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Hetian Feige | original article
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As early as 1887, a US judge from the law Interpreting marriage from the perspective of "Strong1strong", he said, marriage has its romantic side, but as judges, we only value the commercial side.
Judges will treat marriage as a commercial contract. They are more concerned about whether this commercial contract is concluded fairly, whether it can be performed well, and whether it can guarantee the happiness of the marriage.
Even now, if you look through the Marriage Law, you will find that the Marriage Law still protects property, not feelings.
Maybe when you are in love, you can't bear to weigh your love and material together, because in your heart, love is sacred and cannot be touched with vulgar material. However, once you can't distinguish the relationship between love and material things before marriage, it will bring many potential hidden dangers to marriage.
Love is certainly a factor in forming a marriage, but a marriage without material protection, or a marriage with only material and no love, will not be a happy marriage.
Therefore, before concluding a marriage, both parties must provide emotional material guarantee for the future marriage life. This is a marriage document that both parties must sign. Both parties must have the spirit of contract. Once the negotiation is reached, they must abide by it.
In a business society, the spirit of contract is very important, and in marriage, the spirit of contract is equally important. It runs through the whole process of marriage. Both spouses must restrain themselves, pay something, and use their lives to fulfill this. A marriage contract. Once the spirit of the contract is gone, the marriage will also be hurt.
It was weird to hear a friend talk about something during the holidays. The groom happily went to pick up the bride the day before, but it didn't happen; the groom filed for divorce the next day. This is because of the lack of contract spirit,Emotional extortion led to the failure of the marriage.
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Qi Jun (pseudonym) is the male protagonist in this farce marriage. Originally, he had been in love with his girlfriend for more than a year, and he finally got the right result, and in order to get married, He also gave almost all of himself and his family.
His parents are just wage earners. Although he has started a company himself, he has just started and is basically maintained, and sometimes he has a small loss. In order to get married, he only kept less than 20,000 yuan on the company's books, and he was always scared and afraid of accidents.
He thought he showed his greatest sincerity to his girlfriend and her parents, and he would marry his girlfriend home smoothly, because before that, he had settled a lot of things that had happened around the marriage, although his body and mind All tired, it can be regarded as all things calmed down.
Since Qi Jun started his business, he can’t wait to split his time from one minute into two minutes. Falling in love is a waste of time for him. He wanted to wait for himself to make some achievements and make money before talking about getting married. But his parents were too eager, and he didn't want to be swayed by his parents, so he obeyed his parents and went on a blind date. As a result, he really saw the target of the blind date. Got an eye.
The blind date, his later girlfriend, and his wife Huang Mei (a pseudonym) who divorced before he took the door, Qi Jun also fell in love at first sight. It's no wonder that Huang Mei comes from a small place, and his vision is definitely not as good as Qi Jun. After coming out of school, Qi Jun has been working hard in society. He has experienced a lot and has a broader vision. In addition to doing business, he has developed a good eloquence. In Huang Mei’s eyes, Qi Jun is pretty good. , But he is very knowledgeable, humorous, and has a company, which is very attractive to Huang Mei. Later, she went to the Qi Jun company to see it. Although she was young, Qi Jun worked very hard, and Huang Mei felt very practical. Therefore, she and Qi Jun have been talking for more than a year.
During this period, Qi Jun has been very busy. At the beginning, Huang Mei accompanied Qi Jun silently. After talking for more than half a year, Huang Mei used her parents to urge Qi Jun to say that she wanted to get married. But Qi Jun never responded, and he was rushed. Qi Jun said that he wanted to make some achievements and make more money so that he could marry Huang Mei.
Huang Mei can only pressure Qi Jun from his parents. The filial Qi Jun had to promise his parents,Marry Huang Mei six months later. Who could have imagined that instead of marrying Huang Mei in the door half a year later, on the contrary, the two divorced.
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Qi Jun is very busy. When discussing marriage, all the conditions are that his parents are talking to Huang Mei's parents.
Huang Mei’s parents asked Qi’s family for 200,000 beauties, 23,000 dollars, and they had to bear the drinks for the wedding banquet of the wife’s family.
Qi Jun was very angry when he heard that, the local bride price is only 100,000, and the woman’s family asks for it twice; why does the woman’s family have a banquet and the drinks have to be served by himself? He complained to his parents: he just did it. Can't you wait for me to come back after a bad trip?
There is no way, the parents have nodded in front of the in-laws, and they have to bear the expenses. In order to prevent accidents, Qi Jun specifically talked to Huang Mei.
Huang Mei assured him that there would be no other expenses, and she would not allow her parents to make any demands. Qi Jun was relieved now. He grabbed the money from the family and the company, after thinking about it, gritted his teeth and left only 20,000 yuan in the company account, because a sum of money arrived in the account after half a month. As long as there is no accident, he should be able to deal with it. .
