected that since he is looking for his wife and he has requirements, Does the other party have no requirements? Why should the other party willingly come to be a free babysitter? What convenience and benefits can you bring to the other party? Twilight Love itself is to get what they need, to play the effect of one plus one greater than two, extreme selfishness will only make smart women choose to stay away.
Furthermore, Uncle Wang has repeatedly emphasized the importance of appearance in his words, hoping to find a beautiful woman as his wife, and at the same time expressing contempt and insult to fat women, which makes people sneer, old age mate selection has become a draft , relying on his annual guaranteed income of 120,000 yuan, placing himself in a high position, and having a very small feeling about the choice of the other half.
As a senior single senior who has more than 200 blind dates, it is not wrong for him to be obsessed with his own mate selection requirements, but he cannot despise or even attack others. believes that if a person still cannot find a good match after more than 200 blind dates, then Reflect on yourself instead of blaming too few suitable women.
The success of a blind date depends on the wishes of both parties. If is too high or not, will be missed, even if there are more marriage opportunities, you must know that there is no perfect person in the world, and of course, you are not perfect either. People, The elderly should focus more on their mate selection. Only the combination of the two parties can achieve the purpose of improving the quality of life in their later years, and then they can enjoy the happiness of their later years. They unilaterally propose ideal mate selection requirements from their own interests. The old man will be helpless to himself.
What do you think of this Uncle Wang's request for a blind date? What do you think of him being so persistent in sticking to his 3 blind date requirements? Welcome to leave a message for discussion, thank you!
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