was watching the parent-child show "Tell the World I Can" recently, I was shocked by a grandma's way of bringing a baby. The four-year-old girl Yomi was forbidden by her mother to drink Coke, but her grandmother came up with a "smart trick" to put Coke into a baby bottle while her mother was not paying attention.
After waking up in the morning, Yomi clamored for snacks and Coke before breakfast. Mother refused her, and grandma rushed to open a bottle of energy drink that was not suitable for children to drink. Yomi stopped crying after drinking the drink as she wished, and her mother was so angry that she didn't know what to say. Z1z
Yomi’s mother said, “The drink is too cold, it’s not good to drink it.” Grandma explained, “I’ll warm her up and drink it again.” Grandma
made sense of what she did. She said that because she didn't want to see her crying, she wanted to cling to her. Although they are used to children from generation to generation, this practice of allowing children to eat snacks and drinks at will, and even some of them are not suitable for children to eat, it is really harmful to children's health.
The elderly help to bring the baby, really relieve the pressure of young parents, so that they can work at ease. However, in the process of bringing children to the elderly, the collision of some old parenting concepts with new scientific parenting concepts has really caused conflicts in the family.
Among them, the children's healthy diet and so on are the most prone to differences. Especially with regard to snacks, most of the elderly are left to eat by their children, and young parents prohibit or restrict their children from eating.
Why do old people like to buy snacks for their children?
1. Misunderstanding of concepts.
Many elderly people think that snacks are what they eat. There is nothing wrong with what they eat. Children eat as much as they want. Some elderly people will feel that, regardless of whether it is a snack or a staple food, as long as the child is willing to eat it is a good thing.
As for some additives in snacks, sugar and other factors that are not conducive to health, elderly people usually don't know much.
2, coax the child with snacks.
Old people don't pay attention to too many ways and methods to bring their babies, and the children don't cry or make trouble. Coaxing children with snacks is the simplest and most effective way.
uses snacks to attract children and even discipline them. In fact, such an approach will only make it more difficult for children to discipline, and there is no limit to snacking.
3, derived from their own compensation psychology.
Grandma Youmi explained in the show why she didn't restrict her children's snacks, because she didn't have snacks when she was a child, but now she has them, why not let them eat.
Some elderly people had bad conditions when they were young or when their children were young, and they didn't eat many snacks. Now that living conditions are better and there are so many types of snacks, out of a compensatory mentality, I want children to eat whatever they want.
Among the differences in inter-generational education, the most difficult communication is that older generations always use their own experience to suppress young parents. During the show, Yomi's mother has been emphasizing snacks with her grandma. And grandma just said, "I raised you like this, don't you think you are fine now." Although
said that home is not a reasonable place, but it is related to children's health issues, we must adhere to principles. It is necessary to make it clear that parents are the first responsible persons for children, and to firm up one's own principles in the upbringing and education of children.
First of all, we must clearly talk to the elderly about the dangers of snacks to children.
can find articles and videos of some experts or doctors, and study with the whole family. For example, the effect of sugar in snacks on children's teeth and vision. The harm of carbonated drinks and functional drinks to children. These concerns must be made clear to the elderly.
Secondly, family neutrality rules and strict compliance.
does not allow children to eat snacks at all. In most families, it is difficult to achieve, but children can eat to a limited extent.
Which snacks can not be eaten when they are young, when to eat snacks (cannot eat before meals, you can eat a small amount between meals), how many snacks you eat each time, you can only buy one or two snacks each time you buy snacks, etc. Wait. These can all be used as family conventions, written out, the more detailed the better. Such rules as
are not only for children, but also for the whole family. Parents should also lead by example.
for the hard work of helping the elderly with the baby, IWe must be grateful. However, for the good of the children, we cannot compromise on some important issues.
