Compared with early enrollment, "a little later" is the best gift for children from smart parents.
——Deer mom
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Author| Lai Mom
Source| Lai Dad Laima Best (ID: laiba-laima)
Last weekend, I heard a mother asking for help:
Do you know which kindergarten can accept children under 2.5 years old?
My son is too noisy at home. I want to send him to kindergarten to learn something and let the teacher take care of him.
Are children under 2.5 years old, really suitable for kindergarten?
I remembered the story of two other kids around me: Yanyan, who is about to enter elementary school at
, is the head of our community. Although
is just 6 years old, he is very strong, and he is a lot taller than a boy of the same age. The most important thing is that he has strong language expression and organization skills. In the
community amusement park, a group of children went to different places to play foolishly. He stood up and organized everyone to play together:
"Tonight, there are many people, let’s play hide and seek together, okay?"
is playing skipping rope, the other children are just you chasing me In a hurry, he can always organize the order:
"Me and Rui Rui (another taller little boy) are shaking, we take turns to dance." Maybe
is born with the ability to organize? Z2z
Yanyan’s mother told me that when Yanyan was over 2 years old, she was a very shy little boy who didn't like to talk much, let alone organization skills. All changes in
are due to a year late in kindergarten.
He was born on the National Day of the 11th, and he was big, and he appeared to be particularly outstanding and mature among a group of children who just turned 3 years old.
On the third day of entering the kindergarten, some children couldn't adapt to crying, so he went up to comfort: Don't be afraid, mother will pick you up in the afternoon.
If children grab toys, he will stand up for justice.
Yanyan has become the teacher's assistant, the small model in the class, the classmate's eldest brother, and the protector of disadvantaged classmates.
His mother said, what I often worry about now is that he cares too much about other people's affairs and is so tired.
I think she is showing off.
My best friend's son Beibei's experience is just the opposite of Yanyan.
was two years old and three months old, and his best friend sent him to kindergarten. Later, she told me many times that she regretted it.
first had severe separation anxiety, and every time he sent to the kindergarten was a battle;
had poor resistance. In kindergarten, when a child got sick, he was always the first to be infected;
finally made his best friend make up his mind to drop out of school. Lost eyes when I couldn't get the little red flowers in Beibei. In the
class, various small competitions are often held, such as drawing, answering, telling stories, singing, and dancing. Beibei, whose language skills, comprehension and physical abilities are all weaker than his peers, always looks at other children to get it. Little red flowers, beautiful stickers.
Beibei, who is in his early two years, has a slow language development, and his speech is still a single word. It really cannot keep up with the rhythm of a three-year-old. If
let him go, maybe he has accepted his fate as a poor student before he goes to school.
Psychologist Lamb studied 3,000 young children and found that the stress hormone (cortisol level) in children of
was twice as high as that of children of the same age who did not enter the nursery for 9 months.
Moreover, the younger the child enters the nursery, the greater the pressure value.
It turns out that pushing children to kindergarten prematurely thinking that children will grow up quickly and learn to be independent is just a fantasy of our adults.
The little child can only shrink in the corner and endure silently when crying and resisting are ineffective.
He may finally adapt to the kindergarten life, but that period of despair and helplessness may become his life's nightmare.
go to kindergarten one year later
children are more likely to build self-confidence
"Going to kindergarten a year later is the best gift for a boy." This sentence of
comes from Huo Siyan, ah, before he was 4 years old, he didn't send it to kindergarten.
record onceProduce variety shows, and the program group let Uh Hum come to the kindergarten class.
soon became the focus of classmates, openly communicate with friends and share egg tarts.
only has the last egg tart, huh, he also made a special witty proposal to divide the small egg tart into three, and he, his father and the teacher each have a small piece.
knows how to share, express, and be polite. Uh-huh, you can adapt to kindergarten life.
Indeed, a one-year-old age difference, both physically and psychologically, can easily build strong self-confidence and make children more popular among peers. In 1997,
won the George Miller Award of American psychology in the psychology book "The Myth of Upbringing", the author tells a children's world completely different from our imagination. The world of
children is not as innocent as adults imagined, but is divided into levels:
older children have a higher status than children, and children who mature earlier have a higher status than children who mature later;
mature is like money to children For adults, it can increase or decrease a person’s popularity.
Actually, we can observe this phenomenon in our daily life:
children always like to play with older children, but older children do not like to play with children.
(such as Peppa Pig, George is Peppa’s little follower)
is mature, and age is one of the evaluation criteria. It can have many evaluation indicators:
social skills, familiarity with the rules, whether it is strong, vision, insight, expression Ability, courage and wisdom. Most of these factors are linked to age (of course, parents can also intervene by paying attention to education).
