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According to data, as of now, the number of singles in my country is expected to exceed 250 million, and single families have accounted for 16.69% of the total number of families.
Under the background of this huge single group, blind date is no longer as secretive as it used to be, but has become a new social mode for men and women in the new era.
At the same time, the content of blind date is not only limited to the simple marriage relationship of "talking about marriage", but also injects a new "social culture", especially with the influx of post-90s and 95s into the blind date market, A new set of standards popular in the blind date market makes people even call it "too realistic".
After working hard for several years, the "high-quality youth" who own houses and cars in second-tier cities are at the bottom of the blind date market. A Fortune 500 state-owned enterprise went to work and bought two houses and a car in the local provincial capital within a few years.
But our envy is full of irony in Zhiqiang's view. In his words, is actually just superficial.
It turned out that Zhiqiang, because he had been working hard in his career for the past few years, did not care about his family at all. When he was finally able to gain a firm foothold in this second-tier city, he found that all the friends around him had already started a family and started a business with . Zhiqiang, a partner, set his sights on the blind date market.
Zhiqiang has never been worried about blind dates. He has superior height and appearance, and he has two suites in the provincial capital city, how can he win a place in the blind date market . But the last blind date made Zhiqiang, who has always been arrogant and arrogant in , touched his nose.
Zhiqiang, who participated in the "pipeline" blind date, met three girls with similar temperaments in a row, but when Zhiqiang introduced to that his parents were in the countryside and had no pension , the three girls Involuntarily, he retreated, and his attitude suddenly became cold.
A girl even said bluntly:
Parents do not have pensions that means there is no guarantee, no matter how hard you work, it will be in vain, even if you marry you, you will be charged with serving the elderly in the future. In the current blind date market, the parent level is the " hard currency ".
Only then did Zhiqiang realize that in the current blind date market, 's parents' pensions have become hard currency . After
95, the new standard of blind date is exposed: parents are more popular if they have "two and one or no", and few are satisfied.
In the past, people's impression that blind date not only requires mutual goodwill between two people, but also "votes, cars, houses" , child" is the four-character counterpart satisfying .
According to the data from the "2019 Single Crowd Survey Report ", single women in first-tier cities require men's salary to be around 13,000. Even in new first-tier cities, men's salary should be above 8,000.
In the current post-95 blind date market, wages are no longer hard currency, and the level of parents will be more popular to some extent.
Parent Criteria 1: "Two have", have money (retirement) and a good body To be considered in advance, the economic conditions of both parents are an important part of it.
For those parents who have pensions, at least they can bear their own basic life after retirement. Do not ask their children for money at every turn., which can objectively reduce their children's living burden.
In addition to pensions, the good health of parents is also the focus of attention of girls in the current blind date market.
After all, is young and in good health parents can not only help the current young with housework, but when young people become parents and mothers, both parents, especially grandparents, can also help take care of their children . If the old man is not in good health, the boy is likely to be excluded from the girl from the beginning.
Parent Standard 2: "Nothing", no bad hobbies Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law appear conflict is naturally inevitable.
Not to mention the birth of Xiaobao in the future, conflicts will break out more frequently.
Today's young people want to enjoy happiness after marriage, they should at least prepare these three kinds of before marriage.
This means that after marriage, you can no longer be like before marriage, without the most basic sense of money. Especially for boys, as the support of the future family, it is necessary to do a good job of economic reserves after marriage before marriage.
Furniture preparation, family life after marriage, and the birth of a baby are all "money shredders" for deposits.
【Preparation 2】: Psychological preparation
Whether for boys or girls, marriage means a new family combination. Your words and deeds say that you must first take care of the harmony of the small family, so as to ensure that everyone does not conflict.
Husbands and wives should learn to understand each other and think about problems from each other's perspective. Only in this way can the contradiction be eliminated.
【Preparation 3】: Anti-stress preparation
This is undoubtedly a requirement for men. In the face of the precarious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage, men must learn to properly handle and adjust the pressure from two aspects, do their own "rat in the bellows" positioning , so as to avoid the expansion of family conflicts.
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