Parents’ love for their children is the most selfless, but parents tend to ignore the fact that ways are more important than love.
Love is an instinctive behavior of human beings, but the correct way of education is a skill cultivated after birth. Everyone has the right to love, but not everyone can control the right to love.
Excessive love is harmful, and excessive indulgence is also harmful. Children are not appendixes to parents, but a complete person. Parents and children should be equal.
A qualified parent must do this: try to restrain their love and respect their children as one person.
Recently, a picture of a mother holding a baby in one hand attracted attention in a certain place in Anhui.
A woman was walking on the street, holding the child's collar with one hand and swaying on the other side of her body. The child was very obedient and did not cry throughout the whole process. He kept swaying with his mother's steps, as if he was quite enjoying this moment.
The woman smiled while walking, and from a distance she looked like a silly wife who had just returned home from the vegetable market with vegetables. The woman is the child's mother. The one who took this set of pictures was her husband. They obviously didn't think there was anything wrong with this scene.
From the background of the picture, we can know that the couple lives in a rural area in Anhui. There are many villagers on the street. From the eyes of the villagers, we can know that the couple is "different" in the eyes of the locals, and in the words of the locals, it is called "Liuyezi".
"Liuyezi" is a dialect in Anhui. It is commonly understood as a naive young man. He does not think about things before doing things, and his behavior pattern is different from that of normal people. He is stupid and stupid.
It can be imagined that since the couple made these scenes public, it means that they do not think it is inappropriate to do so; it can also be imagined that they must have done more similar behaviors on weekdays, and if there is no accident, it will be too late to regret it once something happens. For example, if the mother accidentally drops the child to the ground, the fracture of the arms, legs and feet is light, and once the head is bumped, it cannot be repaired, leaving lifelong regrets.
Most netizens do not recognize their behavior, and no one doubts their love for their children, but they just don’t like the custom of raising children like raising pets. But after all, it is someone else's family matter, so it is hard to say too much. I can only pray that this child will grow up as soon as possible, study hard, and go out of the countryside.
Inadvertent behavior details can best reflect a person's deep thinking. From the behavioral pattern of this couple, we can draw a conclusion that they do not have a sense of awe of life, and having children is just a choice driven by instinct, and they do not understand the meaning of love.
Their response just confirms this.
The father said that the child is biological and they love their children very much. They accidentally took a video, but they didn't expect it to attract such great attention. I hope that it won't be misunderstood and not criticize them anymore...
This time the mother did not carry the child, but held the child in her arms. The child was very lively and cute, and the parents' condition was quite normal. In other words, they do not intentionally abuse their children. Doing so is completely subconscious and naturally finds it fun and interesting, so they do it.
This just confirms the statement of "Liuyezi". Like most parents, they are very fond of their children, but sometimes their brains will be short-circuited, and their brains can only carry what is happening and they do not have the ability to think about what may happen in the future. Such people will naturally not consider the cost of doing things, and do whatever they want.
Liuyezi is a product of lack of education. Each village has several similar characters. They live a life that is no different from ordinary people. At first glance, there is no strangeness. Only when the villagers who have been in contact with them for a long time can they feel the differences from them.
The above mentioned "get out of the countryside" does not mean that young people must escape from the countryside, but a metaphor.Thousands of years of farming culture have left behind many ignorant traditions. The long-term lack of material resources has made the entire nation generally lack basic education, so that we have not yet truly formed an understanding of illusory concepts such as "love, respect, and spirit".
In many things, it cannot be solved by the poor becoming rich. For example, some people seem to be rich, give their children the best material things, let their children go to the best schools, and let their children contact the best people. When such children grow up, they will inevitably become rich and unkind people.
As the case for children from rich families, let alone children from poor families. Material scarcity has made them never gain the dignity of living. Once they have the ability to control wealth, they will make up for the shortcomings of their childhood without restraint.
Pull the topic back to parents. As parents, they must take a long-term view: At a time when the overall material is already full, they must realize that the mental health of children is equally important, or even more important, so that they can learn to think independently, learn to respect life and death, and learn to love others and all things in the right way. To do this, parents must lead by example.
