What is the experience of having a slow-moving child? Many parents may say that they are about to be "crazy".
Early morning is the beginning of a beautiful day, with all things rising to the sun and full of vitality. However, on this warm morning, Lao Zhang was about to collapse. Lao Zhang's child is now in elementary school, so the child has to get up early to go to school in the morning.
However, no matter what Lao Zhang called, the child was like sticking to the bed, and he couldn't get up no matter what.
At the beginning, Lao Zhang woke up the sleepy child and prepared to get up, and the child also said "um". After that, Lao Zhang went to make breakfast.
Ten minutes passed, and Lao Zhang's breakfast was almost ready. Taking advantage of the hot milk, Lao Zhang came to the child's bedroom and took a look. The child actually fell asleep again. So Lao Zhang called the child a few more times and told the child to get up immediately, and the child agreed. So Lao Zhang returned to the kitchen to cook.
After a while, the meal was ready, Lao Zhang brought the food to the dining table, but the child did not come out to eat. He went to the child's bedroom and found that the child had not yet got up. So Lao Zhang turned on the light and opened the curtains, hoping to get the child up with light stimulation. As a result, the child covered his head and fell asleep.
Now Lao Zhang was so angry that he took off the quilt when he went up. Only then did the child reluctantly start wearing clothes. Seeing that the child was wearing clothes, Lao Zhang went out to work on something else.
However, the child still didn't come out after a while. When Lao Zhang entered the door, he saw that the child was actually wearing clothes and retracted into the quilt. Now Lao Zhang was anxious and took the child up and watched the child wear clothes without blinking. Then the child put on the clothes and got up.
However, do you think the child will enter the state after getting up? No, after the child got up, he went to the sofa in the living room to lie down. It was not until Lao Zhang asked the child to wash, and the child slowly washed his face and brushed his teeth. Then he slowly ate, and he would be hysterical after eating for a while, and Lao Zhang was almost angry on the side.
Many parents actually have the same experience as Lao Zhang. What are the methods to eradicate this method?
Lin Gong Mom: No good solution has been found yet. When my child is procrastinating, I often urge the child. Later, I verbally trained the child, but none of them have achieved any results. The child should procrastinate and procrastinate, and it seems that there is no way to change it.
Ajin's father: If my child is slow, I will beat him up. I don't believe this kid can still be slow. However, although this method was effective at the time, it still could not eradicate the child's procrastination.
Xiao Jimi: The child is procrastinating, and I am more procrastinating than the child to see who can stick to the end.
Different parents have their own different ways to deal with their children's procrastination. Among them, some of them are completely invalid, some are slightly effective, some are temporarily effective, and some are not only invalid, but also aggravate their children's procrastination.
So, what exactly can eradicate the child's procrastination problem? Before this, we need to know the reasons why children procrastinate to solve this problem better.
There are most likely reasons why children like to procrastinate and procrastinate. Let’s see if they are hit?
Children are slow to do things, which is largely directly related to parents:
) Parents spoil their children too much
If parents spoil their children very much, the child's own self-care ability will be very poor, and the child's thinking will also become lazy, and the whole child will often be in a negative state. Such children are naturally inefficient when doing things, and like to procrastinate and procrastinate in everything they do.
) Parents set bad examples for their children
If parents have bad behavioral habits and have many procrastination problems, then the children will be affected by the parents and become very procrastinated.
For example, if parents are slow to get up in the morning, their children will develop a slow habit with their parents.
) Children are under too much pressure and lack of ability
Sometimes, if parents or others put too much pressure on their children, the child will also procrastinate due to insufficient abilities, lack of energy, lack of interest, etc.
For example, if a child is procrastinated in doing homework, it may be caused by the pressure of learning and the child has lost interest.
Children are procrastinating and beating and scolding doesn’t work. Use these 5 tricks well to make the children “diligent”
① Improve the children’s concept of time
Children’s concept of time is relatively weak, so parents should pay attention to helping their children establish a stronger concept of time, so that children can plan their time reasonably, understand that procrastination is just consuming time and cannot change certain established facts.
For example, if you take your child out to play, it is too late for the child to procrastinate. Don’t say, “Hurry up! We have to set off quickly, it is too late”, but say, “I hope to reach the destination in 20 minutes, it takes 10 minutes along the way, and it is time to go out now”
②Improve the child’s value awareness
Children procrastinate and procrastinate, which means that the child’s value awareness is not clear enough. Let the child understand the benefits of efficient work, so that the child understands greater value and results that are more beneficial to himself.
For example, if a child does his homework very slowly, you will close your eyes and praise the child, "I write very well today, and I write very quickly, and I will do better next time." Praise the child more, and gradually, the child will feel that it is more beneficial to do things efficiently.
③Teaten children how to improve efficiency
Sometimes children procrastinate because they really don’t know how to do it to be efficient. For example, if children cannot find the right learning method when learning, they will definitely be slow to learn. Therefore, parents can teach their children some ways to improve efficiency, thereby reducing the child's procrastination.
For example, parents can set a time to allow their children to complete a homework within the specified time, so that their children can feel the results and improve efficiency.
④ Let the child bear the consequences of being procrastinated
Children are procrastinated, and parents can "go with the flow" and let the child taste the bad fruits of being procrastinated. For example, if the child does not get up in the morning, then parents will let the child taste the bad fruits of being late and let the child experience the disadvantages of being procrastinated, so that the child will take the initiative to get rid of such problems.
⑤ Encourage children more and let them maintain a positive attitude
Children are procrastinating. No matter what the reason is, the common point is that children have no motivation. Therefore, parents should encourage their children more in daily life and keep their children motivated when doing things, so that their children will improve their efficiency and avoid delaying.
written at the end
Children's delay is mostly because of parents, so it is useless for parents to beat and scold their children when their children are delaying. Only by mastering the correct method can children gradually get rid of their delaying problems.
Of course, parents, as the person who has been in contact with the longest time in their children, also serve as role models for their children. First of all, they must not procrastinate, so that their children will not procrastinate.
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