Undoubtedly, our children are and will face much greater pressure to survive than their parents. Their lives are destined to be a cruel competition. As parents, we all hope that our children can live a happy life. For this goal, we do our best to train them, learn more skills, test higher scores, and get more diplomas... We can rest assured that our children are "armed to the teeth". But what kind of children can really reassure parents? I think they are independent children.
Someone once said: "All love is for the purpose of narrowing the distance between two people, and only the parent’s love for the child has the ultimate purpose of separation." The meaning of is that the love of parents should be cultivated from their side. The independent individual is the ultimate goal.
Cultivating children's independence runs through all aspects of life. It can be said that there is a long way to go. This article only talks about my views from the aspect of "cultivating children's ability to think independently". We all hope that our children will get good grades and use this grade to knock on the door of the ideal university. Compared with children with temporarily high scores, children who can think independently have more potential and competitiveness. Learning to think is the most valuable capital in a person's life. Cultivating children's habit of independent thinking and independent judgment should always be the first priority in education. So, how can parents cultivate children's ability to think independently when studying?
must first create an atmosphere of independent thinking
Franklin once said: "Reading is easy, thinking is difficult; but without one of the two, it is useless." Create an atmosphere of thinking, forming a unique personality for children, innovative Thinking is very important. Parents should not regard their children as an accessory to adults just because they are young or because they think they are ignorant and need adult care. They should be allowed to have their own world and space. Many parents accompany their children to complete homework from the first grade of elementary school, or even complete the homework on their behalf, failing to complete or threatening or inducing. In short, homework has almost become "parents' work." It is hard to imagine that a child who has completed his homework under the eyes of his parents from childhood will have the habit and ability to think independently. Parental control will cut off the children's thinking siblings, making independent thinking difficult. Z2z
Secondly, it is necessary to give children time for independent thinking
This requires parents to lighten their children's burden, do not engage in tactics for children, and do not allow many insignificant materials such as "Treasure Book Secrets" to squeeze children's limited time. Einstein said: "Overburden will inevitably lead to superficiality." We should allow children time to think. This story illustrates the importance of thinking time. Late one night, the famous physicist Rutherford walked into the laboratory under his leadership and saw a student doing an experiment. Rutherford hesitated a little, and then went to ask the student: "It's so late, what are you doing?" The student replied, "I'm working." "What are you doing during the day?" "You are also working!" "Are you also working in the morning?" "Yes, professor, I never left the laboratory from morning till night." The student said positively, hoping to win the teacher's praise. Unexpectedly, Rutherford asked back: "So, what time do you use to think?"
Once again, we need to use some feasible methods to let children learn to think. There is no practical and effective way to train children to think independently. Habit is just empty talk. In the process of children's learning, there are some specific and feasible methods:
1, guide children to speak knowledge in their own words : Parents can let children use their own words to speak out the knowledge learned in a certain period. The requirements are more popular. Simple is better. Turning textbook words into your own words requires a process of independent thinking. This process helps to deepen children's understanding and mastery of knowledge. Z2z
2. Ask children to sort out various question types. : Parents can ask children to sort out the question types based on a certain amount of questions, and summarize the problem-solving skills and precautions of each question type. Through this kind of independent thinking, children can get the correct answer step by step when they see similar questions again. Z2z
3. Try to let children compile questions to test parents : Parents can let their children compile questions to test parents based on what they have learned. The process of compiling questions is a process of in-depth thinking about what you have learned. When children can set various "traps" in the questions, parents haveReasons to believe that these "traps" will no longer trouble their children in the exam.
4. Allow children to express their true views : In life, when children tell their parents their true views, whether it is wrong or right, first of all encourage children to think independently. If the idea is wrong, parents can put forward their own opinions in an equal manner, let the children make their own judgments, and remember not to impose their own ideas on the children. Z2z
5. Encourage children to ask more questions : When a child asks a question, parents should immediately encourage him and praise him for his willingness to use his brain. In this way, as the child asks more and more questions, his thinking will become more comprehensive and his ability to think independently will become stronger. Of course, when the child asks a question, he must accompany the child to do everything possible to find the answer to the question. Z2z
6. Don't interrupt the child roughly : When the child is telling his reason, the parent cannot interrupt halfway. No matter how much he disagrees, he must let the child finish the sentence. Regardless of whether the child's point of view is correct or not, as long as it can be fully explained, it will help improve his independent thinking ability. Mr. Chen Heqin, a well-known child educator in my country, said: “Everything that children can think of by themselves, they should be allowed to think for themselves.”
educates children by following this principle to cultivate their independent thinking ability. The future belongs to the children. The children's future depends on them to walk, and the future life must be created by themselves. All this is not a substitute for parents. Parents who love their children, let your children walk by themselves!
I am Jiayuguan Dapeng, sharing parenting dry goods and discussing learning experience.
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