Seeing children scribble on the wall, what was your first reaction?
Children's scribbling is almost the most troublesome thing for every parent. They may turn around or carelessly. Snow-white walls, clean sofas, bed sheets, coffee tables, etc. may all be "devilishly".
Many parents will scold their children loudly for this: "Look at you, the wall is painted messy!" "How many times have you said it, you can't paint the wall!" "The painting is everywhere!" This roar, maybe It will succeed in getting the child holding a paintbrush to give up scribbling obediently, but it will also stifle the child's passion for painting and hinder the child's potential development.
A mother in Nanchang, Jiangxi Province, chose to "indulge" her son, so she lost thousands of dollars, but she bluntly did not regret:
"If one wall is dirty, you can repaint it, but the child will only be so for a few years. It’s impossible to let him paint on it. Now as long as the wall at home can be repaired, he can paint."
"In fact, children painted, even if it’s stickman like they say, or messy, In fact, they are all very interesting and vivid. They are all memories and beautiful things.” That’s why
has a lifelike “mural” that astounds everyone and provokes netizens to exclaim, “Children’s artistic talents are so real. That's great."
has such a mother, so lucky for the child.
The mother’s “connivance” seems to be undisciplined for the child’s “misbehavior”, but in fact, her approach is the wisest. She chose to give the child a graffiti wall to pay for the child’s “wrong” behavior. Give children free exploration space and give full play to their nature.
Finally, the child's drawing potential is discovered, and this is beyond measure by money.
Behind every gifted child is the silent support and care of parents
Yan Rui, born in a small village in Fengnan District, Tangshan City, became hooked after watching the movie "Flower as a Matchmaker" on VCD The beautiful Zhang Wuke. The immature little people often imitated Zhang Wuke's appearance and sang Pingju sternly.
So, under the age of 3, she aspires to become "a person like Zhang Wuke." Because of this sentence, her mother also secretly made up her mind: "As long as the child likes it, support it to the end. Z65z"
This support is 15 years old.
In order to find a professional instructor for her children, her mother took a long-distance bus for more than two hours to the city; to wait for Teacher Zhu Baoqin, she stood in the rain with an umbrella and waited from the morning until two or three in the afternoon.
In order to take her daughter to a professional class, she put aside everything, and the hairdresser is also closed from time to time. She can even endure severe motion sickness. She insists on taking a ride with her daughter 6 hours a week to study in the city.
In order to know all kinds of competitions, big and small, so that children can sign up and accumulate stage experience, she subscribed to many newspapers and forced herself to browse them one by one.
is the mother who has been supporting her silently for ten years. From four to seven years old, in just three years, Yan Rui's performance has been recognized by industry masters.
When she was 7 years old, she was recommended to the famous Ping opera artist Gu Wenyue ; when she was 10 years old, she won her first gold medal and won the 16th "Chinese Children's Opera Xiaomeihua" amateur group competition , Won the title of Golden Flower and Top Ten.
If it is not for the mother's all-out support, the daughter's talent will be buried; if it is not for the mother's long journey to study for her daughter, her daughter will not be able to reap tangible growth. Whatever link is missing for support and talent, the final outcome will not be satisfactory.
once wrote in the book "Love and Freedom": "It looks like a weak child, reallyThere is a powerful spiritual energy and potential in it. Parents don't need to bother to add new content for them, just provide him with an environment and freedom for development. "Z66z
and this is the support and care of parents.
has a child with parental support, full of energy, daring to pursue what he wants, and daring to explore more possibilities in the future. Once
suffers difficulties and setbacks, this energy will Let them be hopeful, full of courage and strength, to heal their wounds, and not fall. Z66z
Because they know that no matter what the future, no matter the road is rough or not, and no matter what the wind and rain ahead, their parents will always stand behind them as always Support and guard them.
parents’ "opposition" is the beginning of suppressing the child’s nature
has won 117 film nominations and won 64 awards for the Spanish animated short film "Alike", in just 8 minutes, without a line, It only shows the daily life of a father and son, but profoundly exposes "how parents stifle their children's talents and dreams."