Everything is ready. One night before the wedding, Qi Jun suddenly received a call from the wedding butler, saying that the woman’s family asked him to prepare a sum of money to open the door, and informed him in advance that he was given time to prepare, otherwise he might not be able to pick it up. bride.
When Qi Jun asked how many, the number frightened him. The wedding steward said: 60,000.
Qi Jun immediately called Huang Mei. Huang Mei said that she didn't know about it, and she was going to ask her parents. Qi Jun waited all night, but did not wait for Huang Mei's reply. He was anxious to call Huang Mei's parents, either turning off the phone or not answering.
He can only explain the difficulties to the wedding housekeeper, but the wedding housekeeper said that the woman’s family told him that way. He was only responsible for passing on the words, and he would pass on Qi Jun’s words to the woman’s family, but the woman’s family could not be contacted at all. It could only be conveyed early the next morning.
Qi Jun likes to have backups when he does things. He has no money, so he can only do backups that he has to marry if he has no money. He wanted to take a gamble, betting that Huang Mei would not make him embarrassed.
But the reception scene the next day disappointed him.
early in the morning,He went to Huangmei's house with the happily accepting family. Unsurprisingly, the door of Huang Mei's house was closed tightly, and the windows were crowded with neighbors and folks who came to see the excitement.
Qi Jun stepped forward and knocked on the door, just listening to the question inside: "Are you ready to open the door?"
"Ready, you open the door!" Qi Jun replied helplessly.
As a result, the door said: "Then you put the money in the hanging basket and we will pull it up." The relatives of Huang Mei's family were smiling and looking at Qi Jun.
Qi Jun's face flushed, and he said to the door: "Let me pick up people first. When the wedding is over, I will give you the money from the gift money." Let’s go, the courtesy will be fine. What if you don’t admit it?"
Qi Jun only secured his life, but the door still didn't move.
The relatives of Huang Mei's family are still giving advice to Qi Jun: Did you bring the card? Go to the ATM to pick it up! No traffic jams in the morning, fast.
Qi Jun can't laugh or cry. He has a card, but there is no money on the card. How do I get it?
The more he waited, Qi Jun's anger rose, and the smiles on the faces of the people onlookers stimulated him like a thorn. He didn’t care about anyone’s face, and shouted loudly: "How can you be like you? I have clearly negotiated the terms. Now I have changed my mind and added 60,000 yuan to open the door. I have never heard of whether you are marrying your daughters or Selling my daughter! I don’t have money now, you can figure it out. Huang Mei, if you want to continue getting married, open the door and follow me now; otherwise, I’ll leave. Three, two, one!"
There was a lot of noise in the door. , But the door still did not open. Qi Jun turned around and left.
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A farce was staged in the eyes of Huangmei's relatives and neighbors. Qi Jun left without turning his head. What he didn't see was Huang Mei standing in the open door crying.
was useless, even if Huang Mei’s parents were accompanied by the wedding housekeeper the next day, they went to Qi Jun to discuss the aftermath, Qi Jun did not let go and agreed to their request to continue the wedding, and resolutely asked for a divorce from Huang Mei.
Huang Mei also left home and went to work outside the city after going through the divorce procedures with Qi Jun.
Marriage in business society,It is also contaminated with a commercial atmosphere. But it is also different from pure business behavior because there is emotion in it. In relationships, no one can tell who loses and who wins, but in relationships, there will always be favor and pride. Use emotions to place bets and bet on each other’s feelings for yourself. The spirit of contract in marriage is early Was thrown aside.
Of course, this kind of emotional kidnapping can sometimes be successful, sometimes it can't. Using emotional blackmail to replace compliance with the contract, there will eventually be a risk of losing out.
In marriage, love is the foundation, but promise is a guarantee. Without abiding by the marriage contract, it is difficult to have a happy life.
Sudden increase in the price of the bride price, the request to add this kind of money during the wedding, and the derailment in the marriage are also the result of the lack of contract spirit.
In marriage, whether it is material or emotional, once this paper marriage is signed, it means that a contract is signed, which should not only be legally valid but also have moral constraints; both parties have the obligation to comply. There is also the right to terminate the contract, but all should be the result of the negotiation under the premise of fairness and justice, rather than unilaterally tearing up the contract.
Some people say that the marriage is to feel the solid beauty from a real relationship . If there is no spirit of contract, will the people around you live in fear?
Now that the marriage contract has been concluded, you should fulfill it in your life; if you really can’t make it, then it’s better to say goodbye to each other, and to be happy in each life.
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