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The nine sons of dragons are all different, not to mention the different children of different families?
It is not difficult to see that some children have good emotional intelligence, are firm and confident, and have a stronger ability to deal with setbacks; while some children are prone to losing control of their emotions, losing tempers, indulging in games, and being unable to extricate themselves; and other children are habitually procrastinating and unable to manage themselves...
The reason for these differences lies in "self-control."
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In fact, each of us will have these two thoughts:
Part of it is called "primitive reaction", which is responsible for people's most primitive instinctive reactions. For example, when you see something delicious, you want to eat hard, when you see something fun, you want to play. This is a kind of instant gratification. There is also a part of
called "reason", which can help us analyze problems rationally, suppress primitive impulses, and allow us to do things with a plan and purpose. This is self-control.
Self-control largely determines whether a person can achieve success in a certain field.
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In comparison, children's self-control is relatively weak.
This is because the child lives in the present. If the current things make him feel happy, he will continue this behavior. For example, when a child feels comfortable playing on the computer, he will continue to play for a long time without feeling tired.
Therefore, parents need to be able to observe clearly and give their children extra help in a timely manner, so as to cultivate their self-control.
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1, prone to poor mood
When children encounter frustration and sadness, their most direct reaction is to lose their temper, yell and other methods to express their emotions.
Parents should promptly help their children learn how to calmly view irrational thoughts in their minds and seek effective communication to solve problems.
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2, habitual dilly-dallying
Habitual dilly-dallying, especially when children are doing homework, often makes parents lose all patience, and even ends up in a state of panic.
In fact, learning to manage one's own homework tasks is a very critical behavior for children at the moment. It is also a critical period to protect and develop children's "sense of diligence." Many times, children are particularly lazy because they have not developed good homework behavior habits.
Instead of ineffective urging, or simply letting things go, it is better for parents to learn to guide their children and let them learn to organize their time and reasonably arrange the completion time of homework.
ultimately allows children to independently set their own academic goals and ensure that the goals can be effectively completed. These successful experiences will give children self-confidence, and self-confidence will increase children's motivation to learn, thus forming a virtuous cycle.
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3, different personalities
Some children are extroverted, some are introverted; some children are extroverted at home, but introverted after going out...
Regardless of the child's personality, parents should not use words with strong emotions to summarize their children's personality and predict the future. Because no matter what kind of personality children have, they can become successful in the future.
Parents can help introverted children learn to express themselves correctly; they can also help overly extroverted and lively children stay quiet at certain times; they should not let introverted children develop low self-esteem, and do not let extroverted children develop arrogance.
Every child is different, it’s just that the time to enter the state is long or short, just like everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses; either they can use their strengths and avoid weaknesses;
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4, loneliness and indifference
Children are social "animals". No one is born alone. The older they grow, the more they crave friendship and partners. However, they suffer from a lack of communication skills and may show apathy and loneliness that are opposite to their inner world.
In fact, in school and in a collective environment, if a child has poor academic performance, he will not be tired of studying, but if the child is always alone and excluded, he will want to escape from the current environment.
Therefore, parents should pay attention to their children's circle of friends, properly guide their children to make friends, have good interpersonal relationships, and get along harmoniously with teachers and classmates.
At the same time, parents must also teach their children how to communicate effectively, make choices when facing rejection, the meaning of sharing, how to achieve a win-win situation, how to deal with ridicule, how to stand up for oneself, etc.
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Parents use these aspects to help their children adjust their self-control, learn to change and stabilize their emotions; have clear goals; be able to show their style anytime and anywhere, neither humble nor arrogant; and have certain skills and methods of interacting with others, and know how to achieve a win-win situation without losing themselves. Children like
have a promising future!
