"From getting up to getting dressed and going to school, my son has to be with me every step of the way, pointing at himself, he can't get out of the house all morning." Recently I have received such complaints from many parents.
Why do children behave like this? This has nothing to do with their parents.
When a child just learns to eat in his early childhood, his exploration of food and his exploration of hand-eye coordination often break us down, so we always feed the children; The methods and proficiency are not perfect, so we always dislike the inadequacy of the children.
Children have just come into contact with their own life problems in junior high school, and they feel that their emotions explode and feel confused and irritable. We may criticize children for not being able to control their emotions instead of guiding them. In this way, children will have the negative thoughts of "I can't do it" imperceptibly. How can they have the courage to face life and the power to be independent?
If you want your children to be independent, it is especially important to do these points:
1. Think about the problem from the perspective of the child.
Parents must understand that when parents really think from the perspective of their children, they will find that everything in the children's world is a big deal. For example, if your child wants you to help unbutton his clothes, don't think it's a trivial matter and ask him to do it himself, thinking about it in another way.
For him, this is really difficult. Therefore, if the child's request for help is reasonable, parents should not "stick to the principle" over and over again to emphasize to the child that the child "does his own thing".
2. Give children opportunities to do what they can do.
As mentioned above, many times parents mistakenly instill the thought of "he can't do" in their children. Gradually, when there are problems, the children are reluctant to try to solve them, because he feels that he is definitely not good.
Over time, he was put on the hat of "not enough self-reliance". The culprit is the parents. Therefore, when a child encounters a problem, do not interfere with it at the first time. Depending on the situation, give the child a chance to solve the problem by himself , Will make them more confident and self-reliant.
3. Respect children's emotions.
Sometimes when a child shows "independence", it does not necessarily mean that he is not self-reliant. It may just be a signal to you, wanting you to accompany him more. At this time, we have some feelings, and we can’t think about He blames! Communicate with the child and calm his emotions.
Self-reliant children also have emotions. Don’t reduce the effort on them just because you think your children are self-reliant and sensible. The more you accompany, the more you get.
Do these points so that your children will no longer "get up early and catch up late," parents can also be more relaxed~
