responds to various setbacks and challenges and cultivates children’s survivability. Parents should teach
that a person’s cultural knowledge in modern society determines their future, but survivability also determines the quality of life. If a child is young, he will be able to survive. With outstanding abilities, they will be able to deal with various problems and challenges more flexibly in the future.
Although their current living environment is no longer as they used to need to take care of their home since childhood and work hard for survival, this does not mean that parents do not need to teach them basic knowledge of survival ability. Different ages have different education methods.
Two cups filled with water, one is placed firmly on the table and the other is held in the air. When you let go, the hanging cup will fall from the air and break, which will generate tremendous power.
The water that is placed on the table steadily will not change without any external force. Can the same glass of water be put in different places, so different powers will be produced?
is like two children raised in the same family environment, one is very motivated, likes to learn and explore, and always improves, while the other is to live a stable life, without a sense of crisis, and get by. As the saying goes, when the cup is placed in a stable environment, it will not produce a sense of strength, but if the cup is placed in a challenging place, it may generate a huge amount of energy.
Today, children in many cities have lost their ability to compete. The reason is that they have grown up in a stable family environment. There is no worry about food and clothing. There is no need to worry about survival or other things. A little crisis will be cleared by their parents. They The task is to study hard and nothing else. Although an environment like
can allow children to grow up steadily, they also lose their basic survivability and their ability to cope with crisis.
If a child has set goals since childhood and always wants to challenge himself, his heart will be full of strength and vitality. Survival in modern society is no longer the need to possess due qualities in order to survive, but a sense of challenge and crisis, a striving and enterprising mentality, and not always thinking about how to enjoy and play in a stable environment.
Parents have the responsibility to take good care of their children in the process of growing up, but apart from these, they cannot meet their needs without limitation. If you want to get everything from a young age, you will not be enterprising when you grow up. Spirit, because I am used to it easily by reaching out, I am not willing to strive for it.
Parents should break the child’s comfort zone from time to time and let him have some small crisis awareness, so that the child will have the strength to work hard, and the better the person, the stronger the ability to survive and self-judgment independently.
is now in the era when the capable people have the world. Those who can't stand the setbacks cannot succeed. Take a look at the young people who have successfully started their own businesses. Most of them are far away from their parents and hometown and have rich social experience. They may be in the process I have encountered failures, but have not been intimidated by the difficulties. With strong perseverance and hardworking mentality, I finally persevered to achieve the current success.
To give children the potential to fight against difficulties, parents must cultivate their children's ability to survive outside the comfort zone from an early age, and be full of fighting spirit to overcome difficulties and achieve their goals.
Parents should not only think about how to make their children feel better and more comfortable, but also how to make them learn to adapt and grow in a less comfortable environment.
Learn to let go.
Parents and children must clarify the boundaries of responsibilities. The parent cannot do less, but the children must take responsibility and responsibility for what they do. The final result of successful education is the successful separation. The relationship between parents and children was once the closest. It is precisely because of this that the age at which they should be independent is not that the children are reluctant to bear their parents, but that the parents are reluctant to bear their children.
And now the education of many families is turning the cart before the horse. After the child is born, parents are busy earning money to support the family. They may not be disciplined until they go to elementary school. They are handed over to grandparents and grandparents to take care of them. When they enter middle school and high school, they think they should be disciplined. , Brought the children around, and became more and more strict, even interfering with their future life events of finding a job, getting married and getting married. Education like
is undoubtedly a failure, and more importantly, it will interfere with children's growth and their lives. Parents’ care is not to make them dependent, but to learn to be independent. During the
process, parents must learn to controlControl your irritability, don't rush to do everything for your children, give them time to do it themselves. Errors are inevitable in the process, and tolerance and patience are needed. Finally, when the children show results, parents should give praise and encouragement. Parents themselves do not mean that children can master it smoothly. The focus of education is on continuous teaching, and it is necessary to give children the opportunity to try. The reason why children are dependent is because their parents will not let go of too many replacements since childhood.
Delayed gratification
Delayed gratification enables children to cherish the things and relationships around them, and only when they grow up with gratitude can they learn how to treat others correctly.
Parents with patience can cultivate children with tolerance, and parents can only know how to wait if their children are not in a hurry. The greater the success, the process must be difficult and bumpy, and things that are too easy to get will not know how to cherish and cannot enjoy the happiness it brings.
Only by relying on the achievements of hard work can you have greater satisfaction. Delayed gratification can bring not only greater returns, but also exercise the child's resilience and endurance in the process. The definition of delayed gratification is not simply to delay rewarding children, but to let children understand the meaning of waiting in the process of their efforts. If
wants children to cope with the challenges of social difficulties and setbacks in the future, they must cultivate their survival ability from an early age. Only in this way can children live better in the new era of society.
