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Adults like the most is to urge marriage and give birth.
When you are not married, there are always people who come here to advise you to get married as soon as possible. When you get married, you don’t want children yet, and some relatives and friends jump out and say, “You will have a child as soon as possible and you will recover by yourself, and your parents-in-law can help you take care of them even if you are young, etc.
It’s not long before you give birth to your first child. There are also people around you who think you are good and jumped out to persuade you to have a second child.
Most of us are ordinary people, ordinary families, having children is an indispensable process. So the first child is not only an explanation for the family, but also an explanation for yourself. But there are often people around you who like to give birth. Seeing that you have a first child, you will spare no effort to give birth to a second child.
People are environmental animals, and are most easily affected by the surrounding environment and remarks. In particular, many of the people who have given birth are especially good at painting big cakes, which makes many mothers confused and then feel angry and regretful after giving birth to their second child. So as a person who has experienced it, if someone around you advises you to have a second child, don’t be hot and impulsive and be foolish. Beware of the following questions at all times.
The people who gave birth to it said, you have a life
Those people who gave birth to it are so nice to say, you should give birth, someone at home helps you take care of it, and you can see the child while you are young. Some parents-in-law also said, give birth to another one, and have a companion for two children, and I will help you see the child in the future. Or even if I am busy and don’t have time to watch it, I will pay you to go to the confinement center and so on.
Many women just believe the big pie of these people around them, endure all kinds of hard work, take various risks, and desperately give birth to children. Those who said they were full of money and effort were just talking. You should live your life anyway, but you were tortured by your second child and exhausted both physically and mentally, and you were almost at your loss.
So those mothers who have not finished their first-child big cakes must be more awake, and don’t take the polite words around them seriously. It’s enough to eat it once, and the big cakes are too hard to eat.
Always remember how I got my first child
Actually, I don’t think anyone should persuade me to have a second child at all. When I was in my first child, someone helped me coax my child when I was tired, someone cooked when I was hungry, someone took care of my child when I was sleepy, and someone took care of my child when I was sick. So, I believe there is no need to persuade me. Many mothers will think about having another one. After all, who doesn’t want more than one partner in the child?
On the other hand, I am exhausted and care about others. A mother who recognizes reality will definitely not experience a life like a child. As the saying goes, once you are bitten by a snake for ten years, you are afraid of a rope. The pain and hard work of a first child are still fresh in memory and always in your mind, so you really don’t have the courage to have a second child.
Look at the teammates around you, is it the children and you in your spare time, or the toilet and mobile phone
Whether to have a second child, teammates are too important. If teammates can take on family responsibilities, in addition to earning money at work, they will be their wives and children when they get home. Then the hard work of raising children is nothing. Although it is hard for both of them to have a second child, happiness will also double.
But if the teammate gets off work, it’s the toilet and mobile phone, his heart and energy are not on his children and wife at all. Then when you have a second child and both of them are crying, they are still immersed in the phone in the bathroom, and you are not even more devastating.
So if no one helps, having a second child is really considered a fire pit yourself.
[Topic Discussion: Have you given birth to a second child? 】
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