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When a person feels that he is lacking in some aspect, he actually has low self-esteem. In other words, they have very low self-esteem, and this feeling of low self-esteem will often accompany this person throughout his life.
I have a friend whose family is actually quite wealthy, but his parents have always told him since he was a child that he doesn’t have much money at home, and he still owes a lot of money, and his life is very tight.
This friend will always hesitate and waver when it comes to money. You can never escape the shackles of money.
In fact, the original intentions of parents are not wrong. They hope that their children will develop a good habit of being thrifty and thrifty. However, they do not know that they have cultivated an extremely insecure mentality about money in their children.
We can let children endure suffering, but unnecessary suffering does not need to be experienced, otherwise the child will feel inferior in this area throughout his life.
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Many people now have no sense of security. Why don’t they have any sense of security? Where does this insecurity come from? In fact, it may have something to do with the upbringing from childhood.
A mother holds her child in her arms, her eyes filled with love. The child can feel this love.
If the nanny holds the child, what will be the result? For a nanny to hold other people's children, this is at best an obligation, or a job.
It is actually impossible for the nanny to have a deep love for the child, a love that comes from the heart, and the child can feel it.
The grandparents came to hold the child. Although they were direct relatives, they were still separated by a generation. That kind of expression of love may be more of a kind of doting, or a kind of kind love. True love from the heart may not actually be true.
During the process of raising children, many grandparents may still be thinking about doing some things of their own and taking care of the children, just to help reduce the burden on the children.
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In fact, we will see where a lot of love comes from? It comes from your parents who gave birth to you, especially your mother. Mother's love will bring a full sense of security and trust to the child.
Of course, there are also some people who have not gained a sense of security since childhood, so when they grow up, they will work hard, be self-reliant, and rely on their own efforts to build their own career foundation. So as to set off one's own sense of security through these external things.
Everyone’s inner world is actually relatively fragile and not particularly strong, especially when facing the true self, the feeling at that moment is real empathy.
When we get along with a person, can the other person bring us a feeling of peace of mind? If it cannot bring you a sense of peace of mind, then this person may not be suitable for you.
Before being with someone, I slept well every night, but after being with this person, I have insomnia every night, which means that this relationship is unhealthy.
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We always want to pursue a sense of solidity, but we don’t know that this sense of solidity needs to be cultivated and shaped since childhood.
Why do some people have good memories? Even before the age of 15, he had already memorized too many things, and these things were firmly engraved in his brain. Although he did not understand it at the time, he naturally understood it when he grew up.
So A loving family brings us joy; a hateful family brings us sadness. Love, hate, hatred, everyone wants to have love and affection.
Everyone’s love and affection require us to continue to practice in our daily lives. May each of us have complete inner security.
