The idea of self-discipline described in this article is applicable to students who are preparing for the college entrance examination and office workers who want to be certified. This idea comes from the experience summarization and refinement of many scholars and experts. It can be said to be concentrated essence.
Have you ever had the following experience:
- Wanting to read a book, I tried my best to sit in front of my desk, I opened the book and just glanced at it, and unknowingly I started to swipe my phone again.
- is very inconceivable to those great gods who can maintain self-discipline for a long time, completely unable to understand how they do it, and even doubt whether they have some kind of superpower.
- has set goals for himself. When he first started to move towards the goal, he could maintain self-discipline for a period of time. Once encountering difficulties and setbacks, it is easy to completely lose self-discipline and fall into decadence.
If you have won one or more of them, it does not mean that you have no willpower or talent for self-discipline. Suffice it to say that you may just not have found the right drive.
For example, the student party is preparing for the college entrance examination. Do you think the college entrance examination is the driving force? Are weekly exams, monthly exams, and mock exams the driving force? Is progress in grades, teacher and parent approval the driving force?
For example, office workers are preparing for examination. The result of the examination - getting a certificate, is it the driving force? Are job promotions and salary increases due to certification a driving force?
All of the above are driving forces, but they are not the exact driving forces that will keep you self-disciplined for a long time.
If you don’t believe me, think for yourself: You have the college entrance examination in mind, can you fight for the college entrance exam with self-discipline every day for a year? Do you think that you can adjust your salary after you pass a certain certificate, and can you continue to study with self-discipline after get off work every day for a few months or a year?
is hard to do for the vast majority of people.
So the key is here, what is the driving force that can maintain long-term self-discipline and accuracy? The accurate driving force of
generally has the following two characteristics:
1, which can be completely under its own control.
2, simple, directly related to purpose.
For example, the examination of office workers, assuming that the exam questions are randomly selected from 10,000 knowledge points to take the test. Then the more knowledge points you have, the higher the probability of passing the exam. From theoretically speaking , if you master all 10,000 knowledge points, then you must pass the exam. Of course, in practice, this is almost impossible, we can only say as much as possible.
Then, we must master as many knowledge points as possible in the limited time we are preparing for the examination. Every time you master a knowledge point, the probability of passing the exam increases by one point.
In this way, the exact driving force of research is the sense of growth brought by mastering the knowledge points every day . I have mastered 8 knowledge points today, and the probability of passing the exam must be one point higher; if I master 10 knowledge points tomorrow, the probability of passing the test will be one point higher... In this way, I am growing every day, every day Step by step towards the target. mastering a certain amount of knowledge points every day, which is completely controllable by oneself, and can directly allow us to achieve our goal - pass the exam.
If the student party is preparing for the college entrance examination, the same applies.
Kumao does not recommend that students and friends regard the progress of their usual large and small periodic exams and mock exams as their sense of growth. Because the test questions of the mock test are randomly selected from all the knowledge points you want to master, a certain mock test question may happen to contain more knowledge points that you have mastered, resulting in better grades; In the mock test, most of the knowledge points you don't master happen to be out, and your achievement will be very poor.
That is to say, there is a certain amount of luck in the results of the mock test. Moreover, the mock test is not the purpose, our purpose is the college entrance examination. The mock test can only be said to be a test method to check which knowledge points we have not mastered, or have not mastered firmly.
If you take the results of the mock test as your sense of growth, if it happens that your score in this month’s test is not satisfactory, then your sense of growth will disappear, and you will be affected by negative emotions: I worked hard for a month, but I still regressed. ?
Actually, you are not going backwards. You must have mastered some new knowledge points this month, but this monthly test just happened to have some knowledge points that you did not master. Taking the mock test like the monthly test as a means of checking which knowledge points you have not mastered can make your mentality more stable.
is the same as the examination of office workers, students and friends, as long as you have a solid grasp of a certain amount of knowledge points every day, you will undoubtedly be making progress. Establish such a kind of positive feedback for yourself: I have mastered one more knowledge point, I have improved a little, and the score of the college entrance examination may be one point higher.
As long as you continue to master the knowledge points every day, the improvement of your grades is an inevitable thing.This will bring a further sense of growth, and the recognition of teachers, classmates and other people around you will also bring you stronger motivation.
Of course, there is also a case of "fake effort". Seriously attend classes, listen to lectures, and brush a lot of practice questions every day. But the knowledge points are not really grasped. In this case, taking classes, listening to lectures, and writing questions, these seemingly growing behaviors actually bring negative feedback: I have worked so hard, but my grades still haven’t improved!
This is also where many people are anxious: I take classes, listen to lectures, and write questions every day. I work so hard every day, and others see it in their eyes. They know that I am working hard and making progress. But my grades haven't improved, so what's the point of my efforts?
In this way, of course, I can't keep learning.
To sum up, find your exact driving force, establish positive feedback for yourself, and make your brain feel that the more you do it, the better it is. The mechanism here is actually the same as brushing a certain audio and video, but you may gain nothing in the end by brushing a certain audio and video; and long-term self-discipline learning can give you a different life.
Official Account [Cool Cat World]
An official account about self-improvement, efficient life, psychology, the confusion and troubles in growth, let us overcome them step by step and achieve a better version of ourselves.
