Text/Xiao Xue’s mother
More and more women resist being full-time mothers at home, repeating the tedious and boring life day after day and year after year, not only taking care of their children’s growth, but also leaving It has improved his original work and career track.
If the husband, mother-in-law and other relatives are considerate and help, life is pretty good, but if you don’t get the support and understanding of your family, you will virtually become a "widowed baby".
After feeding the children, the food on the table was eaten up, and the mother was emotionally broken
Xiaoling is a post-90s mother. Two years after graduating from university, she married her husband. So long there is a child, my husband suggested that it is very hard to take care of the child, so just don't go to work, just clean up the home.
Xiaoling was also a mother for the first time. She did not have much experience, so she followed her husband's advice and took care of her husband's daily eating and drinking. I thought my family life would be based on three meals a day and a family of three living in a warm and harmonious life, but didn't expect a big change after having a child.
Originally, the mother-in-law who is good to help take care of the children only comes every three to five. Her husband is even more busy with work and rarely takes care of the house.
The mother-in-law was taking care of the child in the room that day. Xiaoling prepared a large table of food and waited for her husband to eat together after get off work. But when she was about to use the chopsticks, the child cried in the house. Xiaoling hurried over to breastfeed.
When Xiaoling returned to the dinner table after feeding the child, she found that there was only one table of soup and soup, and the meat and vegetables were eaten cleanly. The mother-in-law was lying on the sofa and watching TV, and her husband was lying down and playing with her mobile phone. No one cared about her mother who was still breastfeeding.
Don’t leave some food on the table,No one cleaned up the dishes after eating, Is this using yourself as a nanny? This scene made Xiaoling very emotionally broken, she couldn't help but screamed at her husband:
"What am I in this house? Am I a babysitter? Even a babysitter will leave some food! After eating and drinking, I will take pictures. You just play with your phone, don’t you know how to save me some food?”
The husband disapproved and retorted, “ yelled, I also want to say that you have less cooking and I’m not full! You don’t have to do something more, and I didn’t let you go to work. What's the tiring !"
After listening to her husband, Xiaoling was a little bit discouraged and regretted that she shouldn’t have been for this. Such an irresponsible child should not be a full-time mother at home stupidly.
The full-time mom is very hard and needs consideration and help!
Some people may think that the full-time mother is just taking care of the children at home and taking care of the housework. What's the tiring? In fact, people who have never experienced it have no right to speak. The full-time mother is very hard!
The people who came here have listed a few points:
1. Sleeping time is less than 5 hours a day, and it is still intermittent
2. It is a luxury to stay calm and eat a meal. Always take care of the child, the last person to eat
3. I wash my hair almost once a week, and I don’t have time to clean myself
4. After looking at the sleeping baby, I realized that I didn’t drink a sip of water after a day’s work_ p3p
5. After my husband went home, he actually lay on the sofa and played with his mobile phone
The above experiences are just normal and ordinary experiences for full-time mothers. Of course, not all mothers have such miserable lives.But it also represents part of the life of a full-time mother who is not supported and understood by her family.
The family needs to be maintained by both husband and wife, and the husband must fulfill his own responsibilities
No matter how beautiful love is, it will also be worn away in the trivial life of tea, rice, oil, salt and trivial matters, especially if there is After the child is born, the pressure of life will be greater and greater.
I can understand the hard work of Bao Dad to make money and support family expenses, but Bao Mom's hardship of bringing a baby at home also needs to be understood and respected. Bao Ma worked hard for a day at home. She was cut off from the outside world and placed herself in a small space. Strong1strong had no social, no entertainment, no personal space , plus taking care of the children was also very tiring and emotional.
Even after Bao's father returns home, simply compliments or flatters Bao's mother, and the bad mood of Bao's mother will turn cloudy to sunny. It is not only the responsibility of a husband, but also the responsibility of a father, to help take care of the children, so that Momma can eat a meal at ease and play with the children for a while.
"Widowed family" hurts not only the heart of Bao's mother, but also the lack of growth of the child, which affects the parent-child relationship. Therefore, the treasure fathers should cheer up and do what they should do.
Xiaoxue’s mother told: Family needs to be maintained by husband and wife, especially full-time mothers, who need the understanding and support of family members. The lack of husband’s responsibilities will not only intensify conflicts between husband and wife, but also affect the growth of children. Affect the child’s future physical and mental health.
The most important thing for a family is mutual understanding, mutual respect, and mutual support, so that not only will life be more fulfilling, the family atmosphere will be more harmonious, the children will grow up in a better environment in the future, and the parent-child relationship will be more harmonious.
I am Xiaoxue’s mother,A post-90s mother, pays attention to me and shares scientific knowledge of parenting every day!
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