What is vanity?
Vision is a psychological state of human beings and a character flaw in pursuing false appearances. Whether it is men, women, young or old, rich or poor, noble or humble, they may have vanity. In fact, vanity is an excessive distortion of self-esteem and an excessive manifestation of self-esteem.
When a person's need to be respected does not match reality, he will use the superficial or other people's glory to make up for his inner and substantial shortcomings in order to win the attention and respect of others and achieve the satisfaction of self-esteem. This is the most fundamental source of vanity.
As innocent as a child, he will also develop vanity. The more you buy toys, the more expensive your children are, the more high-end your clothes are, the more you buy them, the more you want to compare, are all manifestations of vanity.
Why do children develop vanity?
1. Children are young, have poor cognitive level, discrimination ability, and control ability. They cannot correctly and objectively evaluate themselves and things around them, so they are prone to comparative psychology. This is a common phenomenon in the development of children's self-consciousness.
2. Influenced by parents' thoughts and values, if parents pursue material enjoyment in their daily lives, or often judge the quality and disadvantages of things in their lives, then children will easily form a comparison mentality and desire high-end and expensive materials.
3. Children in kindergarten and study are equivalent to entering a small society. In a collective environment, children will involuntarily compare with their peers, such as who is more beautiful, richer, better grades, etc.
4. Parents have too little companionship and children lack a sense of security, so they like to compare with their classmates materially, which is also a reflection of their children's desire to attract attention.
What should parents do?
1. Set an example. Parents are a mirror for their children. Parents’ daily words and deeds will have a subtle influence on their children. Therefore, parents must first correct their mentality and face themselves, and do not pursue famous brands, material enjoyment, or comparison. They should not keep their words of comparing and pursuing new things on their mouths.
2. Cultivate children's concept of rational consumption. Children should be taught to choose clothes and items that are cost-effective and comfortable from an early age, rather than blindly pursuing the most expensive and best, so that children can learn to compare prices.
3. Strengthen children’s concept of financial management. First, children are required to use pocket money in a planned manner. Second, children can experience the hard work of making money. They can lead their children to experience the labor of setting up stalls and distributing leaflets, so that children can know how difficult it is to make money in work.
4. Say "no" firmly about unreasonable demands from children. When children make unreasonable or cheat, they must buy something, some parents will compromise to avoid embarrassment, which will lead to their children becoming more willful, stubborn and comparative. (If you really feel embarrassed, you can buy items temporarily and educate your children in time after you go home. If you have suitable opportunities for items, such as birthdays or children perform well, then give them to them.)
