complained to me two days ago, saying that he hadn't had a good rest recently because his 5-year-old son was "forced" to sleep in a separate room, crying until midnight every day. I was really curious: "Why do you want to sleep in separate rooms all of a sudden?" My friend's answer made me dumbfounded. She said that according to the parenting expert, he would have to sleep in separate rooms at the age of 3, and his son is now 5 years old, and he would be too late to sleep in separate rooms.
Ask your friends around you, such things are not uncommon. Many parents and children have experienced "forced" sleeping in separate rooms. After becoming a parent, I always keep learning parenting knowledge . What is the age to be weaned, how old to go to toilet training, how old to go to kindergarten, how old is the room divider... At each stage, there is an age boundary.
Actually, I want to say that age is never a measure of what a child should do. Each child has a different growth pattern, and the degree of development is also different. If you want to sleep in separate rooms with your child, you must first give your child a sense of security. There has never been an age for sleeping in separate rooms, only children who should or should not sleep in separate rooms. If the following two signals appear, it means that parents can start to consider dividing their children to sleep.
1, Children can be alone
Being alone is also a kind of ability. When the child can stay alone and enjoy the time of his own, it means the time to divide the room. At this time, parents need to "let go" appropriately and give their children a space of their own.
2, are gender-conscious
When children grow up, they will have a preliminary understanding of the gender of men and women. When bathing the child, the child will point to his body and ask questions: Why does my mother (dad) look different from me? When a child has such a problem, it means that the child has the initial gender awareness. In addition to starting to sleep in separate rooms, we must also pay attention to "privacy" protection.
For example, when taking a bath, it is best for mothers to wash their daughters, and fathers to wash their sons. Pay special attention to changing clothes.
When the child decides to sleep in separate rooms, parents should provide encouragement and support. In the preparation stage, the following points should also be paid attention to:
1. Invite children to decorate their own room
Before sleeping in separate rooms, you must first arrange your child's room. At this time, parents should invite their children together and emphasize that this is their own room, so that the children will have a sense of belonging to their own small world. The layout of the room should also refer to the child's requirements, and it is best to follow the child's preferences.
2, pay attention to the ritual sense of sleeping in separate rooms
Before the official start of sleeping in separate rooms, you can simply hold a ceremony to make the child realize that this is a serious matter, let him feel the attention of parents, so that the child is not easy give up halfway. The gradual separation of
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At the beginning, the child will be afraid. Parents can leave the bedroom door open and tell the child to call mom and dad if something happens, and mom and dad can come to him immediately. If it doesn't work, you can accompany you to sleep for a while and leave to give your child a time to adjust.
The age of sleeping in separate rooms is not suitable for every child. Parents do not need to deliberately pursue time, just according to the child's own development.
