Yang Zi plays the daughter of a single-parent family, crying in a 20-minute monologue, making a wish to get rid of the repressed maternal love
Is love giving or possessing?
"I and I are all for your good."
" Look at other people's children, why can't you? "
" Our future depends on you. "
" What use is your inability to read?"
Maybe even if the child reaches the age of 40, what the parents say is still affecting their child.
I don’t know if you have watched a variety show called "Youth Talk". A group of young and immature children in school uniforms stand on a high platform, speaking out their own thoughts to the parents, teachers and classmates present.
Some people wish to get A in all subjects, some openly marry their favorite teacher, and some people miss their friends who rarely talk together.
But the most distressing thing is what the children want to say to their parents.
There is a little girl crying on the roof and telling her father that she feels that her father prefers the pet dog at home. Because my father is busy with this pet dog every day, take care of it, and take it with him wherever he goes, but as his father's daughter, he has never enjoyed this kind of love.
The child's father is gently holding the pet dog in his arms, and he yells to his daughter: "You will always be father's little padded jacket, forever little lover." But he still did not leave the pet dog, nor did he say to his daughter the phrase she most wanted to hear: "Dad loves you the most."
may be due to the tradition of advocating modesty and introversion. Chinese people express love very implicitly and seem to be ashamed to confide in the word love. But for children, the love of parents is the warmest sunshine in growth and the best enlightenment for children, but if this love changes its flavor, it will become extra heavy.
If "Youth Talk" is to let parents hear their children, then Zhao Wei's "Hear Her Talk" focuses on the most anxious issues of modern women, and visualizes these problems in the form of 8 skits. The ground is exposed in front of people.
has been updated to the second short drama "Make a Wish" starring Yang Zi. In the nearly 20-minute monologue, Sister Xiaoyu, played by Yang Zi, made a wish to her mother on her 26th birthday: "Mom, your greatest love for me is to love yourself."
Parents use love as the name of love, and they lose both sides with their children.
has an invisible but terrifying injury called the influence of the original family.
Xiao Yu, played by Yang Zi, is deeply influenced by her native family. For 26 years in her life, she has been breathless by her mother wrapped in a big net in the name of love.
In Yang Zi's almost crying monologue, we can learn about Xiaoyu's miserable childhood. When her mother was pregnant, her father cheated. After her parents divorced, Xiao Yu's mother fell into an extreme state. She refused to see Xiao Yu from all the relatives in her father's family. Even her grandparents and father wanted to see Xiao Yu the last time, but she refused.
She is full of possessiveness for Xiao Yu, she puts all the focus of her life on Xiao Yu, every action, every word she says, and every choice she faces in life, she must obey her mother’s will. Even Xiao Yu's best friend is a spy by her mother's side.
Xiaoyu’s mother always tells Xiaoyu that there is only I in this world who loves you, but this love is too suffocating. So Xiao Yu studied hard and finally got admitted to a good school and left home far away.
But in the end, she just left a house called Jiajia, but never got rid of the influence of the family on her.
Whether in school or in society, the shadow of her mother is everywhere. She will call Xiao Yu all the time, trying to grasp Xiao Yu's whereabouts. When Xiaoyu finally meets a boy he likes very much, he ran over to beat the mandarin duck and said to the boy: "You are not good enough for my daughter, you leave her as far away as possible".
Love is a beautiful word, but what Xiao Yu’s mother showed is a suffocating love that makes people want to escape. This love has also deeply affected Xiao Yu’s life and kept her in a In anxiety, I also lost love for othersAbility.
Xiaoyu’s mother is not alone. From her, we can see the shadow of many Chinese parents.
In "Xiao Huanxi", the single mother Song Qian played by Tao Hong is almost a copy of Xiao Yu's mother. Her daughter Yingzi cannot have her own emotions or privacy, and her every move must be in her sight. Once Yingzi wanted to resist, Song Qian would tie her up in the name of love, crying and saying to her daughter: "You are everything to mother" and "I am all for your good."
This suffocating maternal love is like a mud, pulling Yingzi deeper and deeper, deeper and deeper, and Ding Yi's death became the last straw that crushed Yingzi. It wasn't until Yingzi chose to jump into the sea to escape and was rescued and was diagnosed with moderate depression. Song Qian was shocked by the loss of her daughter.
However, in real life, more children actually do not have the courage of Yingzi. They may be like Xiaoyu. They are not immune to their parents until the age of 26, even 30 and 40, and cannot be free from the influence of their original family. , Even Xiao Yu’s biggest wish is not to resent her mother, but to make her love herself more.
Children are not personal belongings of their parents
For parents, what is a child? Children are born in this world in response to their parents' desire for life. Their bodies are given by their parents, but each child is an independent individual with his own mind and soul.
Children belong to both parents and parents. Parents can give their children their love, but they cannot impose their thoughts and behaviors on the children.
Many parents will control their children in the name of love and regard their children as puppets in their hands. If the children are not satisfied, they should correct their children's behavior and feel that they are not filial.
Is this really love? In fact, this is not love, but a desire for control. There is a saying: Love does not cause harm, and it must not be love that causes harm. Compared with "I am doing this for your own good" to help children make decisions, children are more willing to get encouragement and let go of their parents.
Yang Zi, who plays Xiao Yu, talked about her family. Her parents respected each other, loved both of them very much, and also loved Yang Zi, so Yang Zi felt that her family was very happy. In her view, parents and children must communicate with each other and express love to each other, and parents must also allow their children to have their own growth space.
The original family and parents have a decisive influence on the child’s three views and personality. Yang Zi is a full-fledged optimist. She can always maintain a state of vigor and positiveness, and is inseparable from the parents who love her and respect her. influences.
