As soon as I entered the classroom, I found that Qiqi had not come yet. Just when I was about to notify my parents, I heard Qiqi's voice. I saw my mother pulling Qiqi's hand hard and walking in front, while Qiqi followed with tears in her eyes.
Why are you always late?
"Qiqi, stop crying. Look, everyone is waiting for you!" With that said, I arranged for Qiqi to enter the classroom. After the child left, I asked why. Qiqi’s mother said that she had to urge her several times every morning before Qiqi got up. "I wish I could bring breakfast to her in bed!" Qiqi's mother said angrily.
While comforting her, I said half-jokingly: "It's because you take care of too much that the child is not worried!" Qiqi's mother looked at me doubtfully. Looking into her eyes, I realized I had found a solution.
The use of a table
For first-year students, it is very important to develop the habit of self-care and self-reliance. After school, Qiqi’s mother, Qiqi and I sat together and discussed what Qiqi had to do and what mom had to do from getting up in the morning to going to school. Qiqi was very curious and happy, and said, "It's my business to wear clothes. I can do it. I hope my mother will let me choose my own clothes." Her mother said that sometimes she was afraid that Qiqi would catch a cold, so she would choose the clothes and give them to her. After discussion, everyone reached a consensus: Qiqi will prepare the clothes she wants to wear, and her mother will help Qiqi put them on. The mother and daughter also completed a small form together. The contents of the form include: 7:00-7:10 to get up and get dressed, Qiqi chooses clothes; 7:10-7:20 to wash up, Qiqi completes independently; 7:20-7:40 to eat breakfast, mother prepares breakfast, Qiqi eats on her own; 7:50 to prepare to leave for school. After completing each task, Qiqi would mark it.
After a few days of adaptation, my mother and Qiqi used the power of tables to achieve their goal - to be able to enter the class on time. Qiqi told me happily: "Mom finally stopped urging me to do this and that, and the world has become quiet."
It is important to establish awareness
In the process of children's growth, parents are the supporters and need to encourage and help their children to adapt to collective life and social life; at the same time, parents are also role models for their children. To develop good habits in children, parents need to set an example.
First of all, parents should change their consciousness, appropriately "delegate power", create opportunities and atmosphere for their children to make independent choices, and help them learn to do their own things; secondly, parents should cultivate their children's spirit of responsibility. When the consequences of not getting up and being late for school are borne by the child, he will understand that it is his own business to get up on time and not be late for school, and he must be responsible. Finally, parents must persist with their children and develop good habits through persistence every day.
(Editor: Ge Hongxue)
