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In the process of raising children, we not only raise the children, but also want the children to be filial and grateful when they grow up, and we must be very close to us.
Yesterday, I chatted with my neighbor's aunt. As I was chatting, the aunt shed tears and said, "It's said that raising children to prevent old age. I have worked hard to raise the only seedlings, but I haven't even called a few phone calls."
I said, this is not an extraordinary period, I can’t come back, my aunt said, “What is an extraordinary period? I haven’t come back even if it is not an extraordinary period.”
Only occasionally call me all year round. Now your uncle and I feel cold and no longer look forward to it. I just remember it and feel sad. At the same time, I regret that I was too harsh to my children when I was a child.
causes the child to immediately break free from our constraints and run far away as soon as he graduates and starts working.
At this time, I was wondering, what kind of family do children not only be filial and grateful when they grow up, but they will still be very close to us?
Harmony family atmosphere
Family is the cradle of children's growth, and parents are the harbors for children to live in. Therefore, during the growth of children, they all hope that home is warm and harmonious.
But the harmonious and happy family atmosphere requires the family to manage it with care, not the same family, which is always full of quarrels and war.
Because the home is full of quarrels, the child will be extremely frightened in an unstable environment and emotions, and even want to escape and stay away in his heart.
But if so, in a harmonious family atmosphere, the child will boldly communicate his or her thoughts and opinions with his or her parents, rather than fearing his or her parents' authority and not daring to express his or her true feelings.
For example, Sister Lin, the next door, every time she goes to their house, their house is full of laughter and joy, and she is naturally infected by their family atmosphere.
But what I really admire is the way Sister Lin gets along with her children. Every time I meet them, I am as harmonious as my friends.
makes people feel very comfortable. Unlike other parents, every time they are with their children, they are at a slight juncture, but what they see in Sister Lin’s children is the love and respect for Sister Lin.
Now I think about it, the reason why children can be like friends with Sister Lin when they grow up is mainly because of the harmonious atmosphere provided by Sister Lin when they were young.
grew up in a loving environment, and his parents respected him, so when they grow up, they will naturally not stay away from their parents, but will still be very close to them.
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Psychologists say:
Children's understanding of this world is to recognize the world and their own through their parents, the environment and the behavior around them.
When the child grows up, the words parents say to their children and the family atmosphere that children feel will make their children feel love and warmth.
Democratic parents
Democratic parents respect their children in a democratic family. As long as the children abide by the rules they should have, they can express their ideas at will.
For example, when parents are incorrect, you can boldly raise them with your parents, give them opinions, and express your views on this matter.
In democratic families, there is no so-called authoritative oppression, nor control. Some of them are the respect and letting go of their children.
They taught children how to manage themselves, and also knew when children could manage and when they needed to let go.
also knows that as a parent, you should not be a parent, but you should also listen to your child’s opinions when the child is right.
will not be bothered by being a child and taking care of themselves, because their thoughts are open and their thinking is democratic and independent.
What children in a democratic family feel the most is the respect and freedom given by their parents, even if the children grow up.
They do not want to break free from the shackles of their parents like some children, but are still willing to share their affairs with their parents.
Because of democratic parents, they have never felt restrained and suffocated, and they have always enjoyed the freedom and respect given by their parents.
So whether you are a child or when you grow up, your children will be in a state, and your relationship with your parents will always be very close.
Encouraging parents
What children need most during their growth process is encouragement, not the accusation of their parents. Children who are often encouraged by their parents will be full of confidence.
A confident child will have confidence in doing anything, rather than being timid, afraid of this and that.
Children are timid, most of which are caused by their parents’ criticism or criticism, because too much criticism from their parents will make them question themselves.
Therefore, if you want your children to be confident and love us from the bottom of your heart, you must learn to encourage your children correctly, rather than yell at them when they encounter problems.
Just imagine, do we like to be with people who often praise and recognize us, or do we like to be with people who often pick our problems.
The result should be that most people like to be encouraged and recognized by others. This is the case in the world of adults, let alone children?
But remember here that encouraging children is not blindly encouraged, but has methods to encourage them, for example, encourage them with growth thinking.
encouragement not only gives children confidence and motivation, but also does not make children proud and proud. This requires parents to master the right method.
is written at the end:
People’s subconscious level all like to listen to comfortable languages. Comfortable language will make us feel that we are really good.
Philosopher James also said:
The essence of human nature is the desire to appreciate, especially for children. Appreciation can make children grow into towering trees, and belittle them can wither and deformity.
So, from now on, start to encourage and appreciate our children, when they are always in a loving and warm environment.
Even if he grows up and is far away from you, he will always miss his warm home and mother, and will always maintain a good parent-child relationship with you.
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Author introduction:
Tong Wei’s mother talks about parenting. I am a second-child mother born in the 1990s who loves learning and growth. I like to record myself and my children in the way I write, and at the same time, I use stories to light up my life. My wish is to live my life the way I like.
