The infant and toddler period is a special period for children to grow up. Although their language system is not perfect, their intelligence and perception far exceed the imagination of adults. A child’s language expression ability is also formed in the infant and toddler period, and parents must grasp this critical period for the development of the child’s speaking ability.
From the moment of birth, the baby has been able to distinguish various sounds and begging smells. When these sounds or begging smells are repeated in front of him, the baby will react and the little head will also store what he saw And felt things.
The mother must learn to understand the baby’s needs and how to make the baby realize his potential from the first day after picking up the baby, and establish a good parent-child relationship with the baby so that he feels that his mother loves him and cares about him , This will help him to have trust in the beautiful world in the future.
Parent-child communication often does not need to be expressed in words. Sometimes a hug and a smile can transmit the mother's infinite love to the baby.
Although the child cannot speak yet, he (she) is nurturing language skills. Actively communicating with infants and young children is very helpful to the child's speech. Then, how do we communicate with infants and young children?
Communicate with infants and young children through breastfeeding and petting
The first basic physiological need of a baby after birth is hunger and needs to take milk immediately. When the needs are met, they will sleep peacefully.
Many parents, in order to train their children's daily life to be regular, often stipulate their children's feeding time every 3 to 4 hours. In fact, doing so will seriously affect the children's mental health.
The physiological requirements of every child are different. For example, when taking milk, not every baby will feel hungry at the same time. When the child wants to take milk, the mother should feed him immediately. After the child is full, he will go to sleep again. Otherwise, if the child's needs are not met, he will not trust and feel insecure with those around him.
Sometimes the baby's crying is not necessarily caused by hunger, such as physical discomfort, dampness, etc. Therefore, the mother must be aware of the baby's true needs and meet his requirements in time.
In addition to basic physical needs such as breastfeeding and changing diapers when peeing, newborn babies also have basic psychological needs. Gentle caress is one of them.
In the mother's constant shaking, hugging and caressing movements, even without words, the child can feel the happiness of being loved by her mother.
Hugs and kisses express love to infants and young children
Hugs are the most direct and effective way to express love. As long as the child is in his mother's arms, there is infinite warmth, knowing that his mother loves him and protects him, and if the mother hugs him tighter, this feeling will be more intense.
Some people think that crying by hug will spoil the child. I am afraid that over time, the child will become a baby crying without holding it. In fact, this kind of situation rarely happens, because after the baby has basic emotional needs, he will not cry for no reason, so the mother does not need to worry too much.
Hugs can also replace praise. When a child does something that is satisfactory to his mother, if he gets a gentle and tight hug from his mother, he will know that his mother is praising him and encouraging him.
Seeing a healthy and lively baby, I believe everyone wants to pick him up and kiss him on the cheek. The baby will surely return your love for him with a smile.
Babies are born with the ability to distinguish smells. After they come in contact with their mothers every day and get used to the smells of their mothers, they will feel them as soon as their mothers approach him; if their mother kisses him on the cheek, the baby does not need to open The eyes, knowing that this is the smell of mother, will feel very kind and safe, and will continue to sleep happily.
In daily life, mothers can use the opportunity to touch the baby anytime and anywhere to kiss the baby’s cheek. For example, after feeding the baby full of milk, gently wipe off the milk stains on the baby’s mouth, and then kiss him; change it for the baby After a dry diaper, picking up the baby and kissing it can not only make the baby get physical satisfaction, but also make it emotionally satisfied at the same time, and make the relationship between parents and children further.
While hugging the child while stroking his hair, infinite love and care will be transmitted from thousands of hair holes to every cell of the child.
This non-verbal contact is one of the most effective ways of parent-child communication.
Use handshake, nod and smile to express "love"
(1) Handshake
When mothers tease the baby, they will hold the baby's hand and say, "Shake hands and be a good friend". The baby will also hold the mother's hand, smile happily with a whispering sound, the little hand is constantly shaking, and will not let it down for a long time. Because for the baby, holding the mother's hand, there will be infinite warmth, safety and trust.
Handshake can also train children to control their muscles and cultivate their intellectual development. When the mother puts a finger into the baby’s hand, the baby’s sensitive skin will immediately feel it, and will immediately hold the mother’s finger tightly, repeating this way, not only can train the baby’s finger flexibility, but also through Skin contact will make the relationship between parent and child closer.
(2) Nodding
When the mother coaxes the baby, she likes to tease him with a smile, talking, and nodding, and the baby will also have an immediate reaction, dancing, smiling happily, muttering in the mouth, and following the mother's appearance. Although the baby is too young to control and learn to nod, the baby will understand that this movement is a sign of friendliness and love for him.
When babies are toddlers, they have great interest and curiosity about anything that can be touched. They always touch, touch, grasp, and fiddle with them. When they see their mother nodding to him with a smile, the baby It will be happy and touched again with confidence.
(3) Smile
The first smile in a child's life is extremely important to his personality development, and the mother's reaction to this smile will affect the child's life.
Normal babies, when they are 3 months old, they will know how to laugh and make meaningless sounds, and begin to pay attention to and remember the things happening around them. If the mother can often smile kindly and kindly to the child, it will be helpful to the baby’s intellectual development. It is of great help.
The first smile the baby exchanges with the mother is the beginning of love, which means that the baby learns to "accept" and "give".
Love, and the "teacher" of this "love" education, apart from the mother, there is no more suitable candidate.
When a child learns to smile on his mother, he will be the happiest and most beloved child in the world.
Use soft eyes to communicate with infants and young children
Eyes are the window to the soul, and they are also the only part of each organ that can communicate with each other without language and movement.
Although a newborn baby does not know how to communicate with her mother in words, she can feel her mother's love and care for him from her mother's soft eyes, and the child will feel satisfied and safe around her.
