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In a program, Professor Chu Yin and Teacher Zhang Xuefeng launched a fierce PK on children's education.
Teacher Zhang Xuefeng said that the main body of education is children, and it depends on whether children are happy. Professor
Chu Yin asked: "The main body of education is the child, but can the child's interests be determined by the child? Children always chase the happiness in front of them, so you would like your child to sacrifice his long-term happiness for the happiness in front of him. Is it worth it? Are you sure he won't regret it in the future?" Professor Z2z
Chu Yin's words attracted the support of many netizens. The main body of
education is children. Yes, but who should lead the education?
is obviously not the child himself. The leader of
education is the teacher and the parent.
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For education, getting children right is more important than making children happy.
In a sense, one of the important functions of education is to let children do the right things at the right time.
If you just look at the happiness of your children, obviously playing games is happier than doing problems, spending money is happier than making money, and sleeping late is happier than getting up on time.
We must let our children know that some happy things should be done less or not.
Of course, what is the right thing, what should be done and what should not be done, different positions will have different opinions.
Children think they are right, while parents and teachers think they are right.
Obviously, the younger the child, the more correct the parents and teachers.
because they have more knowledge, more experience, and can consider issues on a longer time scale.
As children continue to grow, they will continue to catch up in all aspects and eventually surpass their parents and teachers. This is a gradual process.
Generally speaking, at least in the primary and middle school years, the parents are stronger than the children. Starting from the university period, the two sides will gradually reach a balance, and then the strength will gradually change.
So the process of education is also the process of parents withdrawing constantly.
However, in the initial stage of a child's growth, the parents' intervention and influence on the child are the greatest, and the responsibilities on their shoulders are also the heaviest.
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Some people say that parents always want their children to realize their unrealized ideals.
This is true.
But there is nothing wrong.
parents, as people who have passed by, have both successful experiences and lessons from failures. They have not realized their ideals in life, but they already know what went wrong.
is like walking. They have already walked through it, knowing where there are slopes and where there are pits. Now they will tell you how to climb the slope and how to avoid those pits.
They always want to tell their children, don't fall into the pit like them anymore, avoid crawling out of the pit in disgrace, shouldn't this?
Under the guidance of such parents, shouldn't your life go smoother and go further?
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has a question on Zhihu: If you can predict the future, will you work harder than now?
ranked first, the highest praise answer is very positive:
"Yes, and will spare no effort to work hard."
Of course we can not predict the future, but our teachers and parents are "prophets", they know what is. Yes, what is wrong, what should be done, and what should not be done.
In fact, each of us can ask ourselves: When we grow up, do we find that the words that our parents say in our ears every day that we are bored are actually the most plausible sayings?
is just like what Mingzhu teacher said in the new book "Reading for Oneself":
has a kind of sorrow in this world. It is only when I grow up that I realize that the most important time of my life has been easily missed by myself.
Then, when I became a parent, I stood up and talked about it and taught my own bloody lessons to my children.
And the children, just like they did in the past, the speakers are slanderous and the listeners are contemptuous, so they don't take it seriously.
Parents watched their children make their own mistakes, and when he grows up to become a parent, he will regret itTo educate their children with hatred, forming a cycle after another.
Of course, those who can break out of this cycle are all successful in life.
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Really, there is no regret medicine in life, don't wait to finally understand life, but miss the best years.
Only those who come here will know what to do best and how to do the best on a lifetime scale.
When it comes to educating children, don’t talk about “as long as the children are happy”. There must be painful elements in
education, because children's growth requires restraint and planning.
gives the children the right to choose in life. This seems to respect the children, but in fact it is irresponsible to the children.
Mingzhu talks about education from the dual perspectives of teachers and parents, and answers the education puzzles of teenagers and parents.
