Some parents find that as their children get older, their children lie more often. He even made up various excuses to deceive his parents in order not to go to class. Many parents of
are also very distressed. It is obvious that children are very well-behaved when they are young. Why do they become so liars after they grow up.
In fact, there are three reasons why children like to lie:
's life experience increases. As a child's experience is not very rich when
is a child, there are certain obstacles in communication between parents and children. But as children grow up, they will begin to understand that their parents can only understand their own behavior but not their own thoughts.
As children grow up, their logical abilities begin to gradually increase, so they have the basic ability to lie and can repeat an event completely.
values are not fully established
Children’s values need to be established from an early age, but when children’s values have not been fully established, they will begin to fail to know right from wrong.
For children, lying is just a skill they have mastered. It is the same as eating and sleeping. Some children will even feel happy and satisfied because they learn to lie. But they didn't even realize that what they were doing was wrong, nor did they know that it was wrong.
tried to find the sweetness of lying
Many children want to use lies to hide their faults. When they find that lies can help them escape the punishment of their parents, they feel the sweetness, and slowly many children learn to lie.
So many times children like to lie because of their family. Some parents have strict control over their children. Therefore, children are afraid of their parents' punishment and scolding. Over time, they will want to lie to avoid their parents' punishment.
Lying does not bring many benefits to children, but will distort children's values. But when parents know that their children are lying, they should also reflect on themselves. Instead of beating and scolding, they should use correct methods to guide their children not to lie.
There are four correct guidance methods that parents can use:
control their emotions
Many parents, after seeing their children become liars, the first reaction is to lose control emotionally, and they are very angry with their children, so they To prevent the children from making mistakes, they will use scolding methods.
However, parents should know that scolding a child sometimes does not make the child change his mistakes, but instead creates a strong sense of fear in the child's heart. Therefore, parents should change their education methods. First, they must control their emotions, try to stay calm and communicate with their children.
take the initiative to let the children admit their mistakes
Parents should not treat their children with negative emotions after discovering that their children have made mistakes, but should take a proactive and positive attitude to let the children admit their mistakes.
Compared with anger, parents are more concerned about the child's next behavior and the child's attitude. Parents should let their children know the seriousness of lying, and let them know that a lie cannot always exist. For a lie, countless lies must be used to justify the truth.
At the same time, parents can also induce children to proactively admit their mistakes and praise their children's behavior, which is also a responsible and responsible performance.
Tell your children the disadvantages of lying
Children tell lies because they do not know the disadvantages of lying, so parents should always tell their children some of the disadvantages of lying, and what consequences will it bring to themselves.
Only if children deny lying in their hearts, then they can truly refrain from lying.
words and deeds are the same
Many times, certain behaviors of children are learned from their parents, so parents can use their own power while teaching their children.
Parents can use their actions to tell their children that there are other ways to solve problems in addition to lying, and let the children take other ways.
Life lies in sincerity, so sometimes it is better to openly admit their mistakes to their parents instead of lying. Parents should also actively guide their children not to lie.
