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Recently, a woman in Guangdong angrily threw milk into a hot search. Seeing the broken milk overflowing in the room, this scene revealed the sadness of many full-time mothers.
The thing is like this: the woman is a full-time mother who takes care of her children at home.
that day she bought some milk for her child, which was a normal day, but after her husband came home from get off work, he couldn't help but say a few words: "Don't buy such expensive milk in the future."
's words touched the woman's sensitive nerves and said in a crash: "Your son wants to drink."
didn't seem to vent his emotions after saying that, and threw all the milk he just bought, and threw the room. After falling, he knelt on the ground and lay down beside the bed and cried loudly.
What is wrong with her? She worked hard to take care of her children and saved money to buy milk for her children, but her husband criticized her.
takes care of the children full-time, works all year round, is in a state of reversal day and night, and always takes a charge at any time. The child wants to coax him when he cries, he wants to feed him when he is hungry, and he wants to clean up when he is pulled. But full-time mothers are always accused of being idle, being raised by their husbands, and living a life of uprightness.
netizens began to comment: "It's not that she doesn't have a job, she just doesn't have a salary, let's understand each other!"
But is her husband wrong again? He is the only one at home at work, and he is under pressure from car loans and mortgage loans every month. The economic environment is unsatisfactory, and the family's economic situation is getting more and more stressful.
"Milk is just a fuse, and this man is already overwhelmed by life."
In fact, for women, seemingly trivial matters have become the last straw that breaks the camel's back. The pressure for many days may burst with this sentence.
From the woman's dress and the decorations in the house, the woman didn't spend much money.
truly responds to the sentence "Poverty and humble couples are sad for everything."
What she threw was not milk, but the mess of life.
If a woman is not a full-time mother and holds financial power, she may not have collapsed because of an ordinary box of milk. Just like the saying in " Parasite " says: Money is an iron, which can iron everything.
As a husband and wife, you can only understand each other and communicate well. In this not-so-good situation, work together and believe that only by experiencing the vortex of life can you persevere until the moment when the future is dark.
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After this story, I thought of the former internet celebrity dad Xiaoqiang, who ended up with divorce when he was taking care of his child for one year and three months.
His wife is the general manager of a company. There is no elderly person at home to help take care of the children, and there are always people who have to take care of the children. He chose a full-time daddy.
Only when I was very excited at the beginning to actually raising my child was aware of the hardships of raising my child.
The dad has to get up at five o'clock in the morning to prepare everyone's breakfast, take care of the baby at noon and cook at night. Not only do you have to be responsible for the housework in your daily life, but you also have to stay up late to take care of your children when they are sick, so busy that they are blurred and tired that they are deformed. After a full-time job for a year, I was no longer as full-time as ever. Instead, I was not as immense as before because of irregular life, lack of sleep, gaining weight, deep eyes, and my hair began to fall off.
not only changes in appearance, but also undergoes great changes in psychology.
Once, Xiaoqiang was really bored and took his child to visit his wife. He couldn't hide his loss along the way:
"I wonder if anyone wants it when I go to work in the future?"
Finally, he said this: ""The trivial life of food, food, oil and salt has been constantly eroding life, and the relationships over the years have been constantly impacted and left a mess. ”
ended with divorce.
Those who take care of children, both parents, are very hard. No matter which party is a full-time parent, they should receive the respect they deserve, so that such a family can transition smoothly.
A good marriage relationship is based on mutual respect.When men say they have worked hard, women understand. When women say it is not easy, men understand that only by advancing and retreating together can we maintain a happy family.
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Every full-time mother will face all kinds of sadness. Many full-time mothers have good jobs and income before becoming full-time mothers, but for the sake of their family, they have to give up their careers for their own homes and children and become full-time mothers.
's social circle has become smaller and smaller after becoming a full-time mother.
Once, Many mothers often went shopping with their best friends and chatted and laughed. However, after becoming full-time mothers, they had no time to go shopping, rarely gatherings, and went further and further away from their best friends.
Full-time mothers are prone to anxiety and lack of confidence.
is like dad Xiaoqiang. Not only does his appearance change, but his mental anxiety will also be mentally anxious.
Due to insufficient sleep and irregular diet, mothers have dark circles and their figure slowly deviated. They have lunch breaks 24 hours a day, and they don’t even care much about their external image. Just like the one I used to be, I was so unkempt. Some people would say, why don’t you dress up? I really don’t have time, I’m really tired.
I believe that not all full-time mothers will want to be mothers all their lives and will want to return to the workplace at the right time. However, in the past few years of full-time, 's business capabilities have begun to become unfamiliar, and the market competition pressure is also high. It is difficult to find a suitable job when you enter the workplace again.
The most important thing is that it is not economical and insecure.
wants to share the financial pressure at home, but the left hand is the child's shit, pee, and the right hand wants to take care of the whole family's diet and daily life. The clone is exhausted and powerless.
For many stay-at-home mothers, it is often difficult but thankless. Some people always think that they will feel relaxed without workplace pressure; but in fact, they have no income and can only rely on their husbands to live. The feeling of relying on others is really something that can only be experienced by individuals.
is like this mother in Guangzhou. She is exhausted from having a child and doing housework. Her husband still occasionally shows an impatient look: "Why do you always spend so quickly? Do you know how difficult it is to make money outside?"
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Please give your family more understanding and care to your full-time mothers. If is OK, don’t be a full-time mother. It’s better to rely on yourself than to rely on others. ’s economic foundation determines the superstructure of . Being rich is the greatest confidence. Money is not omnipotent, but the food and food in marriage cannot be separated from it, but it determines the happiness of the family.
It is not easy for men, and even more difficult for women. Marriage is not a matter of one person, but a matter of two people for a lifetime. Understand each other and do what you can.
The best marriage must be needed and achieved by each other.
encourages you together!
