? Children all over the country have one thing in common. When enters the house, they look for "mother".
recently saw such a video. When the son entered the house, he kept shouting "Mom", but turned a blind eye to the father sitting at the door. The jealous father forced the son to go out and reopen the door and call
. As a result, the son entered the house again. , But it was "Dad, where's mom?"
"Mom, I'm back!"
"Mom, I'm thirsty!"
"Mom, I'm hungry!"
"Mom, you saw my clothes Huh!"... every day,
calls mother as soon as he enters the house, calls mother when he opens his eyes, and calls mother when he can't see her.
As for dad, there is only one sentence "Dad, where is my mom?" dad is the search engine for you to find mom.
seems very funny, but the content revealed behind it is worth our thought.
Why does the child only see the mother?
When a child is born, the first thing you see is the mother.
From childhood to adulthood, mother breastfeeding, changing diapers, sleeping, reading and playing games, mother is always at your side. Before going to kindergarten,
spent almost 24 hours with him. After going to elementary school, he accompanies homework, study, and extracurricular classes every day.
From a baby waiting to be fed to a family and starting a business, it can be said that the mother's contribution is the most in the growth of the child, eating and drinking, learning and growing, the mother is all inclusive. The mother poured the most love and care into the child, and the most inseparable link was established between the child and the mother.
For children, mother is their greatest sense of security and spiritual support, as long as the mother is there, the child will feel at ease.
Why did dad become invisible?
Someone on Zhihu wrote about this. When a foreign father who picked up his child from school was interviewed by reporters, he asked confusedly: "I pick up my daughter from school every day, and found that among the parents who picked up the child, other than me, Parents are all grandparents and mothers. Where did the Chinese dad go? Why do I feel that I am not working every day when I come to pick up my children? Is it possible that in China, if I have a working dad, I don’t need to accompany my children?"
has a survey Statistics show that in China, 80% of ’s fathers are widowed, and 20% of ’s fathers are invisible fathers. In either case, 90% of ’s babies belong to their mothers.
"Widowed parenting", "corpse parenting", "invisible father", the emergence of these new terms have greatly proved the practical problems of family education, that is, the serious absence of fathers and serious education errors.
Dad, either disappears in the growth of his child under the pretext of being busy with work, or playing games on his mobile phone when he is with his child, carelessly, letting the child down.
In a Chinese family, it is not that the child regards his father as an invisible person, but 's father is automatically invisible and hides himself in the child's growth.
The growth of a child is never a matter of two people. It requires the efforts of the child and the joint efforts of parents.
A happy family, parents care for each other and respect each other, they will be grateful for each other's contributions. Growing up in such a warm and harmonious family, only children can understand what love is, what is respect, and what is gratitude, so that they can see their parents.
has watched the variety show "Where is Dad?", everyone praised Huo Siyan's son as a little warm man with high EQ. In fact, um, he was influenced by his father Du Jiang.
Du Jiang's love for Huo Siyan was caught in the eyes. Therefore, he felt very sorry for his mother. When he went out, he would open the door for his mother first; he was afraid that his mother would be uncomfortable, so he ordered a cup of hot coffee for her.
educator Dewey said: "The purpose of all education is to form a character. In the growth of everyone's life, there is no teacher more important than the parents. The best tutoring is the love of husband and wife." Z2z
grew up in a loving family with parents. The child has a full sense of security, inner self-confidence, delicate emotions, knows how to take care of others, and high emotional intelligence.
Parental love is the greatest confidence for children to grow up happily, childrenThere is no need to look forward and backward, just move forward wholeheartedly.
Zhihu has a question: what does it mean to a child to have a father who can play with him?
Gao Zan replied: What kind of person the father played in the growth of his son is really important.
Dad accompanies me to play various games, and even plays video games with me. When I was a child, in my eyes, my father was the most powerful person in the world. He could pass the Contra all his life, and he could kill the Lord of the Moon. He only had to say: If I don’t take you to play games in the future, I will go obediently. Learn. So at that time, I was not afraid of how dark it was.
For me, father playing various games with me is all my childhood memories.
Having a father who is willing to accompany him when he grows up is the child's greatest luck.
American early childhood psychologist Gesell proposed that the lack of love of the father will lead to a defect and imbalance in the development of human emotions. No one can replace the role of father in the growth of children.
Children with a father’s company will have more complete emotional development. They are not afraid of difficulties and dare to take risks; they like to make friends and are good at socializing; they have a stronger sense of family responsibility and a happier future marriage life.
A good education is shared by parents Strength, love between husband and wife, harmony between parents and children, this is the greatest boost to the growth of children.
Fromm said in "The Art of Love" that : Mom represents nature, the earth and the ocean, and is our hometown; Dad represents the world of thought: law, order and discipline.
The father determines the child's life pattern, and the mother determines the child's human temperature, is indispensable for both.
In the first issue of "Wonderful Flowers", Yan Rujing said that
"a child's life is a series, from the first to the twentieth episode, he will slowly change. You don't watch the series, you can make up for it, but the children's Life is irreversible. If you don’t look at it, you will never see it. Parents are the only audience in the first half of a child's life, and children are the only audience in the second half of their parents."
The growth of a child is irreversible. Don’t wait for your child to grow up. I regret it later, don’t let your lazy stealing from your child become an irreparable regret.