A good morning, when the children ran around with joy, the father pressed the heavy schoolbag On him, he scolded: "Don't always think about playing, go to school. "Z66z
, the father and son walked in a lifeless and colorless city, and everyone looked lifeless, wearing the same clothes, wearing the same hat, holding the same briefcase, and hurrying along the road. Z1z
At this time, a "colorful world" successfully attracted the children's attention. I saw a violin player playing under the maple tree, and the child threw down his schoolbag excitedly and ran over, listening and dancing.
father rushed out and picked him up, warning: "Don't think about these messy things, learning is the most important thing. "Z66z
After arriving at school, the child who was still immersed in joy, couldn’t wait to paint this scene, and wanted to share, but in exchange for a bitter criticism from the teacher, the teacher pointed to the ABC on the paper and told him: "This is what you should learn. "Z66z
After school, the child happily showed this picture to his father, and saw his "unemployed" father frowning.
In the constant "opposition" of adults, the child slowly lost what it used to be. With a glamorous look, he began to go to school obediently and earnestly complete his homework according to the requirements of the adults.
Looking at the child who was gloomy all day, his father fell into reflection, until he accidentally opened the child’s workbook and looked at the page full of creativity. ABCD, he suddenly realized that all the rules and opposition around is the root of the child's nature.
So he took the child to the maple tree, learned how that person plays the violin, and accepted the child’s nature. And dreams.
Actually, the father and son in the film look like you and me as parents. We are always worried that the child will be "rebellious" and that it will be too hard or unhappy. Z1z
wants to let the child grow up as we wish , Even do not hesitate to force children to copy the successful life of ours or others. Z1z
As everyone knows, success itself has no standard answer. And blindly "opposition and persecution" will only kill the child's dream and nature. Z66z
As the philosopher Zhou Guoping said: “When a child uses his innocence to weave beautiful dreams, don’t use the reality in your eyes to correct him.”
Don’t use your past experience to correct your child’s “don’t cut” The idea of "practical" and reject the child's preferences. Because of this kind of opposition, the child loses his dreams, and the child loses himself and his own opinions.
protect the child’s nature, it’s hard to think about it or not.
has been a fan of countless fans in the "Where Are You Going Dad" circle, and has recently become a hit with strength.
, 9 years old, he won the RoboRAVE international Canada international competition. Their team participated in three projects and won the champion of online primary school patrol, the runner-up of offline primary school patrol, and the runner-up of online primary school maze.
and this is just a page in his brilliant record. Reading his Weibo, it is not difficult to find that he is a typical "child of someone else's family."
At the beginning of the year, when he was cheering for Wuhan again, he dipped two pieces of white paper with iodine , and gradually the word "come on" appeared on the paper.
When netizens expressed doubts, he explained in this way: it was written with starch water. So when the starch meets the iodine, it will turn blue. Z1z
has such knowledge at a young age. It is no wonder that you can get the final three subject exemption certificate , and it is no wonder that your family has piled up large and small medals and certificates, Go, recitation, drums, etc. all won the championship.
And all these achievements, in the final analysis, lies in the respect and support of Dad Cai Guoqing.
Earlier, in the "Teacher Please Answer" variety show, Cai Guoqing and his son attended as guests.
When asked why he didn’t like learning to sing with his father, Qingqing confidently said: “I am afraid that I can sing better than my father.” Then he made it clear to his father: “Because I don’t want to learn singing, I want to learn technology. "Z1z
Cai Guoqing didn't think he was disgusted, but smiled and said: "Even if you have the unique conditions to teach your son to sing, you can't force him to sing, and you can't impose your own ideas on him." Words: Love is "as he is", not "as I wish."
Only when parents learn to respect their children, let their children adapt to their nature and make their own choices, can children give full play to their inner potential and become the person they want to be, thus marching towards a better future.
True education is to obey the child’s nature
Tagore once said: “All effective education starts with the parents’ understanding of the child’s nature.”
This kind of "indulgence" is not a bottomless spoiling, and it is not a rule. Do not conflict.
It treats the child as a truly independent individual, not an accessory of the parent. It is to consider what should be given from the perspective of the child, rather than just "build" the child according to his own wishes.
This is "connivance" based on "acceptance, appreciation, and encouragement". It seems that it does not care about teaching, but it is the highest level of discipline.
On the premise of grasping the general direction, parents should also create an environment for free growth, respect their children's choices, allow children to adapt to nature, make independent choices, and give full play to their inner potential.
zOnly in this way can parents give their children the best love and education.
May every parent have the courage to "indulge" their children, and that every child can live what he wants according to his own wishes!
