recently revisited the hit drama " Thirty Only ", which brought the life of a 30-year-old back into the focus of public discussion.
is approaching 30, what kind of thoughts should you have? This is really confusing, because I have experienced a lot and think I have grown up, but when I encounter things again, I will think about it after finishing the process, and I still feel that there are many shortcomings. Maybe this is the growth of a person. At thirty, I am not confused at forty, and at the age of thirty, I still have too many puzzles.
Actually, more than 2,000 years ago, Confucius gave us the best comment about the age of 30. The master said: "I am determined to learn when I am fifteen, I am standing at thirty, I am not confused at forty, I know the destiny at fifty, and I am six. When you are ten, your ears are obedient, when you are seventy, you can do what you want without breaking the rules.”
Actually, if we look at how to write “Li”, we can probably understand what Confucius meant.
Confucius said that standing is "one person", standing on "one", you are now a person, you stand on "one"; Landing, don't have too many desires, this "one" is the habitat of one branch;
Confucius said, a man is thirty, he has seen all the twists and turns, it is time to be transparent and sophisticated, observe the small things in the world, understand the overall situation, and see the big and small waves at a glance. Whether it is a girl or twists and turns, this "one" is a leaf that knows autumn;
Confucius said, man you, come when you should come, don't be afraid if you come, don't be stupid if you don't come, setbacks are like pregnancy, late pregnancy people abound, At the age of 30, don't think that the distinction between success is only what you have and what you don't have. There was a popular saying on the
network, "A middle-aged person is a journey to the west. Wukong pressure, Bajie's figure, Sha Seng's hair volume, Tang Seng the same ramble... The key is that it is getting closer and closer to Xitian . "Actually, at the age of 30, it is time for us to take our own unique and definite step on the long journey to learn lessons.
I always believe that standing at 30 is not a career, but a person.
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Love : To have a stable and peaceful relationship - mutual support is the true meaning of holding hands.
At the age of 30, we should have a love that supports each other, tolerates each other, gives each other, and never leaves.
Qian Zhong The love story between the book and Yang Jiang should have been heard by many people.
Yang Jiang is a typical lady, and her fingers do not touch the spring water, but she is willing to cook for Qian Zhongshu, chopping wood and burning fire, From a talented girl who doesn't eat human fireworks to a master of housework. Qian Zhongshu is a clumsy person in life, but in order to make Yang Jiang happy, he will secretly get up early to make breakfast for his wife.
Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang, two talented and beautiful women, have walked hand in hand for 63 years.
Qian Zhongshu praised Yang Jiang: "Before I met her, I never thought of getting married; I have been married to her for decades, and I have never regretted marrying her; I never thought of marrying someone else. "The best form of
love is that both parties are willing to pay for each other, from black hair to white head, sticking together through thick and thin.
has a harmonious and stable rear, which must be the basic plan for us to make a difference.
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Friendship: a group of friends who share weal and woe - wealth that will be possessed by both the poor and the poor.
Friendship is as important as family. Friendship is the driving force for your life to sail. An important gift, life without friendship is lonely shameful, such a life is as dark and damp as walking dead , and there is no joy in life at all.
We are familiar with the story recorded in "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" , saying that three people with lofty ideals, Liu Bei , Guan Yu and Zhang Fei , in order to do a great cause together, they were congenial, words and deeds depended on each other. In a season when peach blossoms are in full bloom, in a garden with gorgeous peach blossoms, drinking wine and sworn to heaven, we will share sufferings, difficulties, and blessings, so as to realize the beautiful ideal of our life together. The three brothers have a deep relationship, to death .
In short, we need to form an independent personal social network and social credit, and have a social network that we recognize and maintain in the arena and society. Your own social network supports you to solve most of your problems and needs. There are some close friends who recognize and support you. In the scene, has the ability to introduce friends and help to others. When you ask for help, you always There are so many people who responded positively.
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The development direction of life - know the direction, clarify the responsibilities, and live down-to-earth.
There are two things in life: survival and doing valuable things. The popular point is life and work.
Life exists in this world and is only divided into life and work. You have to be clear about your own development direction, and then you can find your own path in life, and all the material in life comes from work. As long as you determine the development direction of your work, you will naturally lead the way. development of life.
is like this, you have to think of ways to come up with new tricks, come up with new things, and create new things. That is to say, if you can't create and innovate in life, there will be no development. If you don’t develop and others make progress, it means you are behind, you are eliminated from society, you are surpassed by others, or even “replaced” by others.
There is only a "dead end" if you don't move forward, grow up, and make progress. To borrow the words of Comrade Deng Xiaoping: "Any way is a dead end."
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is a skill - love it, cultivate it Carry out appropriate consumption and investment actions without relying on parents. With a single portal, you can also use your own identity to show up in social scenes and accept the entertainment needs of people coming and going.
Learn a specialty and master a craft, as the saying goes: "No matter what field you become an expert in, your life is half the battle."
tries to practice and master a stylistic specialty. Sports can strengthen the body and lay the foundation for the walking society. Learning a literary specialty can not only cultivate your own sentiments, but also make you stand out from the crowd in future social activities. Stick to your hobbies and you will find your second self in life.
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Personal Style——Thoughts and Methods for Viewing and Solving Problems
Standing at thirty, what is standing? It is to have self-determination and opinions, no longer follow others' opinions, and no longer waste youth.
As a mature person at the age of 30, in most cases, you should learn to communicate with yourself, don't care too much about other people's eyes, you should constantly think and appreciate your own when you are alone, and know how to analyze and sublimate yourself. Because no matter how well you do, there will still be people pointing and pointing; even if you are a mess, there will still be people singing praises. So don't fall into the eyes of others, you need to please, just yourself.
In short, at the age of 30, we should stand like this:
has a foothold in society, distinguishes right from wrong, has the ability to withstand bad luck, has our own beliefs, knows what we want, what kind of people we become, dare to pursue, and do not give up easily.
lives under the framework of this era, is not influenced by the so-called mainstream values and public opinion, keeps its original intention, and is not weak, uncompromising, and not bewildered by the principles it adheres to.
does not rely too much on people and things, and has a good sense of proportion, but it can also be brave and free and easy, and prepare for the worst. After failure, it can still regain confidence and not lose goodwill.
occasionally looks back, focusing on the future, not confused, and has an attitude. Independence can lead to physical and mental freedom.
