now generally only has one child in the family, and parents are easy to treat them very well. In previous years, parents basically suffered a lot when they were young, so they hope their children can grow up happily.
But sometimes because of the love of parents, the children lose a lot of things. The older generations pay attention to diligence and thrift and do not waste food. Now children buy all kinds of food and play every day, but they use it twice. I'm tired.
When children face more things, they will also be dazzled. They want different things every day, but there are few things they can really leave behind.
01 Children always want to go to the supermarket to buy things. Bao’s mother “fixed” her son
Xiaofang has a six-year-old son. The four elderly and two adults in the family can say very well to the children, no matter what the child wants, Everyone will satisfy him, which also makes his son become more and more selfish, and spend money uncontrollably.
Although living standards have improved now, Xiaofang feels that spoiling the child so much will also cause problems for the child. After all, the child has to be independent when he grows up, and no one will always treat him this way.
Every time the children go out, they will clamor to go shopping in the supermarket, and they will buy their favorite toys or eat. The toys at home have been piled up into hills, so Xiaofang came up with a way.
Xiaofang told her son that if the child still wants the toy after three days, then he will bring the child to buy it, and he needs to exchange what he likes.
At first, the son did not agree, but after thinking about it, he agreed. After three days passed, the child really didn't want the toy anymore, and the son still liked the previous toy after thinking about it.
Then his son took a fancy to a car, Xiaofang still used the previous method, so the number of times his son bought things became less and less, but he could always buy the toy he really liked.
02 The freshness of the child requires parents to guide
netizens all said: this routine is too deep. In fact, every time children see something, they want to buy it very much, just because they feel it is novel, but when they really get it in their hands, the children will suddenly dislike it. This is also impulsive consumption, as many adults do. The parent of
is very good. Give the child time to think about it first, and not directly buy it to the child, but let the child exchange it, so that the child will know that nothing can be obtained for no reason. It depends on your own efforts.
03 Parents and children should have patience
Many parents are impatient when facing their children. When the children are arguing for something, they will directly satisfy the children, so that the children will be like this next time. It will also give the child something wrong.
Therefore, parents must be patient in front of their children and find a solution to the problem. Don't blame the child for spending money while continuing to buy it. After a long time, it will also cause problems for the child.
* Cultivate children's patience
Children are impatient when they are relatively young. At this time, parents should also know how to cultivate their children's patience. When they encounter new things, parents can let their children try.
After the child has tried it, or if he still likes it after waiting for a period of time, parents should not directly satisfy the child, develop the child’s dependence on others, and let the child obtain it through their own little efforts, and don’t let the child get something for nothing.
04 Let children know how to cherish
Now many children don’t know how to "cherish", except for what they eat and use, they also don’t know how to cherish what others do to them. Parents should let their children learn to cherish the fruits of other people’s labor. Cherish the care others have for them.
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hopes that when parents treat their children well, they will also let their children become independent, understand that the pay and return are the same, and don't let the children become more and more selfish.
Today's topic: Will you let your children get what they want through their own efforts?
