Two days ago, I read through my Moments circle to review my previous life. I saw a video I forwarded a few years ago. After watching this video, I felt and . This video comes from men and women of different ages. They tell the story of being forced to grow up over the years from a first-person perspective. The title of in this short video is called who can cry and eat candy. The men and women in this video,
, have been labeled by their parents since childhood. These parents have asked them to be good children since childhood, and they must be sensible . These people have developed the current flattery personality under the education of their parents since childhood. They have no way to refuse the inappropriate requests made by their colleagues at work. They always face others in a flattery manner. They have become accustomed to applying this kind of sensibility to all parts of their lives.
These parents don’t know that this kind of education for their children has such a great impact on them. Many friends may have heard from their parents that you must be sensible and not make your parents angry. You must have an excellent score in school. must be polite and be a good child. They will only give you rewards if you meet these requirements, or will praise in front of other relatives and friends. But these children are unhappy and all need to to bury in their hearts.
1. Sensible children are even more distressing
They must work hard to be what their parents like, they will always close their true self, and they don’t know when they will be able to release their true self , and they often feel sad about this state . Xiao Wang in the
video is the good girl mentioned by his parents and the good child in the minds of other parents. She has excellent academic performance since she was a child and doesn't have to worry about her parents. She can complete all things in by , and her parents are particularly worry-free when educating her.
Since childhood, she has been bound by various strict requirements of her parents. But slowly she found that she hated her current self more and more. She hated herself pretending to be in front of others. She felt that she was very tired in life every day, and she wanted to close her eyes and slept with her, without caring about anything. When she went out shopping with her colleagues and wanted to choose a place to eat, she obviously had an idea in her heart, but she was embarrassed to say it out loud, and she was embarrassed to give opinions to others .
She has regarded everyone around her as her parents. She has put forward various opinions from childhood to adulthood, and each of them has been refuted by her parents and . This refutation has made her current personality. She no longer has the confidence to propose her suggestions to others and , so every time she has a new idea, she still holds it in her stomach. She also hopes that others can guess what she thinks in and she doesn't want to say it herself.
Every time she encounters some colleagues’ unreasonable requests at work, she is not good at rejecting her. She always feels that rejecting others is a very bad thing. Every time she has to stay up late and work overtime to help these colleagues complete the form work. But even her behavior has not been respected and liked by her colleagues. At work, she is still often troubled by her colleagues. She feels that her life is bad.
2. Don’t let education harm the child
One night, she returned home very tired and found that her mother was cooking, but she knew that if she told her parents about her current status, she would definitely make her parents unhappy. She often tossed and turned late at night. She hopes that things like this during the day can bravely say no to people she doesn't like.
One day later, she rejected 's request through her mobile phone . She suddenly realized that rejecting is not as difficult as she imagined , and she got unprecedented relaxation.
After she refused to send the text, she became very relaxed. She is a person who never likes to bother others, and she is embarrassed to ask her friends around her.She always pretends to be very stubborn and strong in front of outsiders, and has never given her friends a chance to help her. She thought that she could maintain a good relationship with her friend , but she didn't expect that such an approach would push her friend further.
Later she began to try Trouble friends. She found that through trouble, she could also bring the distance between the two people closer, which instead allowed her to have a closer contact with the people around her. The biggest reason for every child to have such problems is that they occur to their parents. These parents may feel that they are particularly experienced in educating their children. In fact, many parents do not consider to their children's feelings.
Summary:
Parents' education will directly lead to children having different personalities. If parents want to cultivate a child who is confident, generous and courageous and do anything, they should praise and encourage their children's various ideas from an early age. Don't always blindly attack the self-confidence of children in . Parents also have an obligation to discover the highlights that have not yet appeared in their children. It is particularly important to respect the ideas of children.
