The most selfless love in the world is probably the feelings of parents for their children . If you love deeply, you will make plans for the long term. As parents, you hope that your children will live a safe and smooth life, and it will be fine if you suffer some hardship. Especially as the daughter of a little cotton jacket, mothers are worried that their children will suffer from grievances at their in-laws' house. When their child is pregnant for ten months and is promoted to a mother, most of them are afraid that their daughter will not have any experience in becoming a mother for the first time, so they will rush to her to help take care of her.
An old man told the truth: "No matter how much he feels sorry, don't help his daughter take care of her children", which resonated with many elderly people
But some parents do not think so. A mother rushed to her daughter's house alone because her in-laws' family was unwilling to come to take care of her. But I never thought that when I left, my daughter still had a lot of opinions. When she got home, she told her relatives that even if she felt sorry for her children, she should not help take care of her children. is an obvious example.
The mother said that her youngest daughter stayed in the city to work after graduation, and also met her partner during the work process. The two got married and had children soon, which was a good thing. But I never thought that after the child was born, the man's parents used the excuse that they were too far away from the couple's residence and were unwilling to come to take care of the child.
The little daughter thought about it and only the mother of her mother was the most suitable candidate. Considering the little girl's situation, the mother settled everything at home and left for the city where her daughter was. At first she decided to come back when the child was one year old. When she first arrived at her daughter's house, the family of four could still get along well. After the son-in-law comes home from get off work, he will also help him work together at home, and he doesn't feel how hard and tired he is.
After her youngest daughter returned to work after she was confinement, she even directly contracted the daily life of taking care of her grandson . Sometimes I would help my daughter and son-in-law clean up the house, prepare food, wait for the couple to come back . Over time, these jobs seemed to have become what her elder should do. She was busy all day like a nanny at home, which was not the retirement life she thought. Faced with her mother's complaints, the younger daughter seemed to realize that it was inappropriate and promised to help her more in the future.
It was originally planned that the child would leave by himself when he was one year old, but unexpectedly, Until the child was two years old, the in-laws' family still did not come to their daughter's house to help take care of the child . You should know that I promised my family that I had only been here for one year, but now two years are almost over, and my in-laws still have no intention of coming here. Although she didn't want to continue taking care of her children, if she just left and her daughter could not take good care of her children, she had to continue to delay her time home.
The accident was caused by . In the following days, the old mother felt that there seemed to be something wrong with the relationship between her daughter and her son-in-law. Son-in-law often comes home late , The daughter's mind is not on her grandson . In the end, the two of them no longer care about their children's lives. Sometimes I would persuade me kindly, but I didn’t expect that when the couple quarreled, they would even point the finger at themselves . The old mother suddenly felt very wronged. She took her pension and retirement time and traveled thousands of miles to help her daughter take care of her children, but in the end she was criticized by the young man.
After her grandson went to kindergarten, she immediately packed up and returned to her hometown, ending her three years of hellish life. I thought I could start to enjoy my retirement days, but I never thought that my youngest daughter was not only unhappy for her hard work over the past three years, but she was still complaining about herself, which made the old mother feel very disappointed.
She still couldn't understand why she kindly helped take care of the baby, but she still wanted to complain? In fact, the starting point of this mother helping her daughter take care of her children is good, but her approach is also a certain mistake. Since the daughter has given birth to a child, she should assume the responsibility of a mother . It is normal for a new mother to not understand many things. As a mother who has experienced it, she can help and guide her, but she must not let her daughter entrust all the responsibility of raising her children to herself.
The mother understood the hard work of her daughter and son-in-law. She did it herself, whether she was taking care of the children or doing housework at home, and she almost never let her daughter and son-in-law interfere. This also makes the two young people have no idea how hard it is to take care of such a young child. Instead, they feel that the elderly are not doing some things carefully and are complained about by them.
After all, for three years, The daughter and son-in-law were both beneficiaries of the family , and the only one who worked hard was the old mother. Even they are used to the efforts of their old mothers , and they are used to eating hot meals when they get home every day, and they don’t have to worry about the housework at home, and some children will be comforted. When it is really the day when you are exhausted and want to rest, the beneficiaries will naturally be unhappy.
So what this old mother said makes sense. Not helping to take care of the child is of course the most correct choice . After all, they are the parents of the children. How to raise a child should let them learn by themselves. After the children get married, their responsibilities are different from that. Everything in the family should be left to them to take care of themselves, so that they can bear the responsibilities they deserve in a family.
Conclusion: Excessive feelings for children will only make them more dependent on themselves . Only by letting them feel the difficulty of life can they understand their hard work. Otherwise, they will never grow up and will only continue to exploit the elderly, feeling that there will be elderly people behind them to help take care of their families. Over time, short-term dependence has become a long-term habit.
