, there seems to be a kind of "baby-raising circle", that is, children who are loved by their parents are less filial than those who are not favored.
especially has many children in the family in the past, and the child in the middle is often the most neglected: they are not as sensible as their brothers and sisters, they are not as lively as their brothers and sisters, and of course they are less favored.
But when the parents are old, the one who takes care of the elderly more and is the closest to the elderly is the least favored "middle child". So what is the reason? Parents who are planning to have a second child, please look carefully.
is loved and deserved
because some children who are favored by their parents often think that this kind of love that other brothers and sisters longs for is taken for granted. In their view, their parents’ love for them should be, so Don't thank your parents for preference.
And the blatant love of parents will make them proud, unreasonable, and will not actively give. They will also bully their brothers and sisters and develop such a character. Can parents expect them to be filial when they grow up? Of course, this is only part of the situation. For most people surrounded by love, most of them are kind in their hearts.
If you are not loved, you want to be recognized.
Children who are not loved by their parents will treasure the care of their parents because they have been neglected to make them more filial when they grow up, just to gain the approval of their parents.
Because they clearly know that they are not favored in their hearts, they will be envious of the favored children while working hard, just to please their parents. They are used to surrounding their parents and rarely sit back and watch their parents when they grow up. ignore.
really feels distressed when I think of it here. They are all their own children. Why are their parents partial?
lacks love, so I can empathize with children who have never been loved by
, so they are more eager for love. They hope to get love by giving love. And because they grew up in an environment lacking love, they know the pain of lack of love. So when they grow up, when they see that their parents lack parental care, even if they have grievances, they will still be filial to their parents.
In fact, they are also enjoying the process of filial piety to their parents, because they may not be close to their parents when they were young, but now they can be close at any time, and their hearts are also satisfied.
However, although this is the case, it is not absolute. Because more unfavored children will develop an inferiority complex and reluctant to speak, which is not good for their future growth. Moreover, parental bias can also affect the feelings of siblings, resent each other, or form a bad competitive relationship.
Therefore, as a parent, please try to treat each of your children with the same love. If you can’t, please try to be fair. Especially now that with the opening of the second child, more parents want second child. I hope that parents can do what they say and treat them equally. Don't let the children's heartfelt heart be cold.