Stanford University Education Research Institute has cooperated with Professor Thomas Dee for many years, and published an authoritative paper mentioning:
"Children go to kindergarten a year later, whether it is for his current self-management ability or for future growth, it will be of great benefit. "Z5z
, as the "Matthew Effect" said, the stronger the stronger, the more mature children will perform better in all aspects, and they will be more likely to receive attention from teachers, support from their classmates, and have stronger self-confidence and become more easily. excellent.
and vice versa.
went to kindergarten a year earlier, seeming to occupy the age advantage, but may be pushed to the bottom of the same age group, self-esteem and self-confidence levels are relatively low;
children who go to kindergarten a year later, seem to lose at the starting line. But they can be better integrated into the group, participate more in the activities of the class with their advantages, and have more chances to become the leader. Playing with
is the best way for children to learn
Some parents may ask, should they let their children play at home and learn nothing?
Actually, playing is the best way for children to learn.
repeatedly emphasized in the "Kindergarten Management Regulations" and "Outline":
preschool education is for children aged 3-6, and games are the main method of preschool education.
In other words, children go to early education, parent-child classes, and kindergarten, not for "learning", but for "playing".
Build self-confidence in play, learn to socialize, cooperate, acquire aesthetic and practical skills, and build interest in learning.
Let two or three-year-old children read pinyin, learn Chinese characters, and do arithmetic, which not only violates the concept of preschool education, but also violates the laws of children's physical and mental development.
and the disadvantages of advanced learning will explode when children are in the third grade of elementary school.
In pedagogy, there is a concept called the third grade phenomenon.
The child enters the third grade, suddenly loses interest in learning, does not listen carefully in class, and has a serious decline in grades.
Even though advanced learning will make your child perform better than other children when they just enter the first grade.
However, children tend to lack the desire to explore and learn in class because they have already learned it, and they develop the bad habit of listening inattentively.
waited for the third grade, the child's "foundation" is finished, and the desire to learn is not strong, the study habits are not good, and the study will become more and more difficult and worse.
There is a sentence in the book "A good mother is better than a good teacher":
If we want our child to accept anything, we should tempt him;
If we want our child to refuse, we must force him.
If we want our child to love learning, we should use the joy of learning to tempt the child, not the boring learning. To force the child.
For young children, play is more important than learning; experience is more important than thinking; outdoors is more important than indoors; listening to stories is more important than learning to write; demonstration is more important than preaching; family is more important than school.
In the first few years of a child's life, if he can feel the joy of learning, then he will always enjoy the beauty of learning and exploration in the future life.
Self-care ability
is the greatest protection for children
Of course, many children enter the kindergarten early, except for the mistakes in their parents' educational concepts, there are also many unspeakable conceals.
For example:
has poor financial conditions and no elderly people, so let the children go to kindergarten early.
I don’t want my child to be separated from his parents, take the child back from his hometown as soon as possible, and don’t want to give up work, so I send it to kindergarten early. Mother
is pregnant with a second child and has no energy to take care of it at the same time, so Dabao is sent to school first.
Mom wants to re-enter the workplace and does not want to be eliminated by society, so let her children go to kindergarten early.
In fact, whether a child can be sent to kindergarten, more importantly, depends on the child's own ability.
If you can’t do so, you must send your child to kindergarten. Please ensure that your child has these abilities:
Independent toileting ability
Before sending your child to kindergarten, please teach your child the ability to go to the toilet independently, and make sure that the child is "smelly" The verbal expression of "pissing urine" is correct.
Of course, wiping your butt is not normal, but you have to be able to handle it yourself.
Independent dining ability
kindergarten teachers, even if they have three heads and six arms, even if they are full of love and patience, it is impossible to feed your children every day.
If you want your child to be full, first let the child have the ability to eat.
The ability to wear and take off shoes independently
Some kindergartens distinguish indoor and outdoor shoes, even if they do not distinguish, children need to take off their shoes and wear shoes during lunch break. It is impossible for teacher
to help your child wear shoes every time. Please be sure to let your child learn the ability to wear and take off shoes independently. Of course, it is even better to be able to buy "one-step" shoes for your child.
The ability to understand simple instructions
In collective life, especially outdoor sports, children need to be able to understand simple instructions, such as walking over, drilling over, and squatting down. Only after the children have the ability to understand simple qualities can they better adapt to the collective life.
Basic interpersonal skills
There are two main basic interpersonal skills here. First, children will not hit people for no reason. Second, children know how to ask the teacher for help when they encounter difficulties that they cannot solve.
The basic sense of sharing
kindergarten toys are shared by all children in the class.
This is completely different from home. By guiding children to learn how to share, conflicts or injuries caused by competition for toys can be avoided. The
philosopher John Lockett said:
“Once a child’s habits are successfully cultivated, they do not need to rely on memory, they can easily and naturally take effect.”
The development of self-care ability can make children healthier and more independent. To grow.
Children’s safety is above all else. If parents teach their children a self-care ability, the children’s sense of security will increase.
writer Yin Jianli said that children do not live to grow up or succeed. Children live for childhood first.
A child who does not have a happy childhood can hardly be happy in his future life.
For him, all the talents and successes are meaningless.
Don't worry about going to kindergarten one year earlier or one year later, but watch your children.
Is he ready to go and wants to go to that new world.
Let children enjoy a happy and complete time with peace of mind. I believe that children can step on their own bestTowards their best future.
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*Source: Laiba-laima (ID: laiba-laima), focusing on scientific nurturing for 0-6 years old for 10 years.
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