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People will meet many people in this life.
Some people are mediocre but don't capture their beauty, some are jewels but arrogantly indulgent, and some people don't capture their edge to show off their brilliance.
I pick up a pen and write a "person" with a stroke, but I don't want to. The characters are easy to write and difficult to do; the characters are easy to read and difficult to understand!
A thousand people have a thousand faces, and their hearts are very different.
When people first meet, they always have a lot of friendship, but the shortcomings will gradually be exposed after getting along for a long time.
If you want to really know someone, you need to start from these five levels: appearance, talent, character, kindness, and character.
After reading and comparing yourself, work hard and behave upright.
01 Begins with the value of the face
As the saying goes, people cannot look like people, and sea water cannot be counterbalanced.
But it cannot be denied that a good image can bring you more opportunities.
After all, who would be willing to deal with someone who is sloppy and sloppy?
Never expect a second chance to change one’s first impression.
Someone once did such a psychology experiment:
Psychologists showed passers-by a set of photos of strangers and asked them to evaluate them based on their feelings after reading them.
found thatPeople generally give high marks to people who appear more attractive.
all say that beautiful faces are the same, and interesting souls are one in a million.
But as Yang Lan said: “No one is obliged to discover your excellent inner appearance through a sloppy appearance that doesn’t even care about yourself.”
Appearance is given by your parents, yes, but thirty After years of age, your appearance is the result of your own practice.
Men can not be handsome, but they must be clean, women can not be beautiful, but they cannot be without temperament.
Although your temperament is invisible and intangible, your gestures reveal uniqueness.
A person's temperament is not innate. The books you have read, the road you have traveled, and the stories you have experienced will slowly show up in the time.
will help you in the years to come.
02 Respect for talent
There are not many smart people in the world, roughly one in ten; but the wise are even rarer, estimated to be no one in a hundred miles.
Smart people are indeed more popular, but people who are too smart are often mistaken for being smart in the end.
Two geese and a frog became friends. They decided to go back to the south together, but how to get there became a problem.
The frog had an idea: it let two wild geese hold a branch, hold it in the middle of the branch with its mouth, and fly to the sky together.
The frogs on the ground clapped their hands enviously and exclaimed: "Who is so smart?"
The frog was afraid that he would miss the opportunity to express himself, so he said loudly: "This is me..."
After speaking, it fell from the air.
There is a famous saying in "Span87span Caigen Tan ": "The low land becomes the sea, and the low man is the king."
The word "low" is not only a good recipe for people, but also a key to life.
The big thousand world is all birds, the eagle flies high and the purple swallows low back, and the same beasts, the rabbit is petite and the green cow is tall.
Everyone has their own abilities. Rather than sing the stalwartness of others, it is better to give yourself more applause.
When your talent can't support your ambition, you should calm down and learn.
Smart people like to show their luminous side to everyone to show their outstanding talents, while wise people usually let others show the good side, absorb the truth, goodness, and beauty of others, and perfect themselves.
The true talent and wisdom is knowing how to converge in a timely manner, look at yourself with a magnifying glass, and look at others with reading glasses.
03 Fit in with personality
There are no two identical leaves in this world, and naturally there will not be two people with exactly the same personality.
But the three views are the same, which is the most basic bottom line for human interaction.
Things are gathered together, and people are divided into groups.
is not suitable for your circle, so don't force yourself. Even if you squeeze in, you will be beaten.
Mountain Tao and Ji Kang called the "Seven Sages of the Bamboo Grove" at the beginning. They were like-minded friends at first.
Shan Tao is about to be transferred, so he recommended Ji Kang as his seat.
But Ji Kang was proud of not being an official in his life, and angrily wrote the well-known "Book of Breaking Dating with the Mountain Giant Source", unilaterally announcing the break with his friends.
As the saying goes, the ways are different.
The three views are not in harmony, no one is right or wrong, but you like the sea, and he loves the forest.
The most comfortable relationship between people is when the mountains and rivers meet the friends.
He can understand your happiness, and will also feel sorry for your sadness. Even if there is a disagreement, both parties will discuss it carefully.
It’s better to stay for a long time if you’re happy at first sight.
When I am with people who have the same three views, my life goes well, and others feel comfortable.
04 Longer than kindness
After the sea ebbs,Countless small fish stay in the many sandpits on the beach. There is little water and they will dry out when the sun comes out.
A child ran around, throwing the little fish back into the sea one by one.
The adults met, and laughed: "There are so many little fishes, where are saved, who cares if you do this?"
The child replied as he threw, "This little fish cares! This little fish cares too... "_P6p
People often say: "Don't do small things for evil, and don't do small things for good."
In life, we cannot ask others how to behave, but at least we can restrain ourselves to be an upright and kind person.
Xunzi said: "Benevolence, justice and courtesy are good to people, and money is good to home."
Kindness is human nature and talent, it is the beauty from the heart, and it is the code of conduct for being a person.
It is kind to give hungry people a full meal, and to give a beacon to people who walk alone is also kind.
Give someone a rose, the hand has a lingering fragrance; throw a person in the mud, first defile one's hand.
What kind of person you are, what kind of people will you attract.
Those who love come will love to return, and those who are blessed will come blessed.
Being a human being, kindness will not suffer at all. Even if you suffer a small loss, you will have big blessings later.
Kind people, with a clear heart, sleep peacefully every night, people are willing to associate with them, and the road of life will be smoother and smoother.
05 Final character
The son said: "If you want to do things, you must first be holy."
means, do things, be a human first; only when you do things well, things can be done well.
A person's real wealth is not beauty or money, but character.
Character is more important than anything else. It is the foundation of a person's career, and it is also a person's hardest hole card.
Educator Ye Shengtao Mr. said this when he was educating his children to behave in the world:
A father asked his son to hand him a pen, and the son handed it over.I don't want to leave the pen in his father's hands.
The father said to his son:
"If you pass something to someone, it is convenient and inconvenient for someone to receive it.
You pass the pen, and they have to turn it upside down. If there is no pen cap, I also need to get some ink.
This is especially true for items such as knives and scissors. Never use the tip of the knife to face others."
Many times, the little things we ignore can reflect a person’s character. how is it.
A person of good character radiates positive energy and shines no matter where he goes.
And no matter how smart and capable a person is, if he doesn't know how to put himself in the hands of others and his depravity, then no one will ever get in touch with him.
I can often hear this voice:
"I treat others well, and others not only do not appreciate it, but instead raking in, do this kind of person still treat him as always?"
Actually, life is like a book , Write yourself for others to read, and do yourself well.
Compared with others, it is not great. The real one is better than the past self.
So, if you read others, you might as well be confused and close one eye. Life has no buttons to "delete" and "modify", so just write your own part.
encourage each other.
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