Text: Qiao Mu
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As the old saying goes, a married woman has no home, only her in-laws who can’t blend in, and her parents who can’t return.
But before I got married, because of the marriage of my brother and sister-in-law, I couldn't integrate into my natal family.
I am 28 years old, and there is a brother who is 5 years older than me. When I graduated from university and worked hard outside, my brother, who was 5 years older than me, just spent time in my hometown every day. drink.
He plays games every day, either in Internet cafes or at home. Anyway, he never thought about making money with his own hands, let alone starting a family and business with his own hands.
At that time, it was the hardest time in my life. I took a meager salary and worked as an intern in a big company. I knew nothing. Everything could only look at the faces of my colleagues around me. I walked on thin ice in a big company. .
Seeing such an unbelievable brother, of course I am angry. My mother always calls me to complain, but what can I do?
The only daughter is drifting outside and working outside. My mother never asks me, is it hard work? Is it enough? Have you been bullied by others?
In mother's world, she always pays attention to her brother. My elder brother hasn't been to work in the past few years, and his previous work has already been spent.
Dad also hates his brother's disagreement. He has ignored his brother a long time ago. Mom loves her only son. When her brother has no money to spend, she will take out her pension money and secretly give it to her brother.
My brother has been idle for the past few years. It was my mother who used her pension money to support him. If my mother didn't give him money, my brother should have gone to work early.
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So in the face of such a mother, such a brother, what can I say?
Mom thought about a so-called good way. She said that her son was not obedient, so just marry him a daughter-in-law, and his wife will take care of it later.
and my brother who did nothing,During the blind date, I finally met a good partner.
The woman’s family wants a gift of 100,000 yuan. Mom and Dad don’t have so much money in their hands. My brother’s money has long been spent. In order to let my brother get married early, my mother called me numerous calls and asked me to give my brother 5 Ten thousand yuan gift money.
In this way, with the support and help of our family, my brother got married and got his own family.
I thought that my brother after marriage was the beginning of his financial independence and the beginning of his life independence, but now I find that it is just my mother's wishful thinking, she really thinks too much.
My sister-in-law did not go to work after she was pregnant. My brother also quit his job when the sister-in-law gave birth.
A family of three wailing waiting to be fed, all using money, but no one goes out to make money.
My brother, sister-in-law, and children live with my parents. The living expenses of the family were not paid when they were rich. They do not have money now, and they will not have it.
When I want to spend money, my elder brother tries his best to ask my mother for it. My mother always prefers this elder brother, she always has the heart to bear all kinds of things. As long as my brother wants it, she will give it to me even if she eats pickles by herself brother.
In this way, after my brother got married, not only did my parents fail to lighten the burden, they even increased the burden. The two elderly people wanted to raise my brother and his family of three.
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I work in the field by myself. I am hardworking and hardworking, and I am not afraid of hardship. As long as I can help with work, I will participate in my studies. Slowly my income is getting higher and higher. This year Before the New Year, I finally got my first monthly salary of over 10,000 in my life.
When I told my mother the good news, all of them knew it.
A few days before the Chinese New Year, I bought a ticket to go home early for the New Year, although I have advised my mother countless times to let her leave my brother and sister-in-law and their affairs, they are already adults, they should, for themselves Responsible for his life.
If my mother is always responsible for them, how can they learn to be truly independent? How do you learn to truly rely on yourself?
What a pity for me,My mother never listened. If she listened at first, my brother would not be like this.
On the first day of the new year, my sister-in-law asked me for the new year's money through the child's mouth.
I took out the red envelope I prepared a long time ago and stuffed it into my niece's hand.
My sister-in-law opened it and found that there was only 500 yuan in New Year's Eve money, and her face changed.
"You have a monthly salary of tens of thousands, and you only give me 500 yuan for the new year's money. Why are you so stingy?" the sister-in-law said angrily.
"My monthly salary is tens of thousands, which is all earned by myself. The 500 yuan lucky draw is not for you, let alone my brother. This is for my niece. Don’t forget, her school fees are all It's me." I said confidently.
Seeing my hairless, iron cock look, and seeing me being less talkative than my mother, my sister-in-law smiled sullenly, and then strayed away.
When my little niece was in kindergarten last year, my mother called me and said that there was still a few thousand dollars in tuition. I didn't want to pay a penny at the time, but I really couldn't bear to see my mother begging for my brother.
But I have already agreed with my mother that it was the last time I did something for my brother and sister-in-law, and the last time I helped them pay. In the future, I make money by myself. I want to save and buy a house and car.
My mother agreed at the time, saying that she would not call again and ask for money for my brother and sister-in-law.
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Actually, I really don’t understand how some people have such thick skins. As adults, they don’t make money on their own. How can they brazenly seek out old people for money and let them support themselves.
My brother and sister-in-law’s family, I really can’t control it. I’m not Fan Shengmei’s character at first. My mother is Fan Shengmei’s mother, then I can’t control it. I said it, persuaded and persuaded, she wanted I can't do this.
All I can do is to take care of myself, not to be Fan Shengmei myself, to tightly cover the money I earn in my pocket.
Brother and sister-in-law have their lives, I have my own life, and I just need to live my own life well.
I hope that some people can understand that when they can’t save more people, but when they can’t help more people, they should take care of themselves first and let themselves live well.
Those responsibilities and pressures in life that do not originally belong to you, are things that do not belong to you, please do not overstep them, because the final result is not what you want.
When you take on the things that you shouldn't take, and do the things that others have to take on in life, you are actually plundering others' independent opportunities.
Thank you for your love. I am Qiao Mu, the author of millions of leopard prints, and I write stories about marriage and heart-warming. Follow me, will bring you more exciting content.
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