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If your child is wronged at school, it is difficult for other students in the class to get along with, and often talks about your child behind his back and says bad things about her/him in person, what will you do?
This should be one of the problems that many parents are most worried about their children’s encounter in school, “school bullying.”
If you are an adult, no matter if you encounter this kind of bullying problem in the workplace, you may tell yourself that you will endure it for the sake of work and life. Just persuade yourself not to care about what others say, just be yourself.
However, this "generous" approach does not apply to everyone. After all, the more I think about it, the more angry I get, and the more I take a step back, the more I lose. Especially the perpetrators will not stop and stop bullying others because of your "generousness". In their eyes, 's generosity is weak and can only make them worse.
"She is asking for help from you, but you teach her to be generous." A mother's words made her daughter more isolated and helpless
However, some parents also think that adults should not interfere in the time between children, and children are all naive and kind, so what bad thoughts can they have?
This is a parent who teaches students to be "generous", but it has aroused many netizens' doubts. Don't do this, it will only make your daughter more isolated and helpless.
The mother's daughter cried while eating after school. When it comes to girls in the class, they often talk about her behind their backs, say bad things about her, and even talk about her in front of her.
Children of this age need protection. Imagine if someone points fingers in front of you, and talks indifferently, and no one comes out to speak for you. Isn’t it helpless?
Not to mention girls of this age. Seeing that other girls have their own small groups, they are talking about it, and they don’t know what to do.
Hearing her child’s crying, the parents’ behavior was calm and “mature”. She was not full of righteous indignation and did not immediately express her intention to stand up for the child. Instead, analyse calmly and ask the child to talk to the head teacher.
may be worried that it would be useless to ask the head teacher to react, so the child thought about it and refused. So the parents told the students: "I can only say what others say, just let her say it, and ignore it."
Parents felt that their moderation was "mature", but they didn't expect that the child would cry even harder. In the hot comments of
, some netizens said: "She is asking for help from you, the perpetrator is looking at your reaction, and the teacher is waiting for your attitude." In the end, the parents told the students to "ignor themselves". may think that this is a manifestation of maturity and generosity, but they do not know that such a reaction will only make the daughter more isolated and helpless.
People's words are fearless, and everyone's words make money. The beginning of "campus violence" is the inaction of adults
What can children understand? Children are simple and innocent. No slap can be made. Why doesn't she/he talk about others, but she just talks about you.
This may be something many students hear while growing up. It is also some adults who think about campus violence. The adults here not only refer to teachers who clearly know what happened but have not taken action to stop them, but also some parents.
has data to prove that during the process of growing up, children who are subject to school violence are mostly taciturn and have weak personalities. Most of them do not have the support of their parents, so they dare not resist.
There are also some students' parents who don't care about the problems between children and attribute these to children's jokes and fights. Little do you know that everyone's words can make money, but people's words are terrifying.
When I was a student, a small group of girls gathered together to talk bad things, which brought about the lethality of the skin and flesh. And the damage caused to the mind is irreversible.
If you want to prevent this kind of thing from developing, it is very important for adults to do. After the teacher discovers it immediately, he should immediately stop and criticize and educate the students who commit the violence to realize the seriousness of the problem.
When parents learn about this kind of problem, they should immediately express their attitude. immediately need the child to support him and give the child a sufficient sense of security to prevent things from getting worse in time.
Schools and parents should do a good job in related education
Some people have found that perpetrators of campus violence never feel that what they do will cause harm to others. There was once a program where when the program team took the victim to find the perpetrator, they were all shocked, and many people even forgot about it.
is visible, and it is really important for education in this area. Both schools and parents must provide relevant education. Tell your children not to hurt others, not to be discussed by others, but when facing bullying from other classmates, you must dare to fight back and not be weak. Don’t watch it coldly when you see this kind of thing happening.
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Topic today: If you and your child encounter such problems, how would you solve them?
