Some parents should have this question, that is, children seem to be more sensible than children of the same age. Therefore, they will be more or less happy because their children are sensible. After all, this is also considered a child’s smart performance. However, children Being too sensible is not a good thing.
But why is it not a good thing for children to be so "precocious" and sensible? In fact, the reason why children are so well-behaved is mostly because their parents usually have these behaviors.
The child is too sensible because of these behaviors of the parents:
1: The parent is too emotional
If the parent is a reckless and more straightforward person, then the child will be relatively precocious and sensible, because the parent is irrational. , The child will be affected to a certain extent and refuse to be such an adult from the subconscious.
Therefore, in the process of growing up, the child will gradually become a more sensible party, and it will appear that the parents are the parents, but such children take the initiative to take care of their parents.
②Parents are not often with their children
If parents are often not with their children due to work or other reasons, then it will actually have a significant impact on the children. You must know that the growth of every child is inseparable from the care and love of the parents. If the child leaves his parents too early, the child will naturally establish his own independence and face the world prematurely.
However, such precocity is not a good thing, because this kind of child will lack the care of his parents, so that he has a worse understanding of emotions. In the future, even if he has a partner, he will not be able to live well with his partner. Learn more knowledge and develop your emotional abilities.
③If the parent is too strong
If the child lives under a strong and particularly controlled parent, then his character will be more precocious, because under the high pressure of such a strong parent, the child must do his own thing, if anything What is wrong can be criticized and rejected by parents immediately.
However, although these children become precocious and are more independent than children of the same age, they are prone to deviations in personality and other psychological diseases due to their long-term high-pressure environment.
In fact, it can be seen from the above that most children's premature sensibility is not caused by talent, but has a certain external influence. So, parents can learn about the harms of children who are too precocious and sensible. Z1z
children who are too precocious and sensible will have these problems:
1, children who think too rigidly
are too sensible, in fact, they are already small adults in their hearts, so it is difficult to see the innocence of some children in him. Under the influence of such a mental state, children's thinking naturally tends to be rigid, and they will not have any interesting prospects for the world.
So, naturally, the creativity and divergent thinking of such children will be greatly reduced. After all, for them, the word pragmatism is more important.
2, easy to inferiority
Because they are too precocious, these children are more sensitive to other people’s attitudes. If they say that other people are not particularly friendly in any way, they will think that the other person does not like them or what they do wrong And behaved like a promise. Under the influence of such a mentality, although
is too precocious, it is more prone to low self-esteem than other innocent children.
Since parents have a certain understanding of the dangers of being too sensible, then parents must know how to communicate correctly, so as to help their children grow up healthily, and will not affect their psychological and personality development due to precocity. So, how can parents help their children?
Parents can help their children through these methods:
First of all, they should always pay attention to the state of the child
The change of the child is very rapid, so parents must always pay attention to the child’s state. If there is something unhappy about the child, then the parent We must be aware of and communicate as soon as possible.Only then can we discover the secret that the child is holding in his heart early.
If parents let their children continue to maintain this state, it will actually make the children gradually become precocious, and even their mentality will change to a certain extent. Over time, the children's personality will be biased.
Secondly, let children know their care
If parents are not often at home, then children will gradually lose trust in parents because of this alienation. Therefore, parents should express their care for their children, otherwise, it will only Let the parent-child relationship become more distant.
If parents often hug their children, or tell them why they don’t accompany them, then the children will gradually understand the parents’ hardworking conscience, and this alienation will not become a matter of stone for them.
Conclusion: If
children have any negative emotions, then the parents must respond immediately, so that some negative states can be stifled in the bud. After all, the child's psychology is very fragile, and a small amount of external influence can completely change the child's future. Parents should pay more attention to this.