Newborn babies have a limited range of activities and can only communicate with their mothers with their eyes and limbs. Therefore, mothers should always look into the children's eyes when changing diapers, breastfeeding or bathing, to see if the children are satisfied with their needs.
Toddlers like to try and touch everything. At this time, the children’s ability to understand language is not mature, and they cannot fully understand what they say to their mothers. Many times they can only explore what their mothers mean from their eyes. When the child wants to try to do something or touch something, seeing the mother’s soft eyes, for the child, means love, encouragement, acquiescence, approval, support and comfort. If you can use it well, It will be better than a thousand words.
When the child has something to talk to his mother, the mother must not talk to the child while working. It is best to put down the housework at hand, squat down to the same height as the child, listen and look into the child's eyes, so that he feels the mother Respect yourself and value your own confession.
Other ways to communicate with infants and young children
(1) Massage
The most developed part of the body for a newborn baby is the sensory system of the skin. Massage not only expands the capillaries on the surface of the child, promotes blood circulation, emits heat, and eliminates muscle fatigue, it also stimulates the excitement of the child's nerve center and makes the organs and nerves of the body more active.
Babies sleep in bed most of the time and do little activity, which is not good for physical and mental health.Therefore, mothers should spend 10 minutes a day doing some massage gymnastics for the baby. The massage area starts from the palm or the sole of the feet, and is performed according to the age of the baby.
Gymnastics can make children feel happy. This is a child's natural response, so mothers should persevere in doing massage gymnastics for their children.
When the mother’s hand touches all parts of the child’s body, the child’s tension will be completely relaxed, and the mother will be satisfied with the massage. When the mother sees the child’s happy expression, she will naturally feel happy. This kind of skin contact between parents and children is better Communicate over a thousand words.
(2) Acupressure
Acupressure is also a type of massage, which uses finger pressure to press on the muscles.
Before a mother performs acupressure for her child, it is best to refer to some baby gymnastics books and choose some suitable acupressure massage according to the child's age and ability, otherwise it will easily hurt the child.
Babies between one and a half months to three months old will still show strong tension in their hands and feet. During this time, the baby will exhibit various instinctive reflex movements. Soon, the limbs begin to relax, and the mother can help the child during this period. Pressure massage.
Do acupressure massage for your child. The intensity should not be too light or too heavy. It should be just right. If it is too light, it will not have the effect of acupressure. If it is too heavy, it will make the child uncomfortable.
Shiatsu massage not only helps the child's physical and mental development, but also enhances the communication between parents and children. When the mother is giving acupressure for the child, don't concentrate too much on the acupressure area, but try to look at the child's eyes and reactions as much as possible, so as to have the effect of health and communication.
(3) Wrestling
Babies' muscles and brains need to be continuously used to develop. If the baby is only allowed to lie on the bed every day and lack of activities, it will have a great impact on the baby's physical and mental development.
Exercise can bring joy to children. Mothers can choose some exercises that are suitable for the child’s age and physical and mental development. It can not only make the child’s various internal organs and tissues stronger and more vigorous, but also make the child more cheerful and energetic. It is of great help to its intellectual and personality development.
Wrestling between mother and child will make the child have a great reaction, because active exercise is more interesting and exciting than passive exercise. This kind of wrestling can make a happy communication between mother and baby, and form a healthy parent-child relationship unconsciously.
(4) Combing your hair
When you lie halfway in the barbershop and let the stylist gently comb your hair for you, you will feel very comfortable. The nervous system is completely relaxed, and sometimes you fall asleep unconsciously. You will feel refreshed when you step out of the barber shop after finishing your haircut.
If you also give this kind of comfort to your children, your communication skills will obviously go a step further.
Mom may wish to take a period of time every day to comb your baby's hair. Each time the comb is flicked up and down, it is like a massage. This comfortable feeling is transferred from each hair root to the child's skin tissue to make blood vessels. Expansion helps promote blood circulation and metabolism. This comfortable feeling will make the baby feel safe and protected, and I really want my mother to continue combing.
Before going to bed at night, comb your child’s hair, which will make the child sleep more sweetly. If the child can’t fall asleep after tossing around, mother just needs to pat the child’s shoulder while rubbing the child’s hair with her fingers like a comb Will fall asleep soon.
(5) Cut nails
Someone once said that to know whether a child is cared for by his mother at home, he can check his nails. If the child's fingers are clean, it means that he has a mother who loves him and cares about him. Conversely, if the child’s nails are too long and they hide dirt and dirt, the mother’s level of concern for him is obviously limited.
Although it is a bit arbitrary to judge whether a mother loves a child based on this little detail, it is not entirely unreasonable to think carefully.
Do not underestimate the impact of nail cutting on children. Children often use their hands to eat and wipe their eyes. If the nails are not clean, it will easily bring bacteria into the child’s mouth or eyes, causing various infectious diseases and affecting the child’s health. .
(6) Nursing
In recent years, many children areThere are more and more cases of accidental injuries and even deaths. The reason is that parents neglect to take care of their children.
From the moment you are preparing to become pregnant, you must have a psychological preparation, that is, to be a 24/7 mother-the responsibility of taking care of your child 24 hours a day.
Starting from the day when a child is born, he will have to go through countless attempts, adventures and continuous learning to thrive. The mother is like a lamp, leading the child to the bright road. When the child is in danger, the mother should extend a helping hand in time and guide the child to a safe place. When the child goes into the dark astray, the mother should shine the light on the right path so that the child can be guided. When the child enters the winding path, if he can finally reach the end, his mother should rest assured to let him go on, because one day he will find a faster and more convenient road.
