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Every year when the school starts, the kindergarten always reverberates with the children's howling, which often lasts for several days.
In fact, this is usually because children have separation anxiety, which is a very normal phenomenon and can be completely overcome. There are not many reasons that cause children to have separation anxiety. They are nothing more than children's young age, unsuitability for sudden separation from their parents, and unsuitability for the new environment.
So parents don’t have to worry too much, as long as they are prepared in advance to relieve their children’s separation anxiety.
There are some points and methods below that parents can try.
Go to kindergarten before school starts to cultivate children's interest in school
Many parents may ask why they want to go before school starts. At this time, there are obviously no people in kindergarten.
Because children stay with their parents for a long time, they will instinctively feel scared when they suddenly separate from their parents.
Therefore, it is recommended that parents accompany their children to the kindergarten more before the beginning of school. Even if they just look outside the kindergarten, they can also familiarize themselves with the environment there in advance.
But the point is that should stimulate children’s interest in going to kindergarten . For example, tell him: kindergarten has beautiful and gentle teachers, who can play every day, and there will be many children, so that children think going to kindergarten is a very interesting thing .
In this way, the child will slowly let go of his defenses, the resistance will disappear, and maybe they will look forward to going to kindergarten every day.
Bringing a toy to kindergarten
Letting children bring toys to kindergarten is a method that many parents will take. In fact, toys are not necessary, as long as it is something that can comfort the child.
Children often feel lonely when they are sad in the kindergarten or miss their parents. And a toy that has accompanied him since childhood will make the child feel a little safe.
When the child is crying, you can hug it, and after the mood stabilizes, you can also play with the children in the kindergarten.
usually cultivate children's independence
If children lack independence, even if they briefly stimulate interest in kindergarten, they still cannot live well in kindergarten. This problem must be solved fundamentally.
In the episode of "Where Are You Going, Dad", where the children go shopping, Huang Lei's daughter Duoduo is very independent. Not only did she keep in mind what her father had ordered, she also helped her siblings choose goods and carry things.
Many viewers are amazed by how capable they are.
In fact, from Huang Lei's Weibo, it can be seen that he attaches great importance to cultivating the independence of his daughter. For example, let the children clean up the room by themselves and make their favorite accessories. In short, everything needs to be done independently.
Over time, Duoduo has the independent ability that other children lack.
kindergarten is a brand-new environment for children, and it is impossible for teachers to be comprehensive. Children need to learn to dress, eat and sleep by themselves.
Therefore, parents can always try to let their children exercise more, such as eating by themselves, folding the quilt, etc., let them do these simple things instead of relying on their parents blindly. In addition to taking care of themselves, parents also need to teach their children how to get along with others in a friendly way. For example, you can encourage your children to greet others more, teach them polite language, and the most important thing is to let them learn to be kind to others.
Under this kind of education, the child will develop the good qualities of independence and politeness early, which will greatly help his growth.
Parents must control their emotions
When sending their children to school, parents only need to say goodbye gently and never show sad emotions. Because children are very susceptible to the influence of their parents. When they see their mothers crying, the children will cry with them. Finally, the mother and the child cried bitterly together.
will only amplify and prolong the anxiety of the child. How can he go to school well?
We must say goodbye to the children, and it is best to have some sense of ritual , the purpose is to let the children know that going to school is an important and sacred thing.
then turned and left with a smile (you have to cry secretly after walking away), don't infect your children with sadness and anxiety.
There are important things to do at any stage. When a child reaches school age, he must be allowed to adapt to the kindergarten life, and he cannot be left alone because he is reluctant or troublesome. After all, there will be elementary schools, junior high schools, high schools, universities and society waiting for him in the future.
Children’s separation anxiety is not a particularly serious problem, but parents still need to find some ways to relieve them, which can also reduce children’s resistance to kindergarten.
and nurturing raising children’s independence is the fundamental way for children to adapt to the kindergarten life , so no matter how busy they are, they should look for opportunities to let children do more things within their capacity and become better children in practice.
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