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Niu Ma said:
Adolescent children also need love,
It’s just that they don’t feel love so easily,
They don’t like you to express it in a stingy way,
They hope they are respected and understood.
Niu Ma said:
Adolescent children hate empty encouragement,
This will make them feel that you don’t really understand him from the bottom of your heart,
is a hypocritical comfort.
even this kind of comfort is as powerless as the
competition awarded a consolation prize.
Niu Ma said:
Adolescent children don’t like you suddenly appear before him and his classmates,
1 Especially not to make him feel that he has not grown up yet.
Niu Ma said:
Adolescent children don’t like to be high-profile,
Because that is a lot of pressure.
Niu Ma said:
Adler said:
"No child will be happy Accept criticism quickly,
has only temporary compromises. "
If adolescent children do not get help when making mistakes,
will only get criticism and criticism, and
will make fierce resistance.
Niu Ma said:
Adolescent children need independent space,
They can further feel their own development.
But many parents can't adapt yet,
always wants to break into the door.
Niu Ma said:
Adolescent children, especially boys,
I am very worried that I will be called a "mama boy"...
3
If your child is still young, cherish it~
Niu Ma said:
Cherish the days of tutoring homework,
won't be too long.
Niu Ma said:
In the future, people will take care of their children,
You don’t need to take care of them.
Children don’t like adult social interactions,
Because adults will have a lot of boring greetings,
even jokes.
Niu Ma said:
Adolescent children hate the big truth the most,
makes him feel that you don’t understand him at all,
does not trust him,
will only deny criticism and question him.
Niu Ma said:
If you were young,
Didn't establish a trusted parent-child relationship,
When you are young, it will be difficult for parents to get close to their children.
Children will think:
"It's useless to say it";
Parents will think:
0 "I told you to say it but don't say it."
Parents think that their children are pretentious,
Children think that their parents don’t understand them at all.
Parents feel that their children have nothing to lack
(material) ,
Children feel that they lack love, respect, and understanding
(mind) .
Parents are always waiting for their children to say thank you
Children are always waiting for their parents to say sorry.
I am Niu Ma Peng Xiaobeng, the mother of two children, a psychological counselor who draws cartoons, a director of the special committee of the Chinese Family Education Society, publishing the book "Growing up, don't panic", focusing on the growth path of family relationships for 9 years, 3 years of psychological counseling, more than 1,200 articles, and the growth stories of hundreds of thousands of mothers, live calmly and at ease together.
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