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There is a program in "The Defense of Love". A female guest complained on the stage that her boyfriend was too stingy.
She said that her boyfriend rarely gives her gifts, even for her birthday, cakes and roses are just emoticons. She didn't care too much because she was considerate of her boyfriend's bad family situation.
For the first time, I officially took my boyfriend home to meet his parents. The boyfriend asked what gifts he wanted to buy.
She didn't want her boyfriend to spend money, so she said: "You don't need to buy too expensive things, just bring some local products."
As a result, boyfriend really only mentioned a bag of potatoes as a meeting gift.
Maybe this is a story deliberately made up by the program team for bloggers' eyeballs. The predecessor of a friend of mine is the king's operation.
My friend's family is richer, and he has been spoiled since childhood. I made a boyfriend in college, but he did not spoil her as much as she thought.
She spends a lot of money and doesn't want her boyfriend to be burdened. She basically pays for the expenses of love.
Once, she saw that a young couple in front of her was eating yogurt together, so she coquettishly pestered her boyfriend to buy yogurt for six yuan.
boyfriend refused, of course this is not a climax.
climax is when her boyfriend explains: "I am actually very generous to others. I am stingy with you because I like you and want to marry you, so I need to cultivate your ability to save money and live a life."
Some people say, It is also a very important criterion to measure whether a man cares about you and whether he is willing to spend money for you.
Maybe the big deal is just digging a hole for you, and after catching it, I will go to the next routine. But hesitating and persevering, he is reluctant to spend a penny on you, don't expect him to be really nice to you.
Once you marry this kind of man,He will wrong you about food, clothing, and daily life. He will criticize you for everything you buy. Even if you spend your own money, he will not appreciate your high consumption.
At the age when we are dazzled by love, we always think that true love is invincible, and we are full of water even if we eat sauerkraut.
To taste some of the hardships of life, if asks what can beat love, just a piece of clothing that is reluctant to buy at a discount.
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There is also a torture phenomenon in relationships. Strong5strong means that the other party does not break up with you or mention marriage.
One of my readers has been together with her boyfriend in the junior year. After five years of graduation, he did not put marriage on the agenda.
During this period, it was indeed due to some force majeure factors at the beginning.
The first time I mentioned to my parents, the boy's father had a stroke; the second time he mentioned marriage, the boy's grandma was admitted to the ICU in critical condition. Later, when the epidemic ran into, both parents were unable to meet.
This reader of mine really wants to get married as soon as possible, so that relatives and friends are not allowed to watch jokes, , but boys have not been able to speak correctly, and they collapsed when they mentioned marriage.
She said that she really couldn't wait any longer, she couldn't afford it, and it would be fine to get together if she didn't get married, and the boys refused to nod their heads.
She also wanted to cut the mess with a knife, but she couldn't be so cool when she broke up. After all, she had been in love for so many years, and her boyfriend still owed her money.
Marriage reminder does not accomplish debt collection. Whether you get married or repay the money, the answer is always next month.
She has already sunk in the mud and can't pull it out. But she also gave herself a deadline, if the other party did not propose before the National Day this year, she would break up.
All the youth and the money that I don’t get back, I just feed the dog.
In "Dear Inn",Liu Tao once said to Ji Lingchen: “If you don’t propose before she (Kan Qingzi) is 30 years old, maybe you really don’t want to marry you after the age of 30.”
What Ji Lingchen said at the time was that she wanted to bear everything and buy a car. Buying a house allows you to raise your family, and you can get married with a certain amount of financial strength. In this way, he is responsible and responsible, but unfortunately it takes time to accumulate.
Kan Qingzi has been working hard in the entertainment industry for many years, and she has begun to long for a stable life and wants to have a home. Since Ji Lingchen can't give her everything she wants, it doesn't seem surprising that they broke up.
At 30 years old, if you don’t marry me, I can live alone. I can tolerate your immaturity, but I can't wait for you to grow up.
Life is like a mountain. When I was 20, I needed to go through a period of obstacles. I needed your company. You didn't come.
When I was 30 years old, I climbed to the top of the mountain alone. Your presence is meaningless.
You and I didn't meet in front of the mountain, don't meet behind the mountain.
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Men’s mouths, deceptive ghosts. Except transferring money and marrying you, everything else is fake.
If a man is poor, but makes people feel loving, hopeful, and full of energy, you may marry him. Because you know, a man with this energy will not be poor for too long.
You are just afraid of marrying a man who will make you poor for a lifetime and take it for granted. , in addition to dismissing you as a drag on him, he probably can't find any reasonable excuses for his failure.
Someone asked, girls who have been studying for so long and reading so many books have to return to an ordinary city in the end, do an ordinary job, marry a wife, wash and cook, and teach each other, why bother toss?
I think their persistence,It should be because even if you end up falling into cumbersome and exhausted efforts, the same job, but a different mood; the same family, but a different sentiment; the same offspring, but a different quality.
You won't cherish what you get without hard work, and you will know the pain if you miss it. Whether it's a relationship or a career, I have worked hard and have it, and I feel the most fulfilled.
The most comfortable marriage in the world is not that men take money to raise women for a lifetime, nor is it that women become strong women and become extinct teachers.
It's that two people come together because of love, get married naturally, experience the squally rain of life together, and have spare money to enjoy the sunny sun of life.
They are not afraid of plainness or distance. They are busy with their present moment, and then the wheels turn and turn. The twists and turns that has had are all lubricants, and the road is slowly flattening.
For girls, whether they are single or married, they should constantly improve themselves at every stage so that they will not have the mentality of getting married.
Only when you become good enough can you have the opportunity to meet another person who is also trying to become better, like encountering treasures with each other, and then supporting each other to finish this life.
Appear in the other half's life, like a gift. We work hard, and then see you in high places.
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