I went to class yesterday and heard two parents chatting. Mom A said that her child had never made up for classes and had been playing. Now she is in school, and both adults and children are under a lot of psychological pressure. Mother B kept putting pressure on Mother A, saying that she had no long-term plans, which led to her child's situation today. She said that her child had made up lessons since she was a child, and now she has one of the best academic performance in the class.
Listen to the conversation between these two mothers, I was really worried for A's mother. It was not that his child had not made up for the class, but that he was anxious. If this mother continues to listen, she will be even more anxious.
In fact, after being a teacher for so many years, during the entire teaching process, we found that the end of a child’s academic performance has nothing to do with tutoring. On the contrary, some children who make up for tutoring for many years are more likely to lead to the aversion to learning. Moreover, this disgust is not only aimed at learning cultural courses, but may also be extended to learning of interests such as music, art, etc.
Large and long-term tutoring will not only lead to children's aversion to learning, but may also reduce children's thinking ability. They think that their learning process is passive, rather than summarizing the learning knowledge points by themselves, so it will be difficult for children to truly find a method that suits their learning, and they lack the ability to conduct in-depth research.
So, don’t think that other people’s children are envious of this and that you should envy them. You should combine your own children’s actual situation, grasp the rules of their children’s growth, do the current things well, play when you should play, learn when you should learn, and lay a solid foundation when you should lay the key to future success.
Of course, Mother A has always lets her children play with it, and it is necessary for her to have a happy childhood. But not studying, not training, or tutoring does not mean that parents are not guiding.
How to play with children and what to play with, these are great questions.
It is necessary to let children have strong "initiative" and "positivity" in happiness, and at the same time, they must protect their children's natural curiosity, curiosity and imitation abilities. In addition, children are staying at home now, which is also wrong. You should take your children to nature more and receive baptism from sunlight and plants, which will make your children healthier, feel more comfortable, and have a flexible mind.
Therefore, simply giving children a tutor will only make them sink into a passive learning state, and they will lose a lot of their ability to choose their own life. Whether it is learning or education, it is ultimately to allow children to live better in the future. Therefore, to truly care about children and love children is to "play" along the way, playing mathematics, Chinese, and art. Instead of just going to cram school and training classes, letting children become slaves to learning.
or above is for reference and learning only. Please do it under the guidance of professionals. On the road of parenting, we are all novices. How to better take care of children? You can follow me and discuss with me what happens on the road of parenting.
