Zhang Xiaoxian said in " women's practice": "Life is a show, each of us has our own attitude, when you don't care about other people's thoughts and eyes, you can enough Get out of your way."
agreed. Many women always want to please others and please the society. But how many years, or when, will you know how to please yourself?
A woman who does not know how to please herself and only spends her time trying to please others is doomed to be unhappy. Because they dare not say no to anyone except themselves, because they know that once the word "no" is said, they will always feel sorry for others, feel extremely uncomfortable and can't let go.
They are always used to saying sorry to others, even if it is not their own fault, they must admit it first, as if this can give them psychological comfort and make others feel comfortable.
They are always over-interpreted and sensitive to an thing or a sentence. Even if he has other thoughts in his heart, he does not dare to say it. In my heart, I desperately wanted to be someone who could be needed and depended on by everyone.
They are the best old people with temperament . They like to think about problems from the perspective of others, but in the process, they only make themselves forget how to be happy and happy.
Therefore, even if such people have a very good reputation in the mouths of others, it cannot hide the fact that they will heal and comfort themselves in many dark nights alone.
Japanese writer Osamu Dazai said in " Human Disqualification ": "My misfortune lies precisely in my lack of ability to refuse."
Like this, you will only reject yourself, never dare to reject other women, never know how to please yourself, and every day is actually very tiring.
Of course, many people will think that such is not entering marriage, marrying A good person can live a happier life when he can rely on him?
I don't agree with the idea of this type of person. The reason why this type of woman is tired is actually due to her character. If you can't change this character, even if you marry No matter how good a person is, they can’t change the status quo.
A good marriage is not everything. In fact, there are three types of women, even if they marry well, they will be very tired. I hope you don’t take any of them. There is no bottom line, it is very common for women to compromise
again and again, especially in women in their 40s and 50s. Women in this age group are often soft-hearted and have no bottom line.
The husband who was drunk and troubled, obviously could not bear it, but he was still soft-hearted when he saw his vomited stomach, or when he turned over in bed and couldn't sleep, he endured his temper and went to to clean up his vomit.
Faced with a child who is unwilling to clean up the house, his heart is clearly furious, but he still endures his temper and chooses to compromise. She did not marry well, but most of the later "tiredness" was caused by herself.
When her husband is drunk for the first time, a woman should show her bottom line and tell her husband that she can accept his drinking. The number of times, the degree of intoxication. If it is the same next time, there will be a corresponding punishment.
In this way, the husband will know what to do when he drinks, whether he should drink less or not be punished at home.
When the child does not clean up the house and wash the clothes for the first time, tell her the bottom line that you can tolerate. Even if you don't want to do it again, you will not do it for her, so that the child can have the opportunity to exercise on his own.
A woman who is soft-hearted and has no bottom line will only compromise again and again. And these compromises are the source of fatigue. Because of the lack of principles, because of her character, it is destined that even if she is given another chance to marry, she will still live her life like this, making her body tired and her heart even more tired.
02: There is always a heart to worry about, and always loves to manage.
There are always women who are always worried about us. We will find that such women are often prone to insomnia .
Because as soon as they lie down, their minds will be like a movie, filtering all the things during the day, and then thinking about it.
For example, is it time to take both parents for a physical examination, whether the materials that the husband will use tomorrow have been put away for him, whether the children’s homework is written, whether the books are put away, etc. All trivial things will flicker frequently. . And these became the main culprits that caused them to be so excited that they couldn't sleep.
Insomnia will make people feel a sudden increase in pressure, and overthinking will make people prone to anxiety, and it is not uncommon for people to feel tired. Even if a person like
is married, he will find a lot of things to manage. In fact, for women, many things do not need to be so serious.
As an adult, he has the ability to do things well for his husband; as a child, he should also cultivate the habit of not relying on his parents since childhood; as for parents, they are also aware of their own bodies when they are old.
Be a little confused, don't be too serious, don't worry too much, then you can relax and relax more and more, and you won't be so tired.
03: Always complaining, never letting go of a small thing in life
"Complaining" is a common problem for many women. Poorly married women complain, we can understand that.
Complains that the husband's salary is not high enough to support the family, that the quality of the population in the community is too low, and that when you go out, you will always be smoked by littering garbage, and that there are too many injustices in this society, and it is so difficult to make money.
Strangely, well-married women also complain. Even if I go to the supermarket, I can complain countless times, and I never feel that it is my own problem.
When your life is always full of complaints, how can you see the bright side of life? Such a person who likes to complain, no matter how well married they are, and no matter how well they live, will live a very tiring life, and will make the hearts of those around them even heavier.
Because such people never know how to examine themselves, is there a problem with their character?
A woman's character not only affects herself, but also affects the luck of a family.
For such a soft-hearted woman, who loves to worry and complain, no matter how well married she is, can escape the fate of 's life and hard work.
For a woman, if she wants to make life better, she must seek self-change. Character determines fate. If you do this blindly, you can only make yourself sink deeper and deeper into the abyss.
Learn to please yourself, learn to face life positively, learn to have your own bottom line for everything, learn to make yourself difficult to be confused, maybe this change, life can develop towards the way you dream, and you can finally see See the beauty of this world.
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