Some time ago, two children had a conflict in kindergarten. The parents of the injured child came to educate the child. Before the child was educated, they actually lost control of their emotions and beat the child down and pushed down the old man.
During this period, he said, "I'm sorry, I can't help it!" He could not calmly control his emotions in other people's homes. The consequence of impulsiveness and loss of reason was that he was detained.
This incident has made people realize the importance of emotional management, endure the calm and calm for a while, take a step back and the vast sky. Only when people are tolerant can they seek common ground while reserving differences.
But as an individual, everyone's emotions will be good and bad, Sometimes adults still find it difficult to control their emotions, let alone children.
Sometimes, a trivial thing that in the eyes of adults will cause a strong emotional reaction to the child, and may cry, fall to the ground, roll on the ground, throw things, etc.
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In the community park, Dazhuo and his sister were playing on the slide. After a while, a few older children came and began to play a chase game similar to the police catching thieves on the slide.
Dazhuo couldn't play there, so he said, "They were so noisy that they couldn't play."
Mom quickly made him speak a little lower, which could express dissatisfaction, but the power was huge, so it would be better not to mess with their older children.
Dazhuo was so angry that he said, "The volcano erupted, and it flooded them all."
Mom had to comfort him. The older child would leave in a while and asked him to play with something else first, or go home.
He said again, "I don't want to go home, sell our house!"
Mother asked him, do you want to say, I don't want to go home, I want to play for a while.
He said, "I want to sleep here!" Mom joked, Then sleep here, just like camping, it's good.
, and Dazhuo laughed when he heard his mother say this.
Daddy said that in the case of
, my mother’s approach is worthy of recognition!
. Regarding Dazhuo's bad emotions, the mother always kept a calm attitude to comfort the child. continued to use humorous and witty language to deal with Dazhuo's bad emotions, and finally resolved the child's bad emotions.
The child's emotions change relatively quickly. When he gets angry and loses his temper, parents cannot be emotional. is even worse than the child's temper and cannot control his beating and scolding the child. This will only intensify the situation.
Parents should think about problems from the perspective of their children, patiently guide their children to calm down according to actual conditions, and strive to avoid other problems caused by emotional out of control.
We can imagine that if the mother in the case is playing with the slide and Dazhuo cannot play, but the child is angry, but still asks him to go up and argue with the eldest child, it may cause other conflicts and Dazhuo's emotions will further deteriorate.
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In fact, the reason why children get angry and lose their temper is nothing more than encountering things that make them unhappy, but they don’t know how to express their emotions. Many children attract parents’ attention by losing their temper.
At this time, parents use yelling to educate their children, which may temporarily calm the children, but the negative impact will be immeasurable in the future.
Therefore, we recommend that parents do this when their children get angry and lose their temper.
First, unconditionally accept children's bad emotions
Adults still find it difficult to control their emotions, let alone children? Only by accepting children's emotions can we understand their inner feelings from the perspective of the child, empathize with them, and better guide the transformation of children's emotions.
Second, guide children to vent bad emotions
Children's emotions are often the most real, just like in June, which changes at any time. Their joys, anger, sorrow, and happiness are true and direct expressions in their hearts. If there are bad emotions, parents should give their children time to vent, and once they vent, they will calm down. At this time, parents can analyze for it what to do if they encounter such a situation next time.
Third, try to do other things and divert emotions
If the child’s emotions are difficult to calm down, parents might as well change their thinking and divert their children’s attention or seek help from some people around them.
In fact, in reality, children's attention is easily attracted by new things or events that occur. Therefore, when encountering difficult children, parents can divert their attention and divert their emotions.
